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New Normals

New Normals

Care and Safety will always continue to be the most important watch-words, going forward.

But within those boundaries Tantric life and imagination can continue to flourish.

As always, whether virtually or in physical space, it’s important to allow the mind and imagination to continue to wander freely. So do continue to call and email.

If you have thoughts or experiences that you would like to share with other readers, please do send them and, for inspiration, I will be so pleased to add them to this blog. Your connections are always so welcome.

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

Now, more than ever…

…the certainty and comfort of safety is so important.

Happily, here, all has certainly remained safe, and in messages and calls, safe experiences and imaginings have been increasingly shared.

Past ‘normals’ may never return but ‘new normals’ are being imagined. It’s possible to be comfortable, safe and alive to new possibilities.

These can be positive times of comfortable rediscovery – accepting and safely enjoying personal preferences and refreshing acceptance and concern for the preferences of others.

Please always continue to feel welcome to connect and imagine.

Colin

250-984-7051

co.lins@outlook.com

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Happy Canada Day

Happy Canada Day

It’s time to enjoy a day away from work and worries and to remember those who keep our world spinning and can’t take the day off.

To all who have called and connected in the past few weeks – it’s so good to know you’re well and to be able to confirm that all remains safe and well, here.

Do continue to call and email. Our times are changing but prioritizing safe and comfortable contact will always be an unchanging priority.

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

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Update & Virtual Energy

Update & Virtual Energy

Times are changing once again.

There is a longing to return to a past normality.

Most likely, though, we will be journeying to a new normality of pleasure where we are more informed and more focused. It will be a conscious and deliberate journey.

Awareness will be the watchword whenever physical visits recommence – and in Tantric practice there is so much pleasure and energy contained in the concept of Conscious Awareness.

The energy that has continued for the past weeks has been virtual but nonetheless deliberate and open.

Fantasy has often pleasingly ruled.

It’s been an opportunity to send thoughts and express imaginings and desires by mediums not normally closely associated with Tantric practice.

Emails and phone calls have been ever-present and personal, and every communication has been so unique and valuable.

As we begin to see the shape of things to come do feel as welcome as ever to call or write and plan for the new Tantric reality, visits and interactions.

The energy of anticipation and clear desires for the near future bring so much to the massage table.

It’s reassuring to report that all is and has been well here and that the many past visitors who have communicated over the past weeks have confirmed stories of good health and intelligent understanding.

When the doors reopen a special welcome awaits. If you have thoughts and ideas for the future now is a good time to share them.

Hopefully, we’ll soon be back ‘in touch’.

 

Colin

250-984-7051

co.lins@outlook.com

SOCIAL DISTANCING & TODAY’S REALITY

SOCIAL DISTANCING & TODAY’S REALITY

At this uniquely difficult time it is so important to maintain a clear understanding of recommended and mandated social practices, concerns and comfort levels.

All aspects of daily life, ranging from personal to peripheral, and in community, must be uppermost in our consciousness.

Therefore, for the peace of mind and safety of all, appointment availability for new visitors is not possible at this time. Hopefully it will not be too long before new visitors can again be welcomed.

For regular and familiar visitors, please do feel as welcome as ever to call or email to discuss safe and socially responsible visit possibilities in the future, as well as preferences, memories and suggestions.   

Your continued connection will always provide the opportunity for updates, new options and welcome news of your continued well-being.

Stay safely and happily aware.

Colin

Email:    co.lins@outlook.com

Phone:  250-984-7051

Contact Colin – 250-984-7051

TouchIn a quiet, warm room, your massage is enhanced with a full body, hot towel table bath, warm oil, shower and complete relaxation.

Shower and all facilities are available and sessions are untimed – stay as long as your schedule allows. Massage is always slow and relaxing. Simply an exchange and flow of positive energy.

This is a space to safely explore imagination.  All orientations, adult ages and genders are welcome.

Location and parking is easy and safe.

Within this blog are more detailed descriptions of the possibilities of Tantric Massage. Many postings – but not all  –  require a password to read, so do scroll to the end. Simply email the title to co.lins@outlook.com and I’ll send the password. Your curiosity is welcome.

Contact Colin at: 250-984-7051 or email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Comfortable Company

Comfortable Company

Time taken for personal relaxation and exploration is so valuable in these, often, challenging times.

Personal relaxation time can restore the energy and imagination lost in the machinery of the daily grind.

Any opportunity to relax the body and also the mind is a chance to rest or divert thinking.

Toward fulfilling the objective of personal comfort and mental diversion please also take comfort in the knowledge that this time is respected as personal and discreet.

To this purpose please know the following if you are communicating for the first time.

I am always pleased to receive and to try and answer the questions you will have. The best way, initially, to communicate is via a telephone call or a simple email of interest and introduction. From there we can arrange a time for a telephone conversation.

All communication – telephone and email – is always confidential. Your communication is a point of entry into a less stressful world that does not have a purpose or technology to intrude or ‘over-share’.

For visitors who have previously visited this island of relaxation, your time and visits are forever valued.

For those who are imagining and seeking answers – please do contact with the confidence that your call is always valued and respected with discretion.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051   Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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2020 and…

…thanks to everybody who visited throughout this past year, attending Tantric gatherings and workshops and sharing thoughts and energies individually or in group and social settings. It was one of the best years ever, making realities of so many fantasies.

Every visit and every moment was truly a unique pleasure.

Plans for 2020 are filled with new and original opportunities to share and expand personal and exciting preferences.

For many, today’s times are stressful and uncertain. Opportunities for personal pleasure can often seem remote and unlikely. With this very much in mind, locating safe and accessible space and experience is so important.

In 2020, therefore, a simple call will continue to lead to a discreet oasis of shared energy, like-minded company and sustained pleasure, in addition to the heightened physical awareness that Tantric touch always provides.

Looking forward to the best that 2020 has to offer and sharing time and energy with friends, existing and new.

Colin

Tel:        250-984-7051

Email:    co.lins@outlook.com

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Curious guy enjoying massage

Here’s a self explanatory message which has much in common with the experiences of many others. Posted for interest and typical of many messages sent to this site.
Colin
250-984-7051
co.lins@outlook.com
Sent: Friday, September 20, 2019 3:56 PM
To: Colin . <co.lins@outlook.com>

Subject: Curious guy enjoying massage

Here’s my experience, Colin. I’m not of the younger generation any longer and am new to receiving massage and I’ve been experimenting about what works best for me.

I’ve found massage from any experienced provider can be very interesting for any curious guy. I think men often know better where men like to be touched. That can also be true of female providers as well but I’m finding a special satisfaction with male providers. Of course that’s just me. It’s always good to be open minded and try new things in life particularly at this stage in my life. Below are some benefits that I’ve found and it doesn’t matter the gender of the professional.

On a physical level massage touch can help to relax tight muscles and improve circulation, nervous function and joint mobility.

On an emotional level I’ve found the interesting touch I often had problems finding safely. This has relaxed my mind and reduced my stress and made me feel valued again. At a deeper level, massage has helped release bad energies trapped in my body and mind. Hope to visit you one day. It seems like I would enjoy meeting you. Hugh.

Pride – August 2019

This email was a pleasure to receive and I am delighted to accept the invitation to post it here.
The Vancouver Pride celebrations were, as always, a high point in the year. The weather was on our side as well as the energy.
David describes his personal experience and it was a pleasure to spend the time with him and the others.
He’s in good company as a retired guy who finds limited opportunities for safe self expression. Engagement with Tantric practice in massage, ritual or simply conversational contexts can create so many personal opportunities.
As ever, email or call if you’d like further information on all this.
Colin
250-984-7051
co.lins@outlook.com

 

From: David

Sent: Monday, August 26, 2019 1:14 PM
To: Colin . <co.lins@outlook.com>
Subject: Pride

Hi Colin
 
This is David.
 
I’ve emailed M, K & J separately and am using initials only in case you choose to put this on your website which you are welcome to do.
 
My experience over the Pride days in Vancouver was everything I hoped it would be, and more.
 
As you know, I’d talked at length to M & K about imagining participating in the ‘fantasy’ experience with you all in Vancouver and on parade day.
 
As a family guy in his mid 60’s and widowed for a few years, I’ve been belatedly exploring my sexuality and have found that tantric approaches have added much to my understanding and comfort. This led me to the suggestion by my tantric guide in Vancouver, R, that I contact M & K to explore their ‘fantasy’ possibilities over the Vancouver Pride activities.
 
When I was married and with a young family there was little opportunity to focus on the unexplored aspects of my sexual thinking and appetite.
 
Over the past 3 years I’ve realized that I am fascinated with the energies of all people, as a male, and not just traditional heterosexual energies.
 
In my introduction to tantric massage and the group settings, which are often naked and mostly male, along with others in the gatherings I found myself as fascinated with the male form, touch, and energy as I’ve been with female company for most of my life.
 
I have chosen not to form any intimate relationships with other males, or females, but increasingly have allowed my curiosity about my sexuality to be present in my thinking.
 
It was with this in my mind that I contacted M & K, recommended by R  (I think you know him) as an experienced male/female couple with a unique approach to my curiosity.
 
I met with them and explained my background and questions. They were so understanding of my dilemmas and, after listening to me, suggested I participate in their ‘fantasy’ activity over the Pride parade weekend.
 
They described this would be an opportunity for me to open myself to many of my thoughts and to safely make them a reality. I had explained what I have been thinking was too strange to contemplate making real. M & K explained to me that my desire to share myself, almost naked, and to observe others similarly motivated, was not strange at all and was very much part of many of the energies that Pride represented. To see and be seen, without negative judgment and with pride and to be comfortably and socially accepted.
 
I was one of 2 guys who M & K agreed to support in this experience, as you know. I hadn’t met the other ‘fantasist’ – initial J – before. Although much younger than me we soon found much in common, as you know, and I came to understand that my ‘strange’ personal thoughts were not so strange.
 
I just wanted to convey to everybody involved how much I appreciated the comfort of the house and the attention and support that I received. It was worth every penny and time so well spent.
 
The Sunday, including watching the parade and joining the crowds on the Vancouver streets was just fantastic. Although at first I was so nervous (I think we all were) to shed nearly all of my clothes and wear only a small material covering over my more personal parts, I soon accepted that I was in good company and I was able to enjoy what was a unique experience and energy. I’ll never experience Davie Street in the same way again!
 
I think my confidence was supported by the presence of so many people with similar objectives. I’m sure the majority were not novices in the way that I was but I did feel a sense of public welcome. So many smiles and reassurances from people we met. And we returned the positive energy in the same way.
 
I was encouraged simply to follow my imagination. For the first time in my life I openly embraced the energy of attraction to all who engaged with me without reference to gender or appearance. It was so refreshing. I walked with K, topless and as exposed as I was, proud in sharing her wonderful energy. And I walked just as happily with J and yourself and other males, similarly pleased to be sharing the energy of the Pride streets.
 
I think the energy of acceptance and allowing our exposed bodies to speak our thoughts and minds was so clear.
 
So again I thank you all for changing this part of my life. Naturally I’m going to continue with my tantric journey and I wholeheartedly encourage any who fear the confusion that can come with questions of personal sexuality to find a safe place – perhaps in a tantric practice group, and begin to find yourself.
 
It was such a pleasure to meet you and If you are moved to publish this email on your blog, which I’ve really enjoyed reading, you must feel comfortable including it. I hope you’ll have some time for me to visit you next time I’m in Victoria.
 
Thank you again,
 
David

Safe Space

Safe Space

The search for safe and intimate comfort can be challenging.

The possibilities and choices to find such comfort can seem to be frustratingly limited.

The occasional enjoyment of bodywork and massage is satisfying but often all too brief.

As acceptance grows that, as individuals, our sexual and sensual identities are broad and legitimate, so, also, do the opportunities to enjoy and actualize seem frustratingly narrow.

While the virtual world of internet and keyboard driven images can help in beginning to focus preferences, it’s not an environment that makes it easy to discretely  and safely enjoy one’s newly discovered ‘self’ in the physical world.

The virtual world simply does not reciprocate the energy pounded into the keyboard.

This year, more than ever, opportunities have emerged that have allowed visitors, here, to take the time, safely and openly, to explore and enjoy aspects of their sensuality that are, all too often, difficult to express in less open contexts.

The chance to laze and gaze in a shared and non-judgmental environment, where no clock is ticking, is difficult to discover.

While it shouldn’t be so difficult to find comfortable space to share thoughts and preferences, when sensual self discovery is the goal the choices can be very limited.

I’ve heard this frequently over the past couple of years from wonderful visitors who have returned to share and spend extended overnight visits.

Such visits have provided a chance to temporarily exclude the outside world and often to actualize thoughts and newly discovered preferences – to build confidence and bring new peace of mind.

While this will always be a place of timeless massage it can also be a place of endless sensuality, self expression, company and comfort.

Beats any impersonal hotel, airbnb or website.

Just email or call to enjoy.

Colin

Tel:    250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Heightened Awareness

Heightened Awareness

To invite and experience Tantric Massage can often be an act of courage. Always it is an act of trust.

One true purpose of Tantra is to bring forth energies that lie dormant and to allow those energies to distribute and flow in unique and personal ways.

The effects and experiences can be powerful and ‘electric’ in so many ways. Tantric massage experiences can raise sensual consciousness and awareness to new levels.

Each journey is a unique experience and can frequently include the expectation of the unknown, if that is possible.

It is the process of becoming comfortable with, and conscious of the intensity of the unexplored sensual and sexual possibilities contained in all of us, that fulfills the mission of Tantric Practice.

