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Message of Thanks

Message of ThanksB

It’s time to thank the many readers of this blog who write emails describing their personal experiences with touch, massage, ritual and Tantra.

Often emails speak of personal voyages of self discovery. Often they speak of the successful actualization of thoughts and imaginings through the very personal interactions that Tantric practice can provide.

I try to respond to all communications and have had the pleasure of reading so many constructive thoughts and ideas.

In this process I’m often invited to post and share emails to this blog. So I’ve saved many communications with the intention of posting them.

Here’s one from a writer who provides thoughts that many might find familiar.

His experience, while personal to him, might be an inspiration to many who can imagine there are safe and comfortable experiences available.

Colin

 

From: xxxxxxx@gmail.com
Subject: Surprising and relaxing

Hello Colin,

Its unlikely I’ll ever get to visit you because I’m south of our shared border in Chicagoland. But I do read your blog and wish you would post more frequently.

I’ve become a tantric massage addict recently and reading the internet links I think I’m not alone and maybe my experiences will be helpful to others. I hope that you might publish my thoughts or I’ll have to start my own website.

I’m a retired professional gentleman in my late 60s. I’ve raised a family in the midwest and my wife and I have successfully downsized our lives. I can’t say that we have any special relationship problems but our interests have diverged over the years. I’d say we’re comfortable living companions but no longer sexual. I have always been respectful of my wife and family so have never had to hide serious secrets.

A year ago I slipped on some ice and damaged my back. It wasn’t serious and is now healed but at the time our doctor suggested I get some sports massage which would ease the discomfort.

I visited a massage practitioner and he introduced me to the world of deep tissue and sports massage. At first the visits were quite uncomfortable as he dealt with my not so serious injury. Then as I healed I began to find that I was enjoying the table time more than I was comfortable with. I had never sought massage treatments in my life and massage parlors would never have been on my radar. After the scheduled sports massages, though I found myself thinking about the touch of the practitioner and I must admit to becoming slightly confused about how much I would miss the visits when the session schedule ended and whether I could find something to replace it. The visits were always professional in nature. My wife is not strong enough to provide massage and I didn’t want to bother her with my thinking.

I took to the internet to learn more and after looking at the endless dubious massage services I found that the tantric term appeared quite frequently. I think thats when I might have first seen your site but there were others. In my searching I found a guy quite local to me who advertised massage for relaxation. My sports prescription had ended and although my back was mostly now ok I became quite focused on finding something to fix my need for touch. Parlors were out and there seemed no harm in contacting for a relaxation massage from a professional guy.

I made an appointment one cold afternoon at a suburban house. I was welcomed into a living room with a familiar massage table. The room seemed to be much less clinical than the room of my sports therapist. The space was certainly not threatening in any way and I’d become used to some of the massage protocols in my sports visits so I assumed something similar but less clinical. This is where my new experiences began I think.

I’ll refer to the practitioner as Brian. A very peaceful man in his 40s. After introducing himself and waiting for me to adjust to the room, take off my coat etc. I was invited to take a seat which was an armchair and explain my expectations while Brian listened. I remember telling him about my accident and massage treatment and I said that further relaxing massage might help as a self prescribed complete cure. I also told him that I found that my preference was for a male practitioner. As I talked I found myself beginning to anticipate the table time ahead in a way that hadn’t happened with my sports practitioner.

Brian said that he understood as much of the background as he needed to and that this would be a different experience because normally relaxation massages were more complete than sports or chiropractic. He invited me to use the shower, which I declined, and he left the room after telling me to undress and get onto the table. I put my clothes on the armchair and wrapped a towel, that Brian had left on the table, around me and climbed onto the table face down.

Brian soon returned although I couldn’t see him being face down. He turned on some quiet music and began a massage of my lower back and then to my shoulders. He used some oil and soon it began to occur to me that this was a very different experience from the sports massage. I found my mind wandering and into thoughts far from the reality of the day.

Brian didn’t remove the towel when he started on my legs but as he moved to my thighs the towel did get in the way. He asked if he could remove it to massage my butt and I happily murmured yes.

The massage continued as you might expect and I experienced it very sensually especially when I turned over, declining the towel as covering. Now I had a view of Brian, who was working shirtless. I found the combination of the touch of the massage and Brian’s appearance very arousing and although Brian did everything to slow me down the involuntary personal aspect of the massage was completed rather quickly.

Brian completed the massage for another 30 minutes I recall and I found myself completely relaxed and walking on air.

