Couples & Tantra
Couples of all descriptions – opposite & same sex – are more likely than ever before to participate in Tantric group workshops or enjoy massages together.
Even ‘up-market’ commercial spa businesses encourage couples to visit and enjoy massage together – but it’s not exactly Tantric. There will be strict rules and limits!!
Tantric massage, however, offers an opportunity to escape some of the limits and rules and, more completely, enjoy sharing the energy of guided touch – together.
It is interesting to consider some of the reasons for couples to enjoy massage experiences together.
In no particular order:
Looking to celebrate a partner’s birthday, anniversary or some other significant event. Shared massage can be a great way to celebrate. The goal can be to make a present of a sensual and relaxing massage.
There are those who have been researching and practicing some Tantric ritual and massage themselves and have decided to take things a little further, as if it were a mini Tantric workshop, demonstrating how to enhance sensitivity, heighten awareness and progress Tantric ideas.
If these are categories of purpose then a third category would be those who mutually wish to enhance their personal activity but somehow find that they aren’t ‘connecting’ often enough.
The turn to Tantric practice and massage has been to move beyond talk to more of a practical and hands-on experience.
While Tantric practice makes no claim to scientific or licensed professional equivalency, there is much value in choosing and incorporating hands-on experience where the comfort level allows.
Sometimes couples seek an enhanced understanding of how to meet their partner’s expectations. Tantric practice and massage can demonstrate and practice, in a friendly, non threatening way, how the preferences of either partner can be met. And then practice makes perfect.
Other couples seek simply to explore, sensually, and wish to share their experiences.
Tantric practice is gender neutral, and most ideas and objectives are properly common to both sexes. Nonetheless there are obviously differences in techniques when moving males or females into the states of heightened awareness. Shared Tantric practice recognizes this and can contribute positively to individual experiences and energies.
There are all sorts of nuances and variations to these categories, of course, and Tantric practice seeks to enhance and enable those nuances.
In Tantra, so long as the intentions are clear and consensual, Tantric practice can offer much to any couple in maintaining the strength and excitement of the relationship.
So, if you read this as 50% of a couple and have always wondered how shared time works in Tantra and Tantric massage, feel most welcome and comfortable to call and talk about the possibilities. You’ll be in good company.
Colin
Tel: 250-984-7051 Email: co.lins@outlook.com
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Prostate Massage
Tantric massage can be one of the most long lasting and profoundly pleasurable experiences imaginable.
It’s an experience that can take the mind and body to new levels of heightened awareness. It’s one the most open forms of sensual consciousness that can be imagined.
Tantric massage can explore not only the external being but also the internal. Psychic as well as physical.
In a perfectly relaxed state, attention to the prostate gland can can help move the mind to enhanced levels of physical pleasure.
Although certainly not part of every massage experience, and then only ever approached and performed with clear prior understanding, prostate massage can open new vistas of experience.
In Tantric massage the erotic potential of the entire body can be stimulated and explored. There can be open discovery of what sensitivities are most pleasurably responsive to touch and attention.
Encouraging heightened physical and mental awareness through massage can enhance states of relaxation. Stress and suspicion can diminish and trust and openness replace fears and negative energy. Genital energy can begin to comfortably respond to careful touch and exploration around the anus – the zone so often neglected and uncelebrated and yet a region of enormous potential erotic pleasure.
Access to the prostate in this relaxed condition is easy and welcoming. Careful touch in this heightened state of sensual arousal can be felt throughout the entire body.
Reaching levels of relaxation that enable such experiences of physical and psychic pleasure are some of the most important experiences that Tantric massage can bring.
As always, it’s about the journey and not the destination, and prostate massage is not a destination. It can be a wonderful step along the way. Learning to enjoy the moment, and then again to move through the experience to new sensitivities, is a journey unique to Tantric and prostate massage. It’s a journey not to be rushed and to be taken many times.
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Email: co.lins@outlook.com
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Massage & Group Experiences
I received this email from a reader who has recently moved to the area.
He describes his Tantric and massage experiences and is continuing them now that he has moved.
His thoughts seem to express experiences and ideas that so many people have little opportunity to actualize. He did call me and has visited. I’m posting his email with his permission and with thanks to him for describing his journey so far.
Tantra is about safely sharing energy, and that energy can often be experienced, enhanced and enjoyed in small groups and intimate Tantric gatherings.
Colin
250-984-7051
From: xxxxxxxx@shaw.ca
To: co.lins@outlook.com
Hello Colin,
You don’t know me and I’ve been reading your blog for some time now.
I’ve recently moved to your area from Toronto and have been looking for something to replace the tantric massage classes and visits that have worked well for me before I moved and maybe you can help.
I’m a 52 yearold male suffering from work stresses and general lack of attention. Two years ago I was surfing the web one evening looking for ways to relax without tearing my life apart. I came across a guy describing tantric massage as a way to relax and safely experience some human contact and touch.
I made contact with him and over a few months made visits for massage. I also learned more about tantra and its roots and possibilities. Around that time I also found your blog which seemed to describe a lot of what I was experiencing with my local practitioner so I saved your contact information until now.
I became very comfortable with my Toronto practitioner and the opportunities to visit him, and shedding my clothes seemed also to have the effect of shedding some of the stresses of my work. Of course the touch and massage helped.
I won’t get into much detail here but after a few visits my practitioner suggested I become more familiar with tantric possibilities and that he had other clients who would like to share and exchange their experiences with others and would I like to attend small group gatherings. He said that it wasn’t something that would appeal to everybody but things I’d said suggested I might enjoy the experiences and company of others who enjoy tantra and its energy.
I trusted his thinking and visited his studio one weekend and was introduced to 2 other guys who were of similar age and circumstances to myself. We enjoyed a relaxing couple of hours after introducing ourselves. They’d both been receiving tantric massage for some time and we quickly discovered that we were motivated by very similar needs in looking to find some pleasure in touch and tantric techniques.
We also found that we shared the same enjoyment of the clothes free opportunities that tantra stimulates and its chances to freely and safely engage with similar energies.
I continued to visit for massage and also enjoyed the group visits when they could be arranged.
I’m happy to have moved but am looking to pick up where I left off and wondered whether you can provide or suggest anything similar to what I’ve described.
I hope to meet you one day.
(Name withheld)
Always In Tantric Touch 