Exploring these possibilities requires a willingness and ability to open the mind and body unreservedly.

Massage can and should be experienced both passively and actively. In Tantra there is an opportunity to learn how to become conscious of how pleasure is working on the mind. There is a conditioning in today’s life to believe that there is always a division between intellectual consciousness and physical/sexual/sensual consciousness.

Tantric Practice says that there should be no such ‘firewall’. That sexual and sensual experience, if consciously experienced, is not only enhanced but can become ever more part of  intellectual consciousness.

Tantric Practice provides, if nothing else, unusual opportunities to ask and to experience.

Quite soon along the Tantric journey questions arise. Intense arousal and energy have been experienced and often a desire is seeded to wish to repeat and enhance intensity. How to do that is a fundamental question. How does it all work?

The truth is that whatever mode of stimulation has been useful at any time is the correct mode. It’s logical to proceed from there.

Tantric Practice is about the distribution and use of physical and mental energy in sexual and sensual forms.

Tantric Practice encourages the exploration of becoming consciously aware of thoughts and practuces that bring pleasure.

Massage is often the beginning of Tantric Practice because it provides an entirely legitimate reason to receive and explore touch.

This is always a great sensual experience and a fine beginning but the likelihood is that it’s a passive experience. To move further along the Tantric path there is much enhancement to be found in becoming actively conscious of how the body and mind are processing and enjoying.

Ceremony and ritual often feature at this stage but to move too quickly can take things beyond natural comfort zones.

A quiet intermediate introduction stage can be very helpful, prior to ritual and group experiences.

This is the time to find the physical self. We know ourselves as a private image. We present the image that we believe matches the circumstance. While these choices may be entirely correct they are, nonetheless, private choices and incomplete, and the image of how we appear is our private image – an image in our head. How we may be perceived by others is not always accurately known to us.

In Tantrc Practice it’s necessary to make the ‘private’ image, ‘public’ in a sense. That is to say that we want to start to consciously enjoy the actuality of our complete physical being and to share the possibilities that we normally keep private.

So, where the desire is to supplement the massage experience with Tantric Practice please never hesitate to ask how best to move along the Tantric path. There are experiences to be had and enjoyed that combine well with the energy that Tantric massage produces.

Colin                                       

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What to expect? – Just call ahead

Every massage experience is unique. Regardless of whether it’s a first time visit or one of many, always it will be a voyage of discovery.

For answers to questions and curiosities and to arrange a visit – just call ahead.

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

 

Imagine Realizing the Perfect Fantasy

IMAGINE REALIZING THE PERFECT FANTASY

Last year so many people wrote and called with ideas and preferences that they imagined including and experiencing when visiting.

These thoughts have been so instructive and revealing – and so much fun to explore.

In this New Year of 2019, whether you are a previous visitor or curious about a first time visit, if you have a particular thought about what you’d like to enjoy, or how to add to your experience, please email or call and share your imaginings. Whenever possible your thought can be the reality of your visit.

Tantric practice and massage provides the opportunity to share and enjoy so many fantasies, and there are so many to enjoy. The thought is always to make a more perfect visit.

The clock is turned off and the space is yours to fill.

So this year practice being true to your imagination and enjoy the energy of fantastic self expression – or simply lay back, empty your mind and relax.

Tel:         250-984-7051

Email:     co.lins@outlook.com

 

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Always Extra time

Thank you to all who have visited over the past year.

Every visit has been so memorable.

The Festive Season often brings the opportunity for some ‘Down-Time’ which, ironically, can also bring some ‘stressful’ times as well.

To all who might imagine finishing the year or starting the New Year with a visit –  you are most welcome.

The clock here is never counting elapsed time so do remember that if you need a place far from the madding shopping crowds, visits here don’t count the hours.

Stay and relax for as long as you can allow yourself to enjoy the gift of some Extra ‘Down-Time’.

Colin

Tel:   250-984-7051   Email:  co.lins@outlook.com

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Touching Insights

Today I received this email and attachment from a long time visitor.

 The attachment is thoughtful and has much in common with the expectations that so many visitors have.

 Accordingly I am very happy to post this as useful information and as something of a guide to the experiences that might be expected in a visit.

 Colin

Tel:           250-984-7051

email:     co.lins@outlook.com

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Tantric approaches

Robert <@gmail.com>

Thu 11/29/2018, 4:27 PM

Hi Colin,

It’s Robert here. I’ll be calling you soon. I’ve missed visiting.

As always I try to find other friendly providers or information that meets my preferences just as you do with your approach.

I found this experience description which seems to have so much in common with what we’ve always talked about.

I thought you might like to read this and even post it.

I hope to see you again soon.

Robert

 

 

 

 

Massage thoughts
I have never been inclined to advertise to the general public or to do massage in a setting such as a clinic, spa or salon. That works for some clients and therapists, and that’s all fine and dandy, but it is not for me. I feel restricted by many customs of the mainstream massage profession, and I have no desire to work within the confines of mainstream mores. I provide time mostly to males and the clients who visit tend to appreciate an experience that defies uptight mainstream conventions.

In my opinion, nakedness is requisite to a good massage experience. I find draping, either full or partial, to be a nuisance, not to mention that it interferes with the full range of the massage energy. However, there is no need for coy excuses to justify nudity. Being naked feels good and has intrinsic value, and I work in the nude unless a client is uncomfortable with that. Not only are you free to be naked, you are free to be totally unselfconscious about the appearance of your naked body. Our culture seems hell-bent on making people feel bad about their bodies, and that is amplified in the media subculture, unfortunately. My clients come in all shapes, sizes and ages. I treat all my clients with the same sense of decency, dignity and humanity.

There is a natural sensuality to my approach. I am not shy about touch. Yes, arousal is common. I’m cool with that. I am comfortable with the fact that my clients are sexual creatures and that full-body touch can be quite stimulating. However, I do want to make clear that my sessions are very much about sexual energy in the broadest terms. It is possible to channel sensual/erotic energy throughout your entire body to enhance the experience of being touched everywhere and in allowing an overwhelming preoccupation with a desire for rapid sexual climax the full potential of a sensual massage can be lost.

There is an unfortunate dichotomy in massage culture in which “legitimate” massage and “sensual” massage are polarized, and implicit in this dichotomy is the notion that nudity and sexuality are illegitimate. This schism is an artificial creation of our sexually backward society. Think of massage as a great painting such as Michelangelo’s “Creation of Adam.” (Adam is, of course, naked.) The ethics of professional massage associations require the equivalent of placing a big black box over Adam’s genitals. For some schools and practitioners this black-box concept is taken to an extreme, so imagine Adam with all erogenous zones blacked out, including his inner thighs, belly, nipples and butt (okay, his butt is not visible in the actual painting, but you get the idea). On the other end of the spectrum, think of the massage you see advertised as an adult service, usually by practitioners with dubious credentials and hokey, insulting names like “Rod’s HotRub4U.” This is sort of like manipulating the “Creation of Adam” in Photoshop, zooming in on and enlarging the area around Adam’s genitals and deleting the rest of the painting altogether. Either way, you’re getting a bastardized version of the painting and missing out on its full beauty. It is my hope that my massage transcends labels manufactured by those who fear the human body and gives my clients the whole picture.

 

Holistic Approach: Integrating Sensuality and Erotic Energy
In my line of work, issues of eroticism and sensuality seem to be at the forefront of the minds of many of my potential clients. First of all, if you’ve ever wondered what the difference is between a sensual massage and an erotic massage… well, so have I. Most of the attempts I have read to somehow define either term run the gamut from specious to absurd. I tend to use the words “sensual” and “erotic” interchangeably to refer to man’s capacity for arousal, just so you know, and I hope I can challenge you to think outside the box of society’s default assumptions about these highly subjective and loaded words.

When I am confronted with the question Do you offer erotic massage? a big red flag goes up in my mind. It is not because I’m a prude. Far from it. I actually believe that erotic energy is quite vital to my work. (Think about it: you’re lying on a table naked with someone’s hands on your body. I think there is a degree of eroticism inherent in such a situation.) However, I know that my idealized notions of erotic energy as it pertains to massage do not necessarily gel with everyone else’s notions, and I am keenly aware that many of those who purport to be seeking an “erotic massage” are really looking for an experience that involves little or no massage at all. Going to a massage therapist for sex is akin to going to an orthodontist to have him brush your teeth.

The term “erotic massage” is one that I think should be reclaimed from those who have made it synonymous with escort work, but as it is I eschew the term in advertising because too many people extrapolate that “erotic massage” means “nothing but erotic.” I choose to describe my integration of therapeutic massage and erotic energy as a “holistic” approach to massage, if you’ll indulge me that rather New Age-y neologism. The actual manipulation of muscular tissue that defines massage is the meat and potatoes of what I do. Sensual/erotic energy, ideally, should be an undercurrent that heightens one’s receptiveness to therapeutic touch.

The most understandable definition of holistic I have found is this American Heritage Dictionary version: “Emphasizing the importance of the whole and the interdependence of its parts.” Holistic is the adjective form of holism, which is–to give a concise but oversimplified explanation–the idea that a whole is somehow more than the sum of its parts. Don’t worry. I’m not trying to get all metaphysical on you. But consider this: in a purely clinical approach to massage, you’re most likely covered in draping, and the therapist is probably trying to consciously avoid getting too close to your erogenous zones. It can still be a satisfying experience in the hands of someone who is skilled at addressing your areas of tension, and you may leave feeling like your muscles have received much-needed attention. But let’s get rid of that draping, increase the range of the strokes and regard your body as a whole with nothing zoned off. That kind of approach, in my opinion, makes a body feel so much more alive and adds a synergy to the experience that makes it infinitely more fulfilling than the undrape/ massage-but-don’t-get-too-close-to-anything-naughty/ re-drape approach. In my idea of a holistic approach, the therapist doesn’t fear the fact that the client may become aroused at various times during the session.

If I were to distinguish between a holistic approach and an erotic approach to massage, I would say that a holistic approach recognizes that sensual and erotic feelings are a natural, valid part of the experience. However, an exclusively erotic approach may be one that seeks to exploit a body’s capacity for arousal at the expense of the therapeutic benefits of massage. (Keep in mind that I have simply co-opted the term holistic as a means of challenging what I see as the erroneous notions inherent in the purely therapeutic versus purely erotic dichotomy. Other massage practitioners who use the term holistic may have an entirely different take on the word.)

I think the reason the term “holistic” appeals to me is because it takes the pressure off the need for the session to be self-consciously erotic. I don’t relate to massage practitioners who offer an “erotic” version for an increased charge. I’m not sure I understand what they are factoring into or out of their various incarnations of a massage. The erotic element of my work is not something that is a deliberate addition to a more generic version. I do massage the way I feel it should be done, and for me erotic energy is intrinsic to it.

And to get attuned to that facet, imagine this scenario: You stumble upon a hidden beach in an idyllic location on the perfect summer day. You strip off every thread of your clothing, run naked into the blue-green water and play in the gentle surf, feeling wonderfully unencumbered and maybe just slightly mischievous. Exhausted but exhilarated, you emerge from the water and collapse onto the pure white sand and just lie there, relishing the warmth of the sun and the slight coolness of the breeze all over your bare body. You close your eyes and listen to the waves, with no particular urge to do anything but luxuriate in the moment. There is an element of eroticism and sensuality in such a scenario, but it is not about a libido in overdrive. It is more about feeling your body everywhere and savoring the heightened sensitivity of your skin that comes with being naked, relaxed and free. This little trip to the beach represents the frame of mind that allows you to get the most out of what I offer.

Continuing with the beach analogy: This time, think of a sandy beach as a metaphor for the massage. When I touch you, I do so without fear and without attempts to censor zones of your body. Arousal is a natural consequence. With the right frame of mind and set of expectations, arousal can come as a series of waves. Some waves are bigger than others, but these waves wash over the beach and then recede. If you become attuned to this wave mentality, then you are channeling erotic energy, and that is vital to sustaining the massage. I don’t mean for this to sound esoteric. Concepts like this are hard to put into words. But if I were to coin a mantra for channeling erotic energy, it would be this: let it come, let it go, let it be. You don’t need to disguise or be embarrassed by your arousal. You also don’t need to start humping the table. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the sensations you are feeling that moment. Don’t think about five minutes from now. In fact, try not to think at all.

Incidentally, after one to two hours of channeling erotic energy, you may feel a need to release some of that energy. I’m cool with that.

 

I try my best to create an atmosphere conducive to a great massage, but some things are beyond my control. Here are a few things I’ve found work so well.

Allow yourself to relax completely. If I lift your arm or leg, I’m going to support it. There is no need to assist the movement. I know that some people (including me) have trouble letting go like this when they are on the table. That’s okay. I realize that it is counterproductive and makes people self-conscious to demand that they relax. Just be aware that you have the option of letting go and that you will benefit more from the massage if you do.

Feel free to communicate with me. Sometimes I can tell from body language if I need to make adjustments, but I don’t have ESP. Don’t endure something if it hurts. Tell me. Also, if you feel overall that my touch is too firm or too light, let me know during the session.

Allow yourself to zone out. There is a state of consciousness about halfway between being completely awake and being asleep that is ideal for receiving massage. I realize that most people do not want to fall asleep and miss the sensations of touch, but you will not be in an optimally receptive state if you are fully alert. Close your eyes and relish the rare opportunity of doing nothing but receiving touch.

 

 

 

Message of Thanks

Message of ThanksB

It’s time to thank the many readers of this blog who write emails describing their personal experiences with touch, massage, ritual and Tantra.