I used the shower and we talked for a while after I dressed. Since then I have returned to Brian quite frequently and feel more relaxed than I have for a long time.

Here’s the message you might like to take from this. I’ve found a safe and relaxing way to enjoy touch which is no longer available to me at home. I’ve been in good company and have made a new friend. Although I’ve always considered myself attracted to the opposite sex I’ve realized that I can completely enjoy the touch and company of a male in this context and I’ve come to appreciate the sensual and sexual potential of males in the same way that I’ve understood female attraction. I enjoy the company and the discretion and I will be enjoying my visits to Brian as far as I can see into the future.

It was a leap of faith for me to engage more of myself in this way and I would encourage any person who finds their ability to relax overwhelmed by routine, to find safe ways to enjoy whatever touch they can.

Hope this helps somebody.

John in Chicago

Tantric Triggers

Tantric Triggers

For those who find themselves on the Tantric path, new questions arise all the time.

Tantric practice is about relaxation of the mind and body and a Tantric approach to mindful relaxation often gives access to energies within that are often suppressed.

Sexual energy, for many, is the most deeply buried energy, and Tantric practice seeks to uncover that treasure. While buried within us, without outlet, sexual energy is a stressor which can be the source of many imbalances.

The purpose of Tantric practice is to heighten awareness of sexual energy and to balance mind and body. A first step is to begin to experience underused senses and how they can relate to sensual and sexual awareness.

Such practice can deliver deep relaxation of the mind and a heightened sense of relaxed well-being. The initial routes – always safe, sane and consensual –  are often through visual and touch stimulation.Tantric massage can provide incredibly exciting experiences, so much so that many people seek to move even further along the Tantric path and to enjoy this state of relaxation as part of their day to day lives.

But what is the next step after learning to appreciate how to receive and enjoy Tantric touch?

In heightening sensory awareness Tantric practice can begin to powerfully introduce sexual energy into the conscious mind. If that energy previously existed primarily in subconscious awareness, Tantra seeks to bring it more frequently into the conscious mind. This can be thought of as ‘mindful awareness’ and it is at that level that we can begin to integrate conscious Tantric sensuality with conscious sensual awareness. The reward is a reduction in daily mental stress as sexual energies become balanced and integrated with rational consciousness.

This endeavor is not as easy as might be imagined. In Tantric massage and related experiences the receiver is mostly passive, relaxing in the receipt of touch and reaching out to amplify and enhance that touch.

In ‘mindful awareness’ the Tantric purpose is to become a more active participant in creating the rise in energy and identifying and consciously promoting the relaxation ‘triggers’ that prompt the rise in sensual and sexual energy.

This level of participation in sensual and sexual exploration can be daunting at first but does bring entry into a world of previously unrealized consciousness. It begins to place sensual and sexual energy in a mindful consciousness that can be available 24/7 – not just on days when a Tantric massage or ritual session is available.

‘Tantric triggers’ are the switches or ‘turn-ons’ which are unique to each of us. Broad triggers could be visual, tactile, imaginary, taste-centered etc. Within those possibilities we each use imaginative energy to raise sexual/sensory consciousness.

The first step in a Tantric approach to ‘triggers’ is to recognize, consciously, what we are thinking and enjoying. Normally such thoughts can be allowed to surface, momentarily, from the subconscious in order to ‘enjoy the sexual and sensual moment’. In Tantra the goal is to ‘hold that thought’.

By becoming more conscious of the detail of such energy it can be recalled and given it its rightful place in the conscious mind.

The biggest initial hurdle is to overcome the perceived vulnerability that such consciousness raising requires. For many it is not easy to acknowledge the seemingly strange ‘turn on triggers’ that can be so powerful. We might know that we have always been turned on by particular body parts or characteristics but beyond disclosing an interest in socially acceptable ‘norms’, we can feel less inclined to disclose or seek the stimulation of preferences which might be thought of as ‘weird’ or ‘fetish’. So, often, that interest is kept secret, within within an individual.

Tantra looks to encourage enjoying that subconscious interest and energy so that it can become part of the conscious, relaxed mind and body.

There are many approaches in Tantra to reaching these levels of self-awareness. Massage and ritual can help.

So, for any who feel there are levels of subconscious energy that could be enjoyed – take the risk to talk further about these approaches.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051            Email: co.lins@outlook.com

 

 

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What to expect? – Just call ahead

Every massage experience is unique. Regardless of whether it’s a first time visit or one of many, always it will be a voyage of discovery.

