Couples & Tantra
These days it seems that opposite sex couples are more likely than ever to participate in Tantric group workshops or book massages together.
While the vast majority of my visitors are male (I never ask or assume any particular sexual orientation) with a strong desire to enjoy massage and develop Tantric sensual and sexual elements to their lives, it’s also been interesting to discover what brings couples along.
I thought it would be interesting, here, to share the reasons for couples visiting, preferences and circumstances, when they’ve been given to me.
In no particular order of recall:
I’ve often received calls from couples who are looking to celebrate a partner’s birthday, anniversary or some other significant event.
In booking the time I ask for both people to be on the line to ensure that we’re all on the ‘same page’ etc. That this is a visit for a Tantric massage/experience and to establish comfort levels, expectations etc.
In these instances the goal has often been to make a present of a sensual and relaxing massage. It’s been that simple. The intent has been to enable the experience and fun of receiving a 4 Hands massage.
Then there have been those who have been researching and practicing some Tantric ritual and massage themselves and have decided to take things a little further.
In these instances we’ve worked as if it were a mini Tantric workshop, demonstrating how to enhance sensitivity, heighten awareness and progress Tantric ideas.
If these are categories of purpose then a third category would be those who mutually wish to enhance their sexual activity but somehow find that they aren’t ‘connecting’ often enough. I’ve been visited by couples who have been attending counseling and by those who haven’t sought professional help.
The turn to Tantric practice and massage has been to move beyond talk to more of a practical and hands-on experience.
While Tantric practice makes no claim to scientific or licensed professional equivalency, there is much value in choosing and incorporating hands-on experience where the comfort level allows.
Sometimes there has simply been a lack of understanding by each partner about how to meet the other’s expectations. Tantric practice and massage is an ideal way to demonstrate and practice, in a friendly, non threatening way, how the preferences of either partner can be met. And then practice makes perfect.
A fourth category has been people who are sensually exploring and wish to share their experiences.
While such couples have the choice to share their experiences with a female practitioner, and often do, there have been many instances where the preference has been for a male.
While Tantra seeks to be gender neutral, and most ideas and objectives are properly common to both sexes, there are obviously differences in techniques when moving males or females into the states of heightened awareness. Shared Tantric practice recognizes this and can contribute positively to the experiences.
There have also been couples where the male enjoys the attention of a male to male massage and the female partner enjoys seeing her partner enjoying this attention. Sometimes, I’ve been told, it’s perceived by the female as less ‘stressful’ than watching her partner being attended by another female.
There are all sorts of nuances and variations to these categories, of course, including objectives of voyeurism and exhibitionism.
In Tantra, so long as the intentions are clear and consensual, Tantric practice offers much to a couple – same or opposite sex – in maintaining the strength and excitement of the relationship.
So, if you read this as 50% of a couple and have always wondered whether shared time works in Tantra and Tantric massage, feel most welcome and comfortable to call and talk about the possibilities. You’ll be in good company.
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