Often emails speak of personal voyages of self discovery. Often they speak of the successful actualization of thoughts and imaginings through the very personal interactions that Tantric practice can provide.

I try to respond to all communications and have had the pleasure of reading so many constructive thoughts and ideas.

In this process I’m often invited to post and share emails to this blog. So I’ve saved many communications with the intention of posting them.

Here’s one from a writer who provides thoughts that many might find familiar.

His experience, while personal to him, might be an inspiration to many who can imagine there are safe and comfortable experiences available.

Colin

 

From: xxxxxxx@gmail.com
Subject: Surprising and relaxing

Hello Colin,

Its unlikely I’ll ever get to visit you because I’m south of our shared border in Chicagoland. But I do read your blog and wish you would post more frequently.

I’ve become a tantric massage addict recently and reading the internet links I think I’m not alone and maybe my experiences will be helpful to others. I hope that you might publish my thoughts or I’ll have to start my own website.

I’m a retired professional gentleman in my late 60s. I’ve raised a family in the midwest and my wife and I have successfully downsized our lives. I can’t say that we have any special relationship problems but our interests have diverged over the years. I’d say we’re comfortable living companions but no longer sexual. I have always been respectful of my wife and family so have never had to hide serious secrets.

A year ago I slipped on some ice and damaged my back. It wasn’t serious and is now healed but at the time our doctor suggested I get some sports massage which would ease the discomfort.

I visited a massage practitioner and he introduced me to the world of deep tissue and sports massage. At first the visits were quite uncomfortable as he dealt with my not so serious injury. Then as I healed I began to find that I was enjoying the table time more than I was comfortable with. I had never sought massage treatments in my life and massage parlors would never have been on my radar. After the scheduled sports massages, though I found myself thinking about the touch of the practitioner and I must admit to becoming slightly confused about how much I would miss the visits when the session schedule ended and whether I could find something to replace it. The visits were always professional in nature. My wife is not strong enough to provide massage and I didn’t want to bother her with my thinking.

I took to the internet to learn more and after looking at the endless dubious massage services I found that the tantric term appeared quite frequently. I think thats when I might have first seen your site but there were others. In my searching I found a guy quite local to me who advertised massage for relaxation. My sports prescription had ended and although my back was mostly now ok I became quite focused on finding something to fix my need for touch. Parlors were out and there seemed no harm in contacting for a relaxation massage from a professional guy.

I made an appointment one cold afternoon at a suburban house. I was welcomed into a living room with a familiar massage table. The room seemed to be much less clinical than the room of my sports therapist. The space was certainly not threatening in any way and I’d become used to some of the massage protocols in my sports visits so I assumed something similar but less clinical. This is where my new experiences began I think.

I’ll refer to the practitioner as Brian. A very peaceful man in his 40s. After introducing himself and waiting for me to adjust to the room, take off my coat etc. I was invited to take a seat which was an armchair and explain my expectations while Brian listened. I remember telling him about my accident and massage treatment and I said that further relaxing massage might help as a self prescribed complete cure. I also told him that I found that my preference was for a male practitioner. As I talked I found myself beginning to anticipate the table time ahead in a way that hadn’t happened with my sports practitioner.

Brian said that he understood as much of the background as he needed to and that this would be a different experience because normally relaxation massages were more complete than sports or chiropractic. He invited me to use the shower, which I declined, and he left the room after telling me to undress and get onto the table. I put my clothes on the armchair and wrapped a towel, that Brian had left on the table, around me and climbed onto the table face down.

Brian soon returned although I couldn’t see him being face down. He turned on some quiet music and began a massage of my lower back and then to my shoulders. He used some oil and soon it began to occur to me that this was a very different experience from the sports massage. I found my mind wandering and into thoughts far from the reality of the day.

Brian didn’t remove the towel when he started on my legs but as he moved to my thighs the towel did get in the way. He asked if he could remove it to massage my butt and I happily murmured yes.

The massage continued as you might expect and I experienced it very sensually especially when I turned over, declining the towel as covering. Now I had a view of Brian, who was working shirtless. I found the combination of the touch of the massage and Brian’s appearance very arousing and although Brian did everything to slow me down the involuntary personal aspect of the massage was completed rather quickly.

Brian completed the massage for another 30 minutes I recall and I found myself completely relaxed and walking on air.

I used the shower and we talked for a while after I dressed. Since then I have returned to Brian quite frequently and feel more relaxed than I have for a long time.

Here’s the message you might like to take from this. I’ve found a safe and relaxing way to enjoy touch which is no longer available to me at home. I’ve been in good company and have made a new friend. Although I’ve always considered myself attracted to the opposite sex I’ve realized that I can completely enjoy the touch and company of a male in this context and I’ve come to appreciate the sensual and sexual potential of males in the same way that I’ve understood female attraction. I enjoy the company and the discretion and I will be enjoying my visits to Brian as far as I can see into the future.

It was a leap of faith for me to engage more of myself in this way and I would encourage any person who finds their ability to relax overwhelmed by routine, to find safe ways to enjoy whatever touch they can.

Hope this helps somebody.

John in Chicago

Tantric Triggers

Tantric Triggers

For those who find themselves on the Tantric path, new questions arise all the time.

Tantric practice is about relaxation of the mind and body and a Tantric approach to mindful relaxation often gives access to energies within that are often suppressed.

Sexual energy, for many, is the most deeply buried energy, and Tantric practice seeks to uncover that treasure. While buried within us, without outlet, sexual energy is a stressor which can be the source of many imbalances.

The purpose of Tantric practice is to heighten awareness of sexual energy and to balance mind and body. A first step is to begin to experience underused senses and how they can relate to sensual and sexual awareness.

Such practice can deliver deep relaxation of the mind and a heightened sense of relaxed well-being. The initial routes – always safe, sane and consensual –  are often through visual and touch stimulation.Tantric massage can provide incredibly exciting experiences, so much so that many people seek to move even further along the Tantric path and to enjoy this state of relaxation as part of their day to day lives.

But what is the next step after learning to appreciate how to receive and enjoy Tantric touch?

In heightening sensory awareness Tantric practice can begin to powerfully introduce sexual energy into the conscious mind. If that energy previously existed primarily in subconscious awareness, Tantra seeks to bring it more frequently into the conscious mind. This can be thought of as ‘mindful awareness’ and it is at that level that we can begin to integrate conscious Tantric sensuality with conscious sensual awareness. The reward is a reduction in daily mental stress as sexual energies become balanced and integrated with rational consciousness.

This endeavor is not as easy as might be imagined. In Tantric massage and related experiences the receiver is mostly passive, relaxing in the receipt of touch and reaching out to amplify and enhance that touch.

In ‘mindful awareness’ the Tantric purpose is to become a more active participant in creating the rise in energy and identifying and consciously promoting the relaxation ‘triggers’ that prompt the rise in sensual and sexual energy.

This level of participation in sensual and sexual exploration can be daunting at first but does bring entry into a world of previously unrealized consciousness. It begins to place sensual and sexual energy in a mindful consciousness that can be available 24/7 – not just on days when a Tantric massage or ritual session is available.

‘Tantric triggers’ are the switches or ‘turn-ons’ which are unique to each of us. Broad triggers could be visual, tactile, imaginary, taste-centered etc. Within those possibilities we each use imaginative energy to raise sexual/sensory consciousness.

The first step in a Tantric approach to ‘triggers’ is to recognize, consciously, what we are thinking and enjoying. Normally such thoughts can be allowed to surface, momentarily, from the subconscious in order to ‘enjoy the sexual and sensual moment’. In Tantra the goal is to ‘hold that thought’.

By becoming more conscious of the detail of such energy it can be recalled and given it its rightful place in the conscious mind.

The biggest initial hurdle is to overcome the perceived vulnerability that such consciousness raising requires. For many it is not easy to acknowledge the seemingly strange ‘turn on triggers’ that can be so powerful. We might know that we have always been turned on by particular body parts or characteristics but beyond disclosing an interest in socially acceptable ‘norms’, we can feel less inclined to disclose or seek the stimulation of preferences which might be thought of as ‘weird’ or ‘fetish’. So, often, that interest is kept secret, within within an individual.

Tantra looks to encourage enjoying that subconscious interest and energy so that it can become part of the conscious, relaxed mind and body.

There are many approaches in Tantra to reaching these levels of self-awareness. Massage and ritual can help.

So, for any who feel there are levels of subconscious energy that could be enjoyed – take the risk to talk further about these approaches.

Colin

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Differences & Distinctions

Often a question is asked about the difference between Tantric massage, relaxing massage, full body massage, erotic massage, therapeutic massage etc.

In truth it is likely that there are as many definitions and answers as there are practitioners. Still, it’s a fair question.

Definitions and descriptions of massage ‘techniques’ e.g. Swedish, Lomi Lomi, Thai, Reiki etc. can easily be researched and described definitively but defining ‘relaxing’ in massage is more subjective.

Any relaxing massage experience is hopefully designed to be a pleasant experience, but what of the question defining the descriptions of full body – relaxing – erotic – Tantric. Isn’t it all the same?

Happily it is normal to experience a relaxing massage as an erotic experience even if it’s not ‘full body’. Simple touch, in the right circumstance can be incredibly and surprisingly erotic. Certainly a ‘full body’ relaxing massage, is likely to result in an erotic experience.

Tantric massage sessions tend to be longer than simple full body relaxation massage. Perhaps Tantric massage is best defined as a shared journey, where natural energy and reactions are mutually enjoyed by both receiver and giver.

There is always a ‘safe landing’ and the effects of the experience can last for many days afterwards.

In Tantric massage the experience is always about the journey without undue focus on the destination. Relaxation massage, erotic massage, full body massage, therapeutic massage, Tantric massage, combinations of all – it’s all good.

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Time & Tantra

Time & Tantra

Tantric practice encourages the idea of an ‘experience’ rather than a ‘session’, whether or not the time is in massage, ritual, discovery or any combination of Tantric practice.

Such experience is timeless – in that the experience tends to find its own unique pace and is not necessarily divided into hourly segments.

For this reason ‘clock watching’ is not part of Tantric experience. The idea is to provide an experience to relax the mind and body and thereby raise physical consciousness and heighten awareness. How this develops in any individual will be unique to the moment and certainly the benefit can be defeated by watching the clock too closely. That’s not to say that time constraints are not a reality to be respected at times. Just that experiences, short or long, need not necessarily be measured by the clock.

If Tantric practice requires anything from followers, those requirements, at least, are an open and curious mind and a generosity of spirit. So we always approach experiential time with generosity not measured by hours and minutes.

Sometimes the experience will last long – other times it maybe shorter.  Always, though, it will be a unique experience – never a ‘timed session’.  We don’t always have to make the massage ‘run on time’!

Colin

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Sticky Labels, Fantasy & Happy Places

MassageOilOne of the most common barriers in seeking peace of mind is the construction of a fence of labels in the mind.

These labels are often simply flimsy figments of  imagination, ready to be blown away with a puff of positive energy.

Often, potential peace of mind is denied by imagining and internalizing a self identity – a label that seems to fit in a personal universe.

But are the labels really useful and a best fit? If there are too many mismatches it can be uncomfortable to exist in the world. Since it’s more difficult to change the world than it is to change a few psychic assumptions, Tantric practice works on taking  thoughts to more productive and happier places – and so to greater peace of mind.

Tantra deals with personal energy and life forces. Conscious energy and involuntary energy.

The strongest of these energies is sexual energy and the labeling of sexual preferences, fantasies and thoughts often creates much confusion.

Thoughts and fantasies can change, recur, renew etc., as time passes. Self images are created as a fit with what exists in any personal daily universe. The image is purposefully self created  but does not always mesh with other involuntary thoughts and fantasies.

What to do? The excluded thoughts and images just don’t go away. It’s not that those thoughts and fantasies are dangerous, unlawful or harmful to self or others. It’s just that they don’t match the self image. So, quite often the thoughts and energies are buried in the back of the mind. But they don’t cease to exist.

Such burials can be a waste of energy and can distract from a peaceful and productive existence.

Tantric practice and massage can help to resurrect and  find a useful place for such buried energy. It can find a map to hidden treasures – the acceptance of self, and greater peace of mind.

Tantric practice is about the conscious and enjoyable control of the energies that inevitably play in the mind and body. Always the most powerful and fascinating of those energies is sexual energy. It is disabling to deny that fact and enabling to control and enjoy it.

The suppression and pigeonholing of thoughts can be paralyzing. Tantric practice offers the chance to safely explore thoughts and fantasies and to include them in real life. To make them fit with self image.

To erase some of the useless labels. To learn to enjoy some fantasies and find some happy places.

Colin

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Posing for Art – In Tantric Style

Posing for Art – in Tantric style

This email was received  from a reader in New York. It’s worth reading and she has permitted me to post it, albeit I’ve deleted her name for privacy reasons.

 

 

Subject: Your Blog
From: **********@gmail.com

Hello Colin,

You might not get many emails like this and you don’t know me but I’m a regular reader of your blog.

I might be an unusual reader because I’m a female artist and photographer. I live in New York.

I wanted to add my 2 cents to the subjects you’ve included in your blog and say that a lot of this turns out to be useful in helping me with my art.

Mostly my art is interpretation of the human form. I use everything from oil on canvass to watercolor to pen & ink. I also often use photographic images to combine. I also teach drawing and composition in private art classes. Please read on and don’t imagine this is a pitch to get you to include my pictures on your blog. Its not about that.

I’ve been a professional artist for many years and specialize in human figure work as its always appealed to me as offering the best chances to produce unique work. Every body is completely unique and ever changing and I like to capture those changes ‘in the moment’.

