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In truth it is likely that there are as many definitions and answers as there are practitioners. Still, it’s a fair question.
Definitions and descriptions of massage ‘techniques’ e.g. Swedish, Lomi Lomi, Thai, Reiki etc. can easily be researched and described definitively but defining ‘relaxing’ in massage is more subjective.
Any relaxing massage experience is hopefully designed to be a pleasant experience, but what of the question defining the descriptions of full body – relaxing – erotic – Tantric. Isn’t it all the same?
Happily it is normal to experience a relaxing massage as an erotic experience even if it’s not ‘full body’. Simple touch, in the right circumstance can be incredibly and surprisingly erotic. Certainly a ‘full body’ relaxing massage, is likely to result in an erotic experience.
Tantric massage sessions tend to be longer than simple full body relaxation massage. Perhaps Tantric massage is best defined as a shared journey, where natural energy and reactions are mutually enjoyed by both receiver and giver.
There is always a ‘safe landing’ and the effects of the experience can last for many days afterwards.
In Tantric massage the experience is always about the journey without undue focus on the destination. Relaxation massage, erotic massage, full body massage, therapeutic massage, Tantric massage, combinations of all – it’s all good.
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Tantric practice encourages the idea of an ‘experience’ rather than a ‘session’, whether or not the time is in massage, ritual, discovery or any combination of Tantric practice.
Such experience is timeless – in that the experience tends to find its own unique pace and is not necessarily divided into hourly segments.
For this reason ‘clock watching’ is not part of Tantric experience. The idea is to provide an experience to relax the mind and body and thereby raise physical consciousness and heighten awareness. How this develops in any individual will be unique to the moment and certainly the benefit can be defeated by watching the clock too closely. That’s not to say that time constraints are not a reality to be respected at times. Just that experiences, short or long, need not necessarily be measured by the clock.
If Tantric practice requires anything from followers, those requirements, at least, are an open and curious mind and a generosity of spirit. So we always approach experiential time with generosity not measured by hours and minutes.
Sometimes the experience will last long – other times it maybe shorter. Always, though, it will be a unique experience – never a ‘timed session’. We don’t always have to make the massage ‘run on time’!
These labels are often simply flimsy figments of imagination, ready to be blown away with a puff of positive energy.
Often, potential peace of mind is denied by imagining and internalizing a self identity – a label that seems to fit in a personal universe.
But are the labels really useful and a best fit? If there are too many mismatches it can be uncomfortable to exist in the world. Since it’s more difficult to change the world than it is to change a few psychic assumptions, Tantric practice works on taking thoughts to more productive and happier places – and so to greater peace of mind.
Tantra deals with personal energy and life forces. Conscious energy and involuntary energy.
The strongest of these energies is sexual energy and the labeling of sexual preferences, fantasies and thoughts often creates much confusion.
Thoughts and fantasies can change, recur, renew etc., as time passes. Self images are created as a fit with what exists in any personal daily universe. The image is purposefully self created but does not always mesh with other involuntary thoughts and fantasies.
What to do? The excluded thoughts and images just don’t go away. It’s not that those thoughts and fantasies are dangerous, unlawful or harmful to self or others. It’s just that they don’t match the self image. So, quite often the thoughts and energies are buried in the back of the mind. But they don’t cease to exist.
Such burials can be a waste of energy and can distract from a peaceful and productive existence.
Tantric practice and massage can help to resurrect and find a useful place for such buried energy. It can find a map to hidden treasures – the acceptance of self, and greater peace of mind.
Tantric practice is about the conscious and enjoyable control of the energies that inevitably play in the mind and body. Always the most powerful and fascinating of those energies is sexual energy. It is disabling to deny that fact and enabling to control and enjoy it.
The suppression and pigeonholing of thoughts can be paralyzing. Tantric practice offers the chance to safely explore thoughts and fantasies and to include them in real life. To make them fit with self image.
To erase some of the useless labels. To learn to enjoy some fantasies and find some happy places.
The following text, copied from an email that I received from a reader in London, suggested some new possibilities that I hadn’t previously considered. I replied to him to clarify some of the ideas he mentions.
His experiences have been so positive.
So, for past and regular visitors who would welcome some extra pre-massage time, conversation, food and anticipation, all these things can be part of any future visits.
Just mention preferences when arranging times etc. and we’ll plan a snack or light meal upon arrival. The food and refreshments are free and part of the experience – but do allow time to relax and enjoy.
Always feel welcome to call or email with any questions.
Your blog is always so interesting and I wish I could visit you but I’m far away posted by my company in England from France.
I did enjoy regular m/m massage before I became moved to London and then didn’t have many friends. To make a life I found a new friend who told me about a guy who give him often massage. I went to him and he was very good with the tantric massage style I like.
After some visits he told me that sometimes with his regular clients he invites another client who he knows can be compatible to make 4 hands massage and he invited me for this.
To make a relaxing time I was invited for such a visit. To make us relaxed he prepared a small meal in his place for us all to become familiar and comfortable. It was a very good time with food and later massage.
Now when I go for massage often there is a small meal before with sometimes another person and sometimes with my massage person alone. It is always superior time to relax before massage. We often undress for the meal and it is very special to be so open in this way. Also this food and time is not charged for so I am very happy always.
Naked dining is not unusual here and I wonder if this is something you provide. It seems such a good thing and perhaps similar to your own practices described in your blog.
Maybe one day I will be able to visit you. I hope you may reply to me.
The annual Seattle Erotic Arts Festival recently ended on a fantastically successful note.
Take a look at this safe link, the Director’s message of thanks and the photo pages. More than ever it’s important to continue to enjoy the erotic arts and the infinite opportunities to move the mind.
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