For answers to questions and curiosities and to arrange a visit – just call ahead.

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

 

Differences & Distinctions

Often a question is asked about the difference between Tantric massage, relaxing massage, full body massage, erotic massage, therapeutic massage etc.

In truth it is likely that there are as many definitions and answers as there are practitioners. Still, it’s a fair question.

Definitions and descriptions of massage ‘techniques’ e.g. Swedish, Lomi Lomi, Thai, Reiki etc. can easily be researched and described definitively but defining ‘relaxing’ in massage is more subjective.

Any relaxing massage experience is hopefully designed to be a pleasant experience, but what of the question defining the descriptions of full body – relaxing – erotic – Tantric. Isn’t it all the same?

Happily it is normal to experience a relaxing massage as an erotic experience even if it’s not ‘full body’. Simple touch, in the right circumstance can be incredibly and surprisingly erotic. Certainly a ‘full body’ relaxing massage, is likely to result in an erotic experience.

Tantric massage sessions tend to be longer than simple full body relaxation massage. Perhaps Tantric massage is best defined as a shared journey, where natural energy and reactions are mutually enjoyed by both receiver and giver.

There is always a ‘safe landing’ and the effects of the experience can last for many days afterwards.

In Tantric massage the experience is always about the journey without undue focus on the destination. Relaxation massage, erotic massage, full body massage, therapeutic massage, Tantric massage, combinations of all – it’s all good.

Questions – Thoughts? Call or email or subscribe to this blog:

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Time & Tantra

Time & Tantra

Tantric practice encourages the idea of an ‘experience’ rather than a ‘session’, whether or not the time is in massage, ritual, discovery or any combination of Tantric practice.

Such experience is timeless – in that the experience tends to find its own unique pace and is not necessarily divided into hourly segments.

For this reason ‘clock watching’ is not part of Tantric experience. The idea is to provide an experience to relax the mind and body and thereby raise physical consciousness and heighten awareness. How this develops in any individual will be unique to the moment and certainly the benefit can be defeated by watching the clock too closely. That’s not to say that time constraints are not a reality to be respected at times. Just that experiences, short or long, need not necessarily be measured by the clock.

If Tantric practice requires anything from followers, those requirements, at least, are an open and curious mind and a generosity of spirit. So we always approach experiential time with generosity not measured by hours and minutes.

Sometimes the experience will last long – other times it maybe shorter.  Always, though, it will be a unique experience – never a ‘timed session’.  We don’t always have to make the massage ‘run on time’!

Colin

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Sticky Labels, Fantasy & Happy Places

MassageOilOne of the most common barriers in seeking peace of mind is the construction of a fence of labels in the mind.

These labels are often simply flimsy figments of  imagination, ready to be blown away with a puff of positive energy.

Often, potential peace of mind is denied by imagining and internalizing a self identity – a label that seems to fit in a personal universe.

But are the labels really useful and a best fit? If there are too many mismatches it can be uncomfortable to exist in the world. Since it’s more difficult to change the world than it is to change a few psychic assumptions, Tantric practice works on taking  thoughts to more productive and happier places – and so to greater peace of mind.

Tantra deals with personal energy and life forces. Conscious energy and involuntary energy.

The strongest of these energies is sexual energy and the labeling of sexual preferences, fantasies and thoughts often creates much confusion.

Thoughts and fantasies can change, recur, renew etc., as time passes. Self images are created as a fit with what exists in any personal daily universe. The image is purposefully self created  but does not always mesh with other involuntary thoughts and fantasies.

What to do? The excluded thoughts and images just don’t go away. It’s not that those thoughts and fantasies are dangerous, unlawful or harmful to self or others. It’s just that they don’t match the self image. So, quite often the thoughts and energies are buried in the back of the mind. But they don’t cease to exist.

Such burials can be a waste of energy and can distract from a peaceful and productive existence.

Tantric practice and massage can help to resurrect and  find a useful place for such buried energy. It can find a map to hidden treasures – the acceptance of self, and greater peace of mind.

Tantric practice is about the conscious and enjoyable control of the energies that inevitably play in the mind and body. Always the most powerful and fascinating of those energies is sexual energy. It is disabling to deny that fact and enabling to control and enjoy it.

The suppression and pigeonholing of thoughts can be paralyzing. Tantric practice offers the chance to safely explore thoughts and fantasies and to include them in real life. To make them fit with self image.

To erase some of the useless labels. To learn to enjoy some fantasies and find some happy places.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

 

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