I have many artist friends who have the same experience as me when trying to find session models. Its not difficult to find female models to pose but not so in finding male models.

If its just me painting or a class its usually not easy to find a male who can pose, often nude, to suit the needs of the artists. I think the convention is that its easier for females to feel comfortable about posing than males. Also conventions in our modern society have tended to prefer to view the female form than the male, although I think some things are changing in regards to that statement.

Part of my difficulty might have been in my approach to what I want to portray and I’ll say how I’ve solved the problem, personally, although I know generally that I’m not alone whatever the artistic approach requires.

Early in my career I found that capturing the human form was mostly a very sterile experience especially considering the excitement that the human body can generate. Artists are usually so concentrated on their work that the actual energy of the subject often escapes. Apologies to the many who do capture the energy of their subject.

In classical works portraying nudes, the energy is often captured, somehow, and we find that shared between the sexes.

My purpose and enjoyment has been to specialize in capturing sexual energy and tension and that is not a sterile task. It means asking a model not just to pose but actually to allow themselves to be part of an energy and image that can be observed by an artist and transferred to a canvass.

That’s asking a lot of any model and particularly a male model. I’m asking someone to pose in a state of sexual awareness or arousal which is a difficult thing for many to imagine in the usual art studio atmosphere. Mostly in figure work we encourage artists and students to ignore the elephant in the room and certainly never to venture personal approval or comment about the model.

My solution to the problem occurred when I met a guy giving massage in tantric styles, mostly to other men. We got talking and I told him what I did and what the problems often were. What he told me was very similar to what’s in your blog which is that tantric experience seems to allow people to be able to get more enjoyment from the sensuality of their bodies and to enjoy themselves for longer. Also to be less inhibited without being antisocial.

I didn’t know much about tantric massage etc. but I asked the guy if he’d like to pose at a small class that I had coming up to see if his ideas worked.

He agreed and I held the session at my studio. I think there were 4 artists at different levels of skill or objective.

At the time I wanted to sketch and paint a male in a state of heightened arousal, combining the facial expression with the genital expression. That was the objective of all of us to varying degrees.

My tantric friend said he understood what I intended and delivered beautifully. He was completely confident in himself and gave the room an energy which did seem to inspire the artists.

Since then I’ve been able to invite, through my friend, many of his clients, also to pose and we’ve been able to focus and capture so much of the human form, in my opinion, in unique ways.

I’ve also come to learn more about tantra and have actually posed for a few sessions myself.

I’d say to any of your tantric readers that this is a practical use of the energy and erotic control that can be learned and that appreciation of the human form is something that should be encouraged and that sexual energy can actually be seen and experienced through the brush and canvass where the artist and model can move themselves to the same wavelength.

I hope this is of interest to you.

By the way, I should mention that as a female artist, equally curious about the male form, and the female form and all gender forms I enjoy working with all sexes.

Whatever the gender mix I say the same thing, that the model is completely deserving of our deep respect and gratitude. Its not an easy thing to reach and maintain a state of arousal in a group of people.

To all participants I say that they will themselves likely experience a sexual energy and they should use that to encourage their work. Often these sessions have given artists a very different view of sexuality in art than conventional figure sessions.

We’ve encouraged requests and positive comments and at times have posed two models at the same time. We’ve created a studio atmosphere that encourages artist/model communication. Although the standard of work necessarily varies, none in the classes are there to judge. Personally I’ll help when I’m asked. The surprising thing for me is how uniquely inspired the finished pieces so often are. Also how much more comfortable everybody is able to become with their physical selves through such uninhibited artistic interaction.

To be able to absorb so closely aspects of the human body that are often only brushed over has been most exciting for me and others.

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Performance Art & Stage Nudity

Performance Art & Stage Nudity

Many posts ago I published the following account by a photographer and artist  friend of mine. It’s a blog discussing nude performance in theatre and in the arts generally.

http://onstagenudity.blogspot.ca/  (Copy & paste this link separately to access the site without registering a Google account)

The link is entirely safe and informative. Check out the videos and further links on the site.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

Private Performance Art

My name is Kirby and I’m a performance artist, actor and photographer.

The connections in my career are joined by the thread of how other people are seeing and experiencing the world. How they react to theatre, paintings,  photography, performances etc.

I’ve traveled around the world as a performance artist working for many other artists and producers and it was fun to recently be part of the photo exhibition that Colin wrote about.

Some of my performance art work is for individuals and private home parties and Colin asked me to write something about how it works and what I do.

Shamelessly I’ll mention that I’m always for hire – almost always.

To start with I thought it would be best to make a frame of reference. You may have read about sushi restaurants where a naked person – usually female – is the table centerpiece for the food. Diners select their food placed on her body.

Then sometimes in the news are art shows where people pose as art themselves. Then there is body painting, strippers, bachelorette parties etc., and the list goes on. These are all settings where people are naked for the pleasure and curiosity of others.

What is not often mentioned is that people quite often hire performance artists to appear privately at their homes. I do this quite frequently and Colin thought it would be interesting to know about it.

In the past I’ve been hired to come to private dinner parties, be a ‘curiosity’ for romantic evenings, be an ‘object’ as an alternative to ‘web browsing’, be the table decoration for stag and staggette parties – it’s a long list and I can’t remember every type of client.

The better way to describe things is like this.

All people who ask me to visit have some important things in common. They appreciate seeing and being around naked humans, especially in unlikely settings. They enjoy erotic fantasy and they are bold enough to try and make some unique art experiences for themselves.

I act as an ‘assist’ in the private art and experience of such people. It’s not the same as hiring a stripper.

The stripper is the focus of attention – the ‘show’.

In my case I’m there to follow and be part of the fantasy of the ‘audience’ and the ‘audience’ is writing the script and directing the action. I hope that explains the distinction.

I can recall some scenarios which might give a flavor of how some things evolve.

Almost always I get invited by referral – that’s why I’m grateful to Colin for allowing me to make my existence known! –  and I get an outline of what might be planned. Otherwise I just follow instructions.

Perhaps the most common task has been to be a table centerpiece for small dinner parties. In these scenarios I’ve just been required to lie on a dinner table and the guests have served themselves from whatever and however the food has been arranged on and around me.

I’ve been prepared and dressed in every imaginable way, from briefs to leafy lettuce covering my genitals.

I don’t speak and nobody speaks to me. Usually my face is covered and so my reactions don’t disturb the flow of the party.

As people become more relaxed their comfort levels change. These are all general comments but usually at first there is much talk about having a nude male on the dinner table. It becomes the focus of attention. Then the novelty begins to wear off after all the obvious jokes have been exchanged. Initially this is much to do with the natural nerves of people. There is likely nothing that can be said that I haven’t heard and I just lie quietly. Sometimes things are said that are very funny and I have to control the desire to laugh.

As the food gets underway and wine lubricates the company, attention often moves back to the table ‘decoration’.

Often by now people will have become more daring – moving the lettuce leaf etc. I’ve been touched and prodded in every place, had chocolate licked from my toes, whipped cream licked from my nipples – all the things you can imagine and possibly not imagine.

This is all part of the ‘play’ and I’m pleased to be part of it. It’s a unique experience for all those participating and really my body is theirs for the evening, just as all of the other features – food, drink, setting – are part of the experience.

For me this is a unique and positive experience, just as I hope it is for those writing the ‘script’.

Guests have been any mix of LGBTQI combinations – couples, singles, all female, all male – I can recall just about any combo. Party size has also varied from just 3 or 4 people to larger parties. Ten guests is probably the greatest number.

Whatever the mix, at some point, usually around dessert time, somebody will always want to bring the focus back to me, having ‘accidentally’ moved the ‘lettuce’.

The rules of every event are set by the host in advance. I agree to anything ahead of time so long as it’s not painful, dangerous or too uncomfortable. It’s almost automatic that food or drink will be spilt on me. I’m usually pretty sticky by the end.

Where we’ve agreed that genital inclusion is ‘allowed’ I just go with the flow, albeit actual sex is not on the menu.  I’ve experienced bets being taken on my size when erect. I’ve been carefully stroked and lubricated with every liquid imaginable.

I’ve got good control – years of Tantric practice! – so it’s unlikely there will be ‘accidents’.

So that’s an idea of dinner party scenarios.

Equally likely are scenarios where I’m asked just to be around when a client wishes to host some visitors at home.

I’ve been asked to be just a ‘dumb’ body among small groups of people. I’ve been dressed in all type of outfits. I’ve been ‘made-up’, cross dressed, used as furniture, used to serve food and drinks etc.

Always I am just a ‘prop’ and a device to make the event interestingly erotic. So I contribute nothing but my agreement to follow the ‘script’. I never know exactly how it will unfold.

The general likelihood is that my body will be on hand for whatever preference and fantasy the host or guests have in mind. So I’ve been dressed, undressed, painted, watched, bathed, dirtied – whatever has seemed fun.

One thing that always surprises me is that there never seems to be a limit to the fetish imagination of people and my presence is an ideal chance for many to play out their fetish fantasy. Being ‘dumb’, there is the assurance that I’m not judging or commenting.

Painful, penetrative and dangerous play are not options but short of that I’ll try to please. There are the obvious attentions to genital and anal areas but there is rarely a problem with somebody wanting to go beyond the artistic or erotic.

Often, but not always, a guest or host will get naked or dress in fetish or unusual ways. It’s great to see people with the opportunity to be free to express themselves so openly in such safe circumstances.

I’ll mention two other categories. I often get asked to attend either a single person or a couple seeking to explore a fantasy.

A common theme has me just being in the home almost as a piece of decoration or furniture. Almost always I’m asked to be naked and I become a sort of ‘touchstone’. Something to place in a spot in the room, put your feet up on, play with, dress, undress etc. Somebody once said to me that it was like having a Ken/Barbie available in real life.

These become very private experiences and do qualify as performance art. I remain passive and responsive, always remaining part of the script – never writing it. I’ll certainly give guidance before but otherwise I just happily lend my body.

Not every ‘script’ needs to be overtly sexual. It can be sensual/erotic/playful etc. But there is nothing wrong with the ‘script’ being particularly sexual either.

I’m often a ‘distraction’ during TV commercials if I’m hired to be somebody’s ‘art’ for the evening and being used as eye/fantasy material.

On many occasions with couples – m/f, m/m/ and f/f I’m there to satisfy curiosity and explore comparisons.

Sometimes my sponsor has been a female who wants to encourage her mate to become more familiar with the body of another male. To mutually enjoy same gender erotic fantasies.

I’ve had f/f couples who want to add some safe male energy to their erotic ‘play’ and appreciation.

Of course I frequently become the ‘muse’ of other males and it’s great to find myself a passive inspiration.

These recollections and reflections are incomplete. There have been so many variations on these themes.

For me, every occasion is an adventure in art. In enabling artistic fantasy in this way I lend my body, passively – a sort of canvass for others to paint on.

Personally I’m completely comfortable to be seen naked and to open the more intimate parts of my body to those inviting me. The purpose of art is to open the mind to the unexpressed and performance art and times spent in these ways does exactly that.

I don’t publish pictures of myself or advertise. I’m healthy and, I’m told, pleasing to look at, but this isn’t about me or my appearance. It’s about the very unusual and exceptional opportunity to bring a private form of art, alive.

If any of this connects with you then call or write to Colin and he’ll give you my contact information.

I do know some other performers if I’m not around and Colin’s got a list of names.

I know he’s done some similar work himself, also.

Let your imagination loose. You’ll never regret it.

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Tantra, Fetish & Kink

Tantric Fetish & Kink

Tantric massage can often be an experience of connecting the mind to the body..

The pace of life today often seems to block consciousness of the pleasure of physical sensations. Consciousness of self, as an erotic being, can be at risk.

Tantric massage and touch can re-awaken erotic consciousness and Tantric Practice is very much about heightening erotic physical and mental awareness.

Within the Tantric experience, massage, perhaps, has the broadest appeal, but the opportunity also exists to delve deeper into Tantric sensation potentials.

As the mind begins to make more space for sensual and erotic stimulation, and as mental and physical awareness is heightened, the imagination of the erotic begins to challenge the physical body – thoughts of making fantasies into realities.

Within Tantric Practice it is possible to raise the sensitivity and expand the erogenous potentials of the body.

Over time body and mind become more conscious of erotic potential and imagination begins to expand horizons. More fantasy can enter the door of consciousness that Tantric Practice has opened, enabling opportunities to actualize fantasies.

Actualization of erotic imagery is often described, sometimes quite dismissively, as ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But imagination should not be dismissed so easily.

Kinks and fetishes are entirely Tantric and are as valuable and valid as any part of erotic imagination.

It’s often difficult to discuss particular ‘turn-ons’, imagining that such thoughts are outside of a Tantric experience. The truth is that actualization of erotic imagery, however ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’ it might seem, (with the obvious exceptions of activity that is not lawful, sane, safe or consensual) is welcomed in Tantra and is regarded as the positive product of sensual and erotic imagination. Where actualization needs to happen with a partner, the participation of a guide in Tantric Practice can be the perfect solution.

To all who enjoy the world of Tantric Practice and massage, feel welcome to share thoughts about actualizing fantasies and finding comfort in every experience.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                      Email:  co.lins@outlook.com

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ACTUALIZING FANTASY

New Year Resolution:

Make your Fantasies your Realities – It’s never too late!

Explore the pleasures of Mind and Body – and break all barriers of discrimination.

Open Reply to Ritual Post

Open Reply to Protected Ritual Post

It was kind of my visitor to allow his very descriptive email to be posted on this blog and at his request I did add a password to access the text. (With his permission I’ve removed the password, now and his email follows in the next post)

While I have replied to him privately he does raise some interesting and exciting issues which are worth some further thought.

His email describes an experience he had where he was introduced to a group of individuals who follow a Tantric lifestyle. The group was organized by a Tantric guide whom he visits for massage.

In his message he describes in much detail the introduction ceremony and ritual that was practiced to initiate him into the group and he asks whether what he experienced was common to all Tantric practice.

It’s worth noting that he expressed no negative thoughts and was simply seeking further information. Since I know him personally I know his questions to be sincere and his descriptions to be accurate.

In considering his questions it’s worth making a distinction between Tantric massage and Tantric practice in general. In this blog I’ve discussed many aspects of Tantric massage but the email talks about ritual and ceremony so I’ll set aside the massage element in this response and primarily talk about Tantric ritual and lifestyle.

Tantric practice is always about understanding the distribution of physical and intellectual energy in ourselves and others. Particularly sexual energy, which can be the most powerful force within us.

Any ceremony or ritual that recognizes these dynamics and moves participants comfortably, progressing them in adjusting and raising their awareness, is a valid presentation of Tantric practice.

The email describes a small group where two people are introduced to others further along the path, in a process designed to raise Tantric consciousness. The ceremony seems relatively simple and was clearly designed to consciously raise sensual and sexual energy and to provide an early step in opening minds and reducing inhibitions.

The form of ritual and wording described is quite common in Tantric practice and honors the participants as valued individuals and in every aspect of their beings.

There are more elaborate rituals than the one described and as this group moves on to further Tantric understandings it is likely that the ceremonies will require increasing intensity of thought and action as consciousness is continually raised.

Tantric ritual and practice is definitely not intended to be ‘secret’ or exclusive. The strength is to open minds and bodies to healthy understanding of the energies within us and to enjoy those energies in day to day life.

To be successful and take full advantage of the opportunities, stages of practice are introduced so that the process does not become overwhelming.

Many writings and rituals on this subject are available. I will make some chapters available describing how solo and group Tantric practice can be approached and successfully enjoyed. I’ll make them available through this blog whenever requested.

My friend’s experience seems entirely Tantric in its intent and practice and I’ve wished him well in the next stages. It does appear that he is in the hands of a practiced Tantric guide. I’ve asked him to send any further ceremony descriptions if he’d like to.

For those readers who find this topic interesting and would like to share experiences, questions or ideas, please do feel welcome to write to me, always in confidence of course.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051       Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Tantric Ritual Experience

Subject: tantra group
From:@gmail.com

Its Ed here from Toronto.

I thought you would be interested to hear how my Tantric ritual encounter group went and compared with other groups that I havent been able to come to.

I told you before about the guy that Ive been getting massage from near me. He also has workshop groups which take people through stages of tantra massage etc. His ideas seem very like yours and so we got talking and I went to one of his group sessions. He’d told me that there was one other client of his at the same stage as me so we could be introduced together.

My description might be on the long side but I’m really interested to hear if it matches what you do.

I arrived at Petes place at the same time as the other guy whose name was Brian. Pete and 3 other guys and a female whose name was Dawn were there, so there were 7 of us.

Pete had put on some snacks etc. and made the room comfortable with a tantric altar, drapes and candles.

I can’t remember everyones names except Brian and Dawn but we were introduced. I was quite nervous not knowing how this was going to work out and I think Brian was as well. Pete and the others were dressed very loosely in what looked like silk pajamas. Brian and I were dressed in street clothes like slacks and shirts.They were all very nice to us. It seemed one of the guys was partnered with Dawn but they all obviously knew each other and were very relaxed. I guess theyd been there awhile before we arrived.

Pete had turned off most room lights and lit the candles. The mood in the room was friendly and positive so my nerves were beginning to relax.

Pete then took us through many of the concepts of tantra – energy, chakras etc. It was all what we’ve talked about but was worth rehearing as it always is. Then he welcomed me and Brian and said that the time of the evening was to introduce us to another level of tantrra beyond massage and that what we would experience would raise our knowledge of ourselves and make us more conscious of mental and physical pleasure.

I remember him saying that at first we might find the experience awkward but if we gave ourselves over to it we’d enjoy longlasting rewards and that tantra would open out minds and make us more conscious of sensual touch etc.

Brian and I were given pajamas like the others were wearing and sent to the bathroom together to change. Pete said to just wear the outfits and nothing else. It seemed a bit strange changing in the bathroom with a guy I’d never met before but he was a nice guy and I think he was thinking mostly about all this the same as me. We knew Pete from massage sessions and that he was totally sincere so no problem.

The pajamas were silk or something similar and felt comfortable and we went back into the room. Pete had put a low covered platform in front of the couch where the others were sitting. It might have been a low coffee table or something similar covered by a colored drape or cloth. Might have been 12″ above the floor and we were instructed the stand together facing the others on the table platform.

We stepped up and stood facing the others and Pete was to the side. In the background was chanting music and that with the candle light gave the place an exciting feel.

Pete then quietly announced that we were gathered to offer thanks for the chance to present ourselves in a safe and honoured way and to experience the energy trapped within us and to let loose that energy under our own conscious control. It was something like that and I can’t remember exactly. You might know better the wording or idea.

More words followed as we stood there and then we were told that our bodies and minds were to be honoured tonight in tantric open ritual and in offering ourselves as vulnerable we would move toward a better control of our own consciousness. As he talked Pete moved toward us and asked us to unbutton and remove the pajamas.

We followed his request, rather clumsily I felt, and then continued standing nude on the platform. I wasn’t sure where to look or whether to make eye contact with the others.

Pete then moved me closer to Brian and with a strap of some sort joined my right ankle to his left and my right wrist to his left wrist. I could feel his body heat at the points where our legs and arms touched. The straps were not tight or uncomfortable but joined us in an interesting way.

Then he put a fabric belt of some sort around my waist and with another loose strap attached my left wrist to the belt. So I could move my hand and arm at my side but not to the front or back. Same with Brian right arm.

The straps had distracted me for a moment from reminding myself that I was naked and as I again became conscious of that Pete came with a blindfold and covered my eyes and Brian’s.

More words from Pete who said that now our ‘companions’ as he called them would engage tantric ritual in recognizing the sacred bodies of Ed and Brian in part and in whole.

I won’t describe the whole thing but will mention the format which was repeated many times.

I could sense one person rose from the couch and came to the platform. We know who it was by voice alone. In the first experience the person came to the platform, probably knelt and placed his hands on my feet and said that he honoured Eds feet and gave thanks for sharing them with the group. He did the same with Brian. I felt the warm sensation of his hands stroking my feet and I felt that his hands were coated in what was likely a massage oil which transferred to my feet. At the time that he rubbed in the oil he said that the oil would annoint and raise a tantric energy.

I could feel myself becoming hard for the foot rub was very sensual. Because my wrists were strapped I couldn’t reach to cover my self or check anything and now I realised part of the point of the straps.

The person seemed to step back and sat down after making the same offerings to Brian.

I remember the next to attend was Dawn. She recited the same words as previously, this time honouring my legs, and Brian’s after, and thanking us for sharing ourselves. Her hands were covered in warm oil and she spread the oil on each leg up to the knee and sat down.

Again the sensation was so intense and I knew I was very hard. It wasn’t just the touch but the knowledge that all was being observed and I began to find myself thinking beyond the physical sensation since I could not touch my self.

Next somebody arose to recognize my thighs and annoint, always with the same form of words, gently and respectfully spoken. I remember this being the first time of any touch close to my genital region and I began to anticipate the possibility of annointing my genital region and thinking that likely wouild not happen. But it did, after the thighs.

The companion spoke the words honouring my scrotum and testicles and he used those actual words and annointed with more oil. The same for Brian, I could hear.

I wasn’t sure what to expect next and it was Dawn who came forward. She used the now familiar words honouring my penis and the expression of liquid energy it was presenting. I could sense that she must be looking at some precum. From massage exercizes I had been practicing controlling ejaculation and this was the time to control. I remeber breathing deeply as Dawn annointed me with oil and touched the now very moist tip and glans of my penis.

Although Dawn was female it was clear throughout that gender had little to do with tantric sexuality. It could just as well have been one of the guys annointing my penis. The ritual was about how Brian and I experienced the time and not who was providing the experience or their gender.

Later I talked to Dawn about this. I asked her if she had particularly chosen to honour our penises. She said that she had and that she felt that penisies should be enjoyed and offered by and to all genders and that in tantra we should learn that sensuality is independent of gender. Her question was, if tantra was to be useful in raising consciousness then that consciousness should be available to everyone in tantra. She remembered her own experience being moved in a group session like this, She said that the companions were all gay men and that they honoured her in exactly the same way as they would a guy.

With the same directness she said that the experience was just as erotic and sensual for her and so her own genital regions had become just as wet as the tip of any penis.  The thing for her was always to enjoy bodies whoever they belonged to.

We continued in this fashion which included my anus, stomach, nipples, neck, face, arms and various other bodyparts and regions.

Each touch became more and more intense. At the end of what must have lasted nearly an hour I was covered in oil and sweat as was my new companion, Brian.

We could feel each others exhaustion as Pete gave thanks for our energy and physical and mental beings. He then undid the straps and removed the blindfolds.

Immediately we saw that our tantric companions were now naked themselves.

In front of them were drapes laid out on the floor. Pete asked Brian and I to stretch out on the floor which we gratefully did after standing for nearly an hour. Then bowels of warm water were produced and we were washed by all four companions with some sort of herbal soap from head to toe.

After being dried the end of the ritual seemed to be approaching.

Pete recited that we were all now companions on the tantric path, conscious of our physical and mental energies and in control of our sensuality.

To demonstrate this control and shared path we were invited to join in a tantric hug as Pete called it. In group hugs, he said sexual energy was discounted. In a tantric hug, as in tantra, the object is to reciognize and enjoy sexual energy. To close the ritual we should allow ourselves to release the energy generated in this ritual evening and share that energy with our companions.

With that Pete embraced us all and gently reached for the closest erect penis. We followed his lead and assisted our companions in mutual masturbation. What happened was that we all fell to the floor and allowed whoever was nearest to work on us until each had ejaculated. We became an incredible, sweaty, sticky mess of flesh and at the end I can say that I’ve never felt so relaxed and empowered and this experience stays with me even now.

Next time I will be honoring another new companion. After we got cleaned up, in talking in Petes studio I discovered just how connected tantric practice can make people who have shared and deliberately presented to others what is unfortunately usually kept too personal.

Thats my account, which could go on longer but I’d be really interested in how close this is to your group sessions and tantric ritual.

I’ll call when I get into town.

Thanks Colin.

Ed

Mindful Massage & Sensual Escape

Tantric massage is a conscious, sensual,  full body experience.

It’s a flow of positive energy enjoyed in a warm and safe environment.

It’s a space where the clock and the phone can be turned off. Where the shower can be long. Where the direction is relaxed, genuine and personal.

This is unrushed time that allows a slow and mindful experience of heightened awareness. It’s time away from reality where relaxation and re-discovery are possible.

To find out more  please do read further in the blog and call or email.

Tel: 250-984-7051 or email: co.lins@outlook.com

Colin 

The Erogenous Zone

The Erogenous Zone

Tantric massage is much more than simply physical massage.

Genuinely delivered, the massage experience can touch the mind as much as the body.

There are many posts in this blog which describe aspects of Tantric practice but perhaps the simplest explanation of Tantra touches on the pleasant distribution of the potential energy contained in the mind and body.

For those exploring Tantric massage there is an experience of mental and physical relaxation. It’s possible to simply submit to the relief and energy movement that full body Tantric touch brings, allowing the mind and body to wander.

Properly performed, Tantric massage is an open ended, timeless experience, raising the conscious and subconscious sensual potential of the entire being.

There is nothing wrong and everything right about enabling and allowing such experience.

But Tantra can take us even further into the land of sensuality.

Much of our potential energy begins in the mind. Imagination is the beginning and the motivation for every experience that we create for ourselves. Tantric practice can help free the mind and enable enjoyment and further the energy that is often buried in the subconscious mind.

There is more than one way to enjoy Tantric time and massage. Either passively, which can be wonderfully relaxing, or actively – consciously engaging and stimulating the imagination as well as the physical being.

It’s the active option that is the subject of this note.

It’s no secret that the human body enjoys the sensation of friendly touch. Tantric massage enhances the experience of positive touch. Passively enjoying touch to sensitive body regions can provide sexual and sensual stimulation and we can enjoy these sensations without thought or effort.

But the body has the potential to develop many more erogenous zones than simply the obvious ones.

This is where imaginative energy and conscious and heightened awareness can serve.

By deliberately becoming mindful about the touch being received it’s possible to discover that the entire body is a potential erogenous and erotic zone. This discovery and practice can have fundamental impacts on day to day life.

The mind can connect with the energies of the impulses of the physical body more readily, and the imagination can be controlled and directed positively and holistically.

The imagination can begin to associate personal space and environment more closely with the potential for positive physical and mental experience.

Positive potential can be found in experiences that formerly may have been ignored or found potentially negative. Value can begin to be found in sights and feelings that have appeared neutral or negative in the past.

The most powerful energy force within us is sexual energy and thus Tantra, with its emphasis on mindful sensuality, is the ideal route to opening the mind and expanding sexual imagination.

So, when you decide to treat yourself to a sensual Tantric massage, it’s entirely possible to take from the experience, not only some time of physical relaxation, but also the beginnings of a pleasant and permanent change in mental and physical consciousness.

In other words the experience does not have to end at the door on the way out.

Colin

Tel:  250-984-7051                             Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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A Happy Ending

Happy Ending….

‘…..I looked around, enjoying being reminded that we were all naked and having fun, combined with some useful intent. I took a deep breath again and allowed my arousal to be free and settled on my back on the table. Julia propped my head with a pillow and I prepared for what I imagined would be the more complicated part of interpreting the spa rules.’

My ‘flip’, as Julia professionally referred to it, was text-book, apparently. The spa had rules in place to anticipate my aroused condition and Julia talked through them for my information and for her practice. There couldn’t be any manual stimulation. Jeffery was going to give her some tips how she might expand her personal practice within the rules. At the time not much of this plan mattered to me.

The spa protocol was to pay no attention to the aroused member and make small talk while quickly draping the naked client.

Julia completed the draping protocol effectively and completely. I felt the draft of the sheet against my skin and its settling onto my torso and legs. My erection was maintaining and I also felt the weight of the sheet against the tip of my cock.

I knew I was leaking evidence of my arousal and that the fluid must be marking the spot on the sheet – the truest of wet spots.

In the context of this massage among friends I guessed this didn’t matter but as a characteristic of spa experience Jeffery brought it to Julia’s attention. She said that such obvious discharge happened often with aroused male clients and that she regarded it as a signal to be respectful of the client’s immediate sensitivities. Her understatement didn’t go unnoticed by any of us.

She progressed the massage over the sheet, briefly manipulating from my shoulders to my feet. The views that I had of her naked form combined with the sensations of touch did nothing to diminish my arousal. I could feel the fluid release absorbing on the sheet and continuing to shift against the tip of my cock.

Julia returned her attention to my chest and torso, having finished her brief trip to my legs and feet. She pulled back the sheet far enough to reveal my chest, torso and belly but still covering my pubic and genital region. My cock now supported an extra layer of sheet as it was doubled up and further covered my lower half. Happily I remained solid enough to support the extra weight – not difficult with my, by now, almost permanent erection.

My uncovering revealed the unusual creature tattoo inked close to my nipple. Stephen had described my tattoos but this was her first opportunity to examine this one. She said that spa protocol allowed comment and conversation about any revealed body modification and she said that it seemed a happy creature living a fascinating life on my chest, sharing the pleasures of my nipple. The attention moved my erection, and as I looked up at Julia’s naked breasts my world seemed entirely comprised of nipples!

Julia began massage to my chest, using a combination of light and deeper touch. By now my nipples seemed to be alight with energy that was traveling directly to my cock. As her hands and movements progressed down my body toward my belly I found myself tempted to reach out to touch Julia but she was skilled in using her movement to avoid my reach.

She spoke a commentary, intended mostly for Jeffery, that described what she was doing and how, at this point she felt quite sympathetic towards her very often, very aroused clients.

Jeffery told her to continue as she was for the time being.

Having completed a tour of my torso and belly – dangerously close to my solid, sheet covered cock, she moved out of my field of vision, toward my feet and uncovered my legs and thighs as far as my upper thigh. My cock and genital area remained sheeted.

I enjoyed the massage of my feet and legs exquisitely, and as progress was made toward my thighs.

Julia had been using a light oil throughout and her hands moved confidently and carefully over my exposed skin and muscle. I’m cutting short most of the massage experience description. Be certain it is one of the most memorable hours of my life.

Arrival at my upper thighs caused Julia to stop and ask Jeffery, now, for guidance. Her questions were about remaining within the spa protocols and at the same time providing true relief for clients who may be ‘stressed’ – as I clearly was!

Jeffery said that he had developed approaches which pleased everybody. He reminded that she had used the ‘thigh grip’ in the first stage of the massage when I was face down. He advised her to use this approach again. She pushed one side of the covering sheet further over my genitals, exposing entirely my upper thigh and threaded her arm around my thigh. I felt her upper arm against my genitals as she increased the squeeze to my thigh. In releasing now she was able to manipulate my thigh with her fingers, carefully reaching deeply into my crotch but without deliberate contact with my cock or balls. My erection remained covered but could hardly have been unseen.

Julia moved to the other side and repeated the process once my thigh had been exposed. The sheet now covered only my genital area and I felt the rest of it resting between my legs and on the table below my balls.

At this point Julia appealed to Jeffery for advice. How could she deal with this clear need to complete the touch and remain within the rules? I was certainly as desperate for an answer as much as she was – maybe she was more curious than desperate.

Jeffery said that the spa rules allowed clients to be naked in the process of getting on or off the table prior to being draped or finishing and discarding the sheet. Further that being undraped while face down was permitted.

So technically I could remove the final cover of the sheet myself. Not all spas followed this protocol but his had that flexibility. So Julia could tell me that I could discard the sheet now, prior to stepping down from the table.

Jeffery said that there was no rule that Julia could not converse further with me, uncovered, as I prepared to leave the table. She could enquire how I felt – loose, tight, relaxed etc. and she could engage the client’s answers.

During this closing conversation there was no rule that could compel her not to look at the genital area, Jeffery said. As he advised her I remained exposed, naked and hopelessly hard.

Stephen was obviously enjoying my situation, remarking, with fake sympathy, that he was sure that Jeffery would think of something.

Now Jeffery said that we entered into a grey area but one which had worked, seemingly, within their protocol. He noted that Julia might have left her oil bottle by the other side of the table. She hadn’t this time but at their spa there was a small table, apparently, beside the massage table upon which the practitioner could leave oils, etc. while working. It was OK for Julia to reach across to retrieve a bottle or other item rather than walking around the table.

Jeffery suggested she reach across me to collect an item from this small table, excusing herself as she did so. It might be, he said, that her body makes contact with a client’s genital area – even an erect penis. It might be that in extending her reach across the client she loses balance or has to extend further.

At this point she can apologize and recover herself or remain extended across him, according to whether the client seems comfortable or particularly uncomfortable with the circumstance.

In the situations where there is no discomfort indicated – always in his experience – the body contact may well result in rapid ejaculation. In such an event she can assist the client, if he desires, in wiping the ejaculation etc.

Jeffery said that although the procedure seemed contrived it remained with their rules that practitioners should not use hands to massage for sensual genital stimulation. He was always hopeful that one day the rules would become more sensible. In the meantime this worked for him.

So Julia reached across me for an imaginary oil bottle. I felt her smooth torso against my cock and my precum lubricating the contact. I realized that this time, in our private setting, she was naked but that normally her midriff would be bare anyway.

She went a little further than she might in the spa setting and squirmed a little in her encouragement of my arousal.

I almost immediately felt the most intense, involuntary climax and ejaculation onto Julia’s body. She felt it too and made no attempt to move as I felt the fluid spread between our bodies.

Julia said afterwards that the experience was extremely intense for her, also.

Of course she had to separate from me and stood up to reveal an area of cum on my belly and on her torso.

Jeffery and Stephen humorously applauded and congratulated both of us. I offered the shower but Julia said that we could wait. Just enjoy the sensation of completion.

I moved myself off the table and Stephen, Jeffery and Julia seated themselves on the floor where I joined them.

Both Jeffery and Stephen were as aroused as I had been. Julia joked that there was no way she was repeating the massage for them, if that’s what they were hoping – they weren’t of course – but that Jeffery’s guidance was everything that she needed.

We continued with an increasingly intimate conversation and Jeffery shared many of his thoughts about his enjoyment of X dressing and sensuality. I learned so much.

Julia and Jeffery were very complimentary about my tattoos – now completely visible – and we talked body modification.

Stephen and Jeffery certainly deserved relief, and in front of Julia and myself, masturbated each other to climax. It was very erotic and an event which I hope to recall more completely one day.

After this display of mutual masturbation Julia said that she’d found the time no less arousing than we had and that sometimes it’s forgotten that women are just as stimulated, so she was going to complete her climax as well. She said that she would enjoy it if we watched her and opened her legs to reveal her own arousal. Given that she was so perfectly shaved her entire area was beautifully visible. Jeffery massaged her feet as we sat on the floor – he knew her body – as she digitally stimulated herself to climax. A great ending.

Stephen has told me that Julia and Jeffery are continuing to build a strong client base at the hotel spa – no complaints. I’m hoping to make a visit myself soon and that we’ll all get together again soon.

I’m still at the apartment with Stephen a few doors down. We’re having so much fun and have become great friends, sharing so many new experiences, now.

 More another time.

 

 

 

 

The Deepest Massage & Touch Experiences

THE DEEPEST MASSAGE & TOUCH EXPERIENCES –

 Always are Voyages of Arousal and Discovery.

The very personal experience of enjoying Tantric Touch and Massage is always enhanced when combined with a desire to explore existing boundaries and comfort levels.

A safe and reassuring way to begin is to explore past experiences and imagine future experiences – in other words:  Heightening Personal Sensual Awareness.

With this objective a protected questionnaire follows this posting. The questions are explicit and your answers will be self revealing – shared only with yourself.

To view the questionnaire, simply email a request for the password.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Tantra, True Self & Reality

Tantra, True Self & Reality

 Today we assume multiple masks and identities – real and virtual. From internet identities that hide our real selves from the world, to different personas for work, home and leisure, we must increasingly juggle our user names, masks and realities. With all this identity juggling there is a risk of losing the connection with ‘true self’.

For many the inclusion of Tantric practice, as a private and regular component of ‘real life’, can be the connection that supports and maintains consciousness of ‘true self’. It’s a connection that can provide unique opportunities to interact on the very personal and physical levels that are often rare or impossible in other day to day or virtual contexts.

Tantric practice, through touch and personal interaction, allows the safe, comfortable, fun and enjoyable removal of the masks that hide ‘true self’. At the same time it preserves and creates the opportunities and freedoms that can come with renewed self discovery, and the happier energies hiding behind our preferred disguises.

For the chance to re-imagine and rediscover feel most welcome to call, share and visit.

 

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

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Stephen’s Massage Model

relaxHere’s the first part of the conclusion to the massage experience emailed by my reader:

‘…………..Jeffery said it was now time to ‘get to work’ and that I should get onto the table. I climbed on, face down, adjusting my still erect cock between the table and my belly. I could feel the leaked pre-cum against my skin and tried to distract myself to avoid any premature ejaculation. It wasn’t going to be easy and I realized that Jeffery’s purpose was very much to assist Julia in learning techniques that would assist with these energies. I began to feel that I was also going to gain much benefit from Jeffery’s instruction to Julia. 

To be continued……………..’

As I settled myself on the massage table Jeffery asked whether I was comfortable. I was. I was lying on soft towels and my face was comfortably supported by an opening in the table enabling me to lie comfortably in a face down position. I found myself looking at the hardwood floor of my apartment lounge as I lay on the table.

Jeffery said that he would hand over the direction of the massage to Julia and he would guide her in methods that would fit with the spa’s massage protocols and at the same time enable a relaxing massage. He said that the most common issue was working with clients who were sexually aroused throughout the massage. The rules didn’t permit therapists to directly acknowledge or deliberately stimulate arousal but his experience was that nearly all males found the energy and context of the massage sensually arousing. That fact had to be accepted and in a way that allowed the client to relax and the therapist to feel comfortable.

He said that this was such a good opportunity to pass on to Julia the techniques that were working for him in a ‘hands on’ and ‘explicit’ style. He added that because I was so clearly aroused I was the ideal client model for these purposes. He said that Julia would role-play her position at work. He reminded that this would be more fun than at the spa because we were all working naked. Julia normally would not be nude for the massage. He joked that the concession was in lieu of overtime. Then he handed things over to Julia.

Julia began by whispering in my ear that she hoped that I was comfortable and that she would be covering me with a sheet. As she leaned over, close to the table to whisper I could see her bare feet beneath the table as I gazed at the floor. The image and her closeness had much to do with my continued arousal and I shifted on the table, feeling myself, again, close to ejaculation.

Julia sensed my tension and moved away to find the sheet and give me time to recover control.

She immediately returned and I felt the draft of the sheet as she spread it over me. Fully draped she began quickly stroking my body over the sheet and as she stroked she displaced the sheet, exposing me once again. I experienced a powerful sensual energy as the sheet moved against my body and as Julia allowed it to drift into the space between my thighs and finally over my feet.

Now that I was once again uncovered, Julia grasped both of my feet and opened my legs to the width of the table. The touch to my feet, and re-positioning of my legs, brief as it was, was again so stimulating. I was beginning to realize how erotically stimulating this entire process would be and how important it was for therapists to be able to work with these levels of energy.

I sensed that had Julia moved away. She quickly returned and I felt warm oil being drifted over my shoulders and back, followed by Julia’s fingers confidently massaging muscles that I didn’t know I had. She progressed toward my butt, spreading the oil as she massaged. By now I was struggling to remain aware and in control of myself but as she began to work my inner thighs I found myself shifting and lifting my hips causing Julia’s fingers to momentarily touch my cock and balls.

At this point Julia said to Jeffery that she could now do with some help. My movement on the table was entirely common and very often the client would stretch out to touch her and try to encourage more intimate touch.

Julia’s question was about how to keep things on track.

attentionJeffery moved over to Julia’s side of the table and pushed down on my butt, pressing me to the table more firmly than Julia had done. When he released his pressure I found myself rising again from the table. Jeffery invited Julia to copy his move and this time I felt Julia push into my butt cheeks more firmly, returning me to more complete contact with the table. Of course I remained erect and aroused.

Jeffery said to Julia that the intent was always to find the balance between keeping the client comfortable and happy and keeping within the rules. He said the technique he uses at this point is to concentrate on each thigh, massaging the entire thigh in a hugging movement. To demonstrate he slipped his arm underneath my thigh and carefully pulled my leg into a position away from the table. The effect was to lift my hips and genital area from the table as he encircled my thigh with his arms.

As he used the pressure of his grip to knead my thigh he moved his arm grip so that his upper arm was closely pushed against my genitals and between my legs. So I experienced contact to my cock entirely in the context of the massage movement. Jeffery held this position for some time allowing me to enjoy the sensation of pushing my cock against his arm. He could feel my energy was getting close to ejaculation and released my leg, returning it to the table.

He asked Julia if she’d been able to observe and that the client – me –  had been able to make sensual and intimate contact with the therapist as part of a legitimate massage technique. He said that on occasion the move proved too powerful for the client to resist ejaculation and that there had been many times when he withdrew with the clients release on his arm. The spa rules had no problem with this ‘accidental’ client release.

He suggested to Julia to use my other thigh to practice. She moved to the other side of the table and copied Jeffery’s moves. Her grip and touch were different from Jeffery’s but just as arousing. I think the difference in their height made a difference. Julia used more of her upper body in encircling and gripping my thigh. She was quite accurate in gauging when I was getting close to releasing and returned my leg to the table before I was tipped over the edge.

The massage continued with a combination of muscle and Swedish massage touch as she moved down my legs and toward my feet. The massage to my feet was as stimulating as any of the attention I’d received so far and by now it seemed that all touch had the effect of maintaining my arousal for the longest time.

The time came to turn over. Jeffery said to Julia that in these situations it was most common for the client to be aroused and he joked that I would certainly not be an exception. He said that as a male practitioner male clients were often concerned that their erection and energy would be an ambiguous indication of their sexual orientation. His rule was always to allow any male client to feel entirely comfortable about revealing their erection to another male. It was enough that throughout the massage they had enjoyed the genital contact which, by using the thigh grip technique allowed the client to create and develop the level of contact comfort that they preferred. Some clients were not experiencing the massage sensually. That was entirely good. At this time we were concentrating on the majority who did seek to enjoy the most complete touch that the rules might allow.

Julia said that also her male clients usually were hard when they turned over and that she felt that the erections were really related to responses to the touch and spa context rather than sexual orientation. She said that now that she had the thigh grip in her repertoire she would know more about the comfort levels of the client before turning them over.

I was still face down on the table during this conversation. I was in another world. I’d completely forgotten that I was actually in my own apartment. Looking back on this visit, the power of this physical and sensual energy seems so perfect. I felt so fortunate to meet Stephen, who shared so many of my interests and thoughts, in such a convenient and fun way. I couldn’t have wished for a better neighbour.

So I turned over at Julia’s direction. Of course, in the process I suddenly reverted to my self conscious self. It’s so crazy because we’d all become very comfortable and I had spent the past hour being touched and massaged in the most intimate ways. As has happened on many occasions Stephen seemed to anticipate or notice my concern. As I turned my erection was very active and instinctively I moved my hand to cover myself. Quite absurd. Stephen joked to Jeffery and Julia that I would be a model client of propriety if I was at their spa. Julia responded that she loved seeing this – it showed that she was doing her job.

I looked around, enjoying being reminded that we were all naked and having fun, combined with some useful intent. I took a deep breath again and allowed my arousal to be free and settled on my back on the table. Julia propped my head with a pillow and I prepared for what I imagined would be the more complicated part of interpreting the spa rules.

The final massage description will follow.

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More… ‘Dinner with Stephen’

MassageOilDinner with Stephen – continued

Too long ago I received long and descriptive accounts of the experiences of a man who had been able to explore his sexuality with the help of a new-found neighbor. He met his neighbor, Stephen, when he had recently moved into an apartment in the Toronto area.

I posted the accounts on this site some time ago. After posting he sent me descriptions of further encounters which I set aside for later inclusion. Although much delayed, and after a recent reminder, I have finally managed to return to what has been sitting in my inbox for a long time.

If you’ve missed the previous posts and contexts, they appear later in this site. In the meantime here’s the much delayed continuation. The account is long. The original was even longer!! I’ve ended this description approx. at the halfway point. He describes his meeting and the massage evening with Stephen’s male colleague, Jeffery, and female assistant, Julia.

Later – to be posted soon – he describes the massage experience and some of the Tantric energies and practices that combined with it. His descriptions are fun to read and it does remind that there are so many exciting and healthful benefits to the many and varied aspects of Tantric practice.

Here’s the account of the first part of his evening.

 

tangledPreviously:

‘……………She said this felt good and from my view I watched Stephen’s cock and balls as he stood above us. The shampoo ended and Stephen slid back into the tub and Susan slid under the water, turning it soapy with the shampoo. Both Stephen and I could feel her sliding around between us and then she reappeared.

And there we sat, chest deep in soapy water.

We sat in this liquid silence for what seemed an eternity. But this wasn’t an awkward silence. It was a silence of perfect communication. There seemed to be a feeling of complete connectedness and of a trust only possible through the common physical experiences that we’d risked throughout the evening.

We stayed on into the early hours, enjoying our newly discovered comfort.

The time did end, of course, and reluctantly I dragged myself down the hallway to my own apartment. But the connections that we’d made were particularly strong and we all knew that this was not to be a ‘one night stand’.

This would not be our only encounter”………….’

close-breastsMy visits with Stephen had been nothing, if not intense. From his welcoming visit when I first moved in to the dinner down the hallway at his apartment, we had shared the most intimate of times even though we were initially strangers to each other.

After the dinner, where I was unexpectedly introduced to his friend, Susan, there was no longer any way that we could be described as ‘strangers’. I had experienced the most erotic and personal encounter of my life and could live happily ever after just on the memory, alone.

As Stephen and Susan had implied, the dinner experience was not to be a ‘one night stand’.

After that dinner, the next day as I left for work, I slipped a note of thanks under Stephen’s door, inviting him and Susan to dinner at my place in the near future.

I didn’t have to wait long for a reply. When I returned from work that evening I discovered a note from Stephen saying that he would love to visit. He said that Susan had called him to say that she’d had a wonderful time with both of us and looked forward to meeting up again when she returned from a month long business trip. So the next visit with Stephen would not include Susan, it seemed.

I called Stephen on his cell later that evening and invited him over at the weekend. The energy of the dinner encounter was still burning in me and I didn’t want to let too much time pass. To my relief Stephen said that he was free on the Saturday. He said he hoped that I wouldn’t mind but he had a couple of friends who would love to join us if I didn’t mind adding to the invite. He would explain more on Saturday and not to do anything elaborate for food. Just snacks and drinks would be fine. So we were set.

I cleaned up the living room and laid out a selection of snacks and bottles and at around 5.00 p.m. on Saturday Stephen knocked on my door. It had only been a week since I’d seen him and despite the fact that we’d enjoyed a seeming lifetime of intimacy in the very few weeks since we first met, I still felt a little nervous in his company. Maybe it was his self confidence or his knowing smile. I felt supremely comfortable in his company and also more than a little willing to follow wherever he led me. In other words my feelings were pleasantly mixed.

Anyway he entered as soon as I opened the door and gave me a lingering hug. Kicking off his shoes, he apologized for not bringing a gift and said that he assumed I would have as much as we needed and he hadn’t wanted to go to the store. I found myself thanking him for thinking of not buying anything. We noticed the absurdity of my thanks for nothing at the same time and that connection once again broke the ice.

We made our way into the living room and sat together on the couch.

discoveryA big part of our connection initially had been our shared interest in communal nudity and it had been my disclosure of my battles with self consciousness that had initially connected us. On Stephen’s first visit I’d shown him my rather unique personal tattoos and we’d moved ahead from there.

In anticipation of this evening I’d been thinking how to respect and continue our shared interest without seeming too forward. I was anticipating hearing about the guests he’d invited and thought I should wait for Stephen’s guidance before approaching the subject of whether we would be dining nude. At the same time I wanted to show him that I had been working on improving my personal comfort level with my tendency for self consciousness.

My compromise was to wear some old jeans – clean but ragged – and a casual shirt which was missing a few buttons. I hadn’t bothered with underwear or socks. I thought the appearance casual and appropriate, reflecting a willingness to show something of myself without being coy or entirely undressed.

Stephen was wearing a sports shirt and slacks. He’d removed his sneakers at the door and, as ever, hadn’t bothered with socks. Otherwise he certainly looked more smartly dressed and covered than me.

He put my mind at rest, joking and congratulating me on my open shirt and revealing rips on my jeans. The rips weren’t too strategic and one tear had expanded, during the wash cycle, around the top of my thigh, which would have revealed my underwear, had I been wearing any. I realized that in certain positions I would be quite exposed, particularly if aroused. This thought immediately created a condition of arousal!! And I shifted on the couch, for some reason seeking to hide my erection from Stephen. He saw my discomfort and commented with a smile, that he thought we could admit to being mutual voyeurs and exhibitionists by now. Of course I couldn’t disagree and adjusted my position to something more comfortable, albeit more revealing.

As we munched on cheese and chips Stephen told me about his guests, due to arrive later. Stephen works at a local hotel. He is friendly with the spa manage, Jeffery, it turned out. One of the perks of Stephen’s job is a membership of the gym, use of the spa and pool and the occasional massage when time permits.

He said that while spa massage etiquette is very strict – Jeffery is a professional personal trainer and masseur – in his off-duty time he likes to experiment with more ‘inventive or complete’ techniques. Stephen said also that Jeffery was training a new therapist – Julia. Jeffery wanted an opportunity to share with Julia some techniques and approaches that normally weren’t part of the spa’s menu.

Stephen had told Jeffery something of our shared interest in social nudity and suggested that Jeffery bring over his portable massage table to my place one evening and offer some ‘off the clock’ massage training to Julia. In exchange for my hospitality I would get a massage and meet some new friends. That was Stephen’s idea and he thought it unlikely that I would object. He said Jeffery would fill in more detail later. Was I OK with this?

I said that I sounded fine with me. If there was any problem we’d be able to discuss it with Jeffery later.

Stephen said that we could make room for the table set up before they arrived so we moved the coffee table and chairs so that there was room for the massage table to be set up.

chest-soakShortly after moving the furniture Jeffery and Julia buzzed the entrance intercom and made their way up to my apartment. I opened the front door and Stephen stepped into the hallway to direct them to my suite. Jeffery was carrying his folded table – looked like a large suitcase followed by Julia carrying a sports bag.

We showed them into the apartment and through to the living room and made the introductions. Jeffery was very much a ‘people person’. Quite athletic in appearance. Not tall. Late thirties. Blond hair and a comfortable face. He was wearing a blue tracksuit outfit with the logo of the hotel. Julia was possibly in her mid twenties. Brown long hair and also seemingly quite athletic. Also wearing the hotel tracksuit.

I invited them to sit down and then realized we’d moved all the furniture. So we moved the chairs and table back and laid out the snacks again, explaining that we wanted to make room for the massage table. This all broke the ice and we got to talking.

Jeffery repeated what Stephen had described, but in more detail. He said that while he enjoyed his job at the spa, where he’d been for some years, there were aspects of policy that didn’t always match with client expectations. In Julia’s training he wanted to show her how to comfortably deal with non-policy situations and what to expect etc. He’d be more specific, later. He also said that he shared Stephen’s interest in social nudity and shared sensual experience, and he understood that I also shared that interest. I said that he was correct and that Stephen had done much to improve my comfort levels in the short time that we’d known each other.

He invited Julia’s thoughts after his brief introduction. She said that she’d worked as a gym manager in another city. She’d left the position after wanting a significant change of scene and city. I suspected it might have something to do with a personal relationship situation and of course we didn’t want to ask for further explanation. She said that she was enjoying her time with the hotel and that she had found much in common with Jeffery’s outlook. She said that she also shared our comfort with social nudity and was very comfortable with all expressions of sexuality and orientation. She was looking forward to the evening and thanked me for inviting everybody.

Jeffery went on to say that his plan was to set up the table and if I was agreeable they would use me as a massage model so that he could demonstrate to Julia some of the techniques that he couldn’t present at the spa but that would be useful to her in her career. Also he said that he enjoyed practicing some techniques that weren’t available at the spa. The massage and touch could be more intimate and complete at times and he hoped that was OK with me.

I reassured him that it sounded fine and Stephen joked that I owed him something, now. Jeffery said that we would likely switch at some point so that Stephen could enjoy some table time as well.

All this sounded good and Jeffery suggested that we set up the table so we moved the furniture yet again. The table easily unfolded and Julia produced some sheets and oils etc. from her sports bag. Soon we were all set.

helping-handNow I began to feel the familiar nerves at the prospect of getting naked around others. I’d experienced the same thing when Stephen had first visited and then again initially at the dinner. Of course I’d become comfortable quite quickly but still I had to tell myself again that this wasn’t the time to be too self conscious.

Stephen quickly spotted my hesitation and immediately blew my cover. He joked that he’d discovered that I was a ‘slow starter’ when it came to undressing.

Before I could admit or deny, Jeffery said that it was entirely OK if I’d like them to use a sheet to cover me. They could just expose the parts that they were massaging. I quickly said that wouldn’t be necessary and I was inwardly kicking myself for falling again into the same hesitations.

Of course Stephen was enjoying his usual mischievous sense of humor and Jeffery saw that. I guess he’d learned Stephen’s personality in the course of their work at the hotel.

So Jeffery rescued me, asking if he and Julia could get ready now to begin the massage. I said that I was ready whenever they were. Jeffery said  that given our common interest and comfort with social nudity he’d be quite comfortable leading the massage naked if that was something we could all enjoy. I began to feel that I had unintentionally raised a non-existent issue and took the opportunity to say that I thought that would be a great idea.

With that Jeffery unzipped his tracksuit top, took it off and removed the singlet that he was wearing underneath. He was a good looking guy by any standard. Not overly developed but in good shape, reflecting his occupation. He bent down to remove his socks – he’d removed his sneakers when he arrived – and stepped out of his track suit pants. All that remained were his briefs and as he stood there I realized these weren’t the usual jockeys but were actually closer to female panties.

I didn’t get the impression this was a surprise to Stephen or Julia but clearly my gaze lingered longer than theirs. Jeffery was completely unfazed and said that he had always enjoyed the experience of some elements of cross dressing. He said it was his little harmless secret. That Stephen had told him of my tattoos which might be an equivalent sort of secret. That he was looking forward to seeing them for himself.

The panties barely contained his genitals and the outline of his cock showed that he was quite aroused.

Without much further delay he took off the panties revealing his fully erect cock. I always experience an incredible energy surge in these situations and this was no different. Jeffery looked like everybody’s dream for a personal trainer. His body was lean and smooth and his shaved genital region made his arousal looked so inviting. My own erection seemed to be struggling to fight its way out via the rip in my jeans.

shadowOf course Jeffery saw the effect he was having and said that he’d been looking forward to this evening and he hoped that it was OK to share this energy as openly as Stephen had suggested we could. As usual I burbled something about also looking forward to enjoying the time.  Jeffery said that he always wished the hotel spa would allow nudity in its facility but the rules were very strict.

He said that in massage situations and in the sauna people often became aroused and it was often tempting to assist them to enjoy the sexual energy. However, while never making them feel awkward he said that he used techniques to try to help them refocus. He wanted to show Julia some of these techniques so that she would be able to always be comfortable helping guests stay within the hotel spa rules. That was another reason why this evening would be interesting.

As he spoke his erection subsided but the charged energy in the room certainly remained.

Stephen and Julia had remained quiet during Jeffery’s undressing and comments. When he ended he turned to Julia and invited her thoughts pointing out to Stephen and me that they had been enjoying a good working relationship now, for a few months and had shared plenty of personal secrets including his cross dressing secret. He said that actually Julia had lent him the panties for tonight.

Julia nodded and joked that it seemed like he wouldn’t be needing them again at the moment. She said that this was also an exciting evening for her. Jeffery had described some of the ways that she could handle massage spa clients who were hoping for touch that the hotel didn’t permit. She said that it was quite a common situation and that there were ways to work around the issue while keeping the client friendly and wanting to return. She thanked me for volunteering to be a subject that she could practice on and she thanked Jeffery for being an understanding, if unconventional boss. She added that it was even more fun to be able to enjoy the practice, naked. With that she unzipped and discarded the tracksuit top revealing a black sports bra. As Jeffery had, she’d taken off her sneakers at the door so only had to remove her socks and drop the tracksuit pants. She looked a model of fitness, the sports bra matching the black bikini panties that she was wearing.

Again I was struggling to contain myself. Jeffery’s naked form was sufficiently stimulating, of course, and I could certainly experience the additional energy that Julia was contributing. Quickly enough Julia unhooked her bra and slipped off the briefs. Now naked, she was a great match for Jeffery. Clearly they were a credit to any sports spa. Julia was as well toned as Jeffery. Her breasts didn’t really need the support of any bra. I’d told Stephen previously that I’ve always had a fascination with breasts, both male and female and I noticed him smiling at me as Julia revealed herself. Julia’s breasts and nipples seemed like magnets to my eyes at the time.

Her entire body was perfectly proportioned and on the petite side. Like Jeffery – and Stephen and me, actually – her pubic area was shaved. I noticed that her labia were particularly visible and the energy seemed to say that she was very comfortable and happy with her body.

So that completed the disrobing of my guests and Stephen, who had remained uncharacteristically quiet, observed that maybe we were being a little slow in getting naked. That he had told Jeffery and Julia about my tattoos and he was sure they wanted to see them. Julia echoed this and said now was my time to ‘reveal all’.

discoveryI was still very much aroused and a little nervous but now was the time and I dropped my jeans and discarded the shirt almost in one movement. My cock popped up immediately and I absorbed the energy of the visual exploration of my now naked form. I was a little conscious that I could easily afford to lose a few pounds, comparing myself to the lean and athletic forms of Jeffery and Julia. The tattoo on my upper thigh was now clearly visible as was the unnamed creature tattooed on my chest, who spent his life gazing at my nipple.

 It was Julia who spoke, saying that she was looking forward to stroking these creatures in the massage. She looked at my erect penis. I knew that I was leaking at the tip and Julia wasn’t shy in noticing and commenting. She said that it was always gratifying to see evidence of appreciation. ‘Keep it up’ she said with a smile.

Stephen told her that she should look on my reverse side – the picture tattoo on my butt cheek. She and Jeffery moved behind me to take a look. Jeffery said that this had to be a uniquely artistic creation.

My erection was still maintaining as they came back to face me and I saw Stephen undressing behind them. As ever he looked a picture of comfort, his own arousal clear for us all to appreciate.

I was reminded a little of the energy that I’d experienced at dinner the previous week at Stephen’s when Susan had been with us. Julia’s energy seemed not unlike Susan’s although Susan is very much a ladies lady.

It also reminded me that since meeting Stephen I had been unbelievably fortunate in becoming part of a social lifestyle that enabled me to spend time with wonderful people who enjoyed being naked and open about their sexuality.

stimulateJeffery said it was now time to ‘get to work’ and that I should get onto the table. I climbed on, face down, adjusting my still erect cock between the table and my belly. I could feel the leaked pre-cum against my skin and tried to distract myself to avoid any premature ejaculation. It wasn’t going to be easy and I realized that Jeffery’s purpose was very much to assist Julia in learning techniques that would assist with these energies. I began to feel that I was also going to gain much benefit from Jeffery’s instruction to Julia. 

To be continued……………..

                               

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Dinner with Stephen – Part 2

Here is the 2nd part of the encounter that my client sent to me. I’ve changed all the names and edited out much of the detail that he included in his description. Still the report contains much detail and is lengthy. I hope he feels it still makes sense and reflects what he sent to me. It is my client describing his experience – it’s not my personal experience. Nevertheless, although not directly Tantra and Massage related, to the extent that Tantra is about the experiential heightening of awareness, this description seems to fit what is often possible when like minded people meet.

Dinner with Stephen – Part 2

“…..I dried myself off and wrapped the towel around me and then I thought maybe I shouldn’t use the towel as cover since he’d been naked for the past hour and he’d hidden nothing from me, so there wasn’t anything I should hide from him. So I just walked through to the living room, naked.

Stephen was there, dressed in jeans and a T shirt with his friend!

A female also dressed in jeans and a shirt.

I just didn’t know what to do. I apologized and tried to cover myself with my hand. I said I’d get a towel, and both of them laughed and said that there was no problem and that they wanted to see my face and that it was a friendly joke and they hoped I wouldn’t be offended. Stephen said that he wanted to show his friend, Susan, my tattoos and this seemed to be a fun way of doing so.

Before I could think of whether to apologize again, be angry or run away, Stephen, with an apologetic tone, asked me to stay as I was and to sit down. He introduced me to Susan and said they’d known each other for a few years. At the time that they’d met, Susan had a regular girlfriend and was currently between relationships, always with females. He told me that Susan was an artist with a visual appreciation for male and female forms.

Seemingly Stephen had told her about my tattoos and she wanted to see them for herself. Stephen told me when he visited me that he is gay and so, he told me, is Susan. As if to make things clearer he said that we all seemed to have something in common – that we all liked to be nude and looking at naked people. They hoped I didn’t mind. I said that I didn’t and the strange thing was that although I was the only one among us who was naked I really wasn’t conscious of it. I actually began to feel relaxed and at the same time excited.

Susan said that she would serve the meal and Stephen said it could wait a little and described to Susan that he’d given me a bath as an excuse to get me undressed and that he’d opened the door naked etc.

Susan said this was just another example of Stephen’s strange approach to things but that it was all good natured and she said she approved if I did. Then Stephen said that he wanted Susan to look more closely at the texture of the tattoos and would I mind if Susan felt the ink on the skin, very lightly, as he had done. I said that would be OK and she came over and touched the beaver as Stephen had done, to feel the tattoo.

She was very careful and thanked me for allowing her this inspection. Then Stephen asked if I’d mind giving her a reverse view so that she could see the Mona Lisa tattoo. Susan really seemed more interested in the artwork than anything else so I stood up and turned round so she could see the picture, and of course, my rear end.

Then Stephen asked me to kneel, resting my arms on the chair, so that they could see how far the drawing went into the crack between my buttocks. The curiosity seemed to be how far a tattoo could be drawn into this region. Actually it’s drawn quite far. I was by now rather enjoying following their requests and complied without comment or much hesitation. Kneeling in this way exposed most of the secrets of my ass, although I wasn’t really too conscious of this. This prompted Stephen to joke that he’d seen, or rather felt, that part before during the bath. I was about to get up again when Susan asked me to stay kneeling on all fours because she said that one day she would like to paint or draw this view.

She said she had a thing about this part of the body. That it was so sensitive and also so hidden and that she found it beautiful.

Either she or Stephen laughingly tickled between my legs and recognizing the cue I quickly stood up, now rather aroused, and Stephen handed my jeans and sweater which, with mixed feelings, I quickly put on.

Susan disappeared into the kitchen to get the food.

Dinner was quite simple. A roast chicken, rice and veg. with some more wine. Susan commented that now we were all properly dressed! She was very casual with jeans and a loose fitting feminine shirt. She is around 5’4″, slim build and I guess what is described as boyish figure. Blond hair, like Stephen, and I think she might be late 20s.

By now the light was fading and the dining area was quite dim, but we could see each other clearly. Susan asked me more about how I came to get the tattoos and we talked about that and art subjects and I completely forgot that both these people had intimately inspected all of my body an hour before. They asked of my life before moving and I talked about the guy I used to visit for massage and interest in things physical and sexual.

I said about my shyness and lack of confidence around body issues, which I stressed I was working on with Tantra etc. Both Stephen and Susan said that it wasn’t an uncommon thing and that some shyness is normal and desirable. They said that they’d been nudists for a long time and that males and females sometimes see these things differently, but when the people are gay or bi that often there are different expectations as well.

Susan said that she liked being around gay men because they would not chase her in the same way that straight men might, and even gay women. She said that she liked the sexuality of the naked body whether it was male or female without having to have sex, necessarily. Stephen said he’d come to understand this as well. To me it all seemed to make perfect sense.

The conversation was very open about these things and they seemed to know more than me about social nudity. They said that I had responded really well when coming into the room from the bathroom and they apologized again for doing it but that Stephen thought it might be a helpful experience for me because I would think about it as something that was fun and safe. I said I felt safe enough and I was surprised at myself for feeling so comfortable after the initial shock.

We finished with some cheese and more wine and then Susan said, with a broad wink, that because we seemed so comfortable together we should go into the living room and talk more about bodies. So we did. Stephen only has one couch so he sat on that, Susan in the armchair and I in the other chair.

I noted that we were all wearing nearly identical jeans. Mine and Stephen’s were average fit and Susan’s quite tight. I said that women can have tighter fitting jeans than men without anything obvious showing. She said that was true but why would I be bothered about showing the outline of my penis. She really didn’t pull any punches, I thought. That I still hadn’t got over things entirely, but she said it with a laugh.

I said I was still a work in progress and anyway she was the only one who hadn’t been seen naked this evening.

Stephen agreed and Susan said that she was looking forward to getting naked but hoped that Stephen and I would also undress because although she liked women in relationships she liked to look at and paint men. She said that she found the male body very interesting, in different ways, from the female body.

Susan then suggested that we should each undress separately and then talk a little personally about ourselves to keep the energy flowing and she would start.

She took off her jeans and her shirt. She wasn’t wearing underwear and didn’t need a bra. She is very slim with petite breasts. She has a small, athletic figure and her genital area is shaved so that everything there can be seen. Her breasts have smallish nipples, noticeably I thought, not unlike Stephen’s.

She did a little wiggle of her hips and sat down in the chair with a smile.

Then she said that she really loved her body and saw nothing wrong with showing it off and also enjoying it. She couldn’t understand anybody who didn’t feel the same.

She looked at Stephen for confirmation and said that she liked to stimulate herself feeling that no-one would be judging her. As an artist she said she liked to feel the energy of the body she was painting or drawing and could get that energy through her own body.

As an example she said that playing with her own nipples caused them to become erect and hard and that she liked the feeling so much that this allowed her to appreciate even more the potential of the bodies of others.

Then she said that each of us had to say something personal that we wouldn’t easily disclose.

She suggested that I be next and Stephen agreed. So I had to stand up and take off my jeans and sweater. I hadn’t bothered to put on my boxers before in the rush after the bathroom thing.

So I’m naked again and a little excited but not completely aroused.

Susan slid the coffee table away with her foot and told me to move to stand in front of her and Stephen so that they could get a better look.

She always said things with a bit of a smile. So I moved toward them, Susan in the chair, naked, and Stephen propped up at the end of the couch dressed. Susan put her foot under my penis and raised it and of course it became erect immediately. Then she said it was that physical movement that fascinated her but that I had to practice enjoying the sensations without ejaculating, and to tell something about myself to them.

I said that this was the very first time I had engaged in anything like this. That I’d got the tattoos for attention and to focus on my body and now I’d got what I deserved! I said this with a laugh.

Stephen said that this was a very brave thing to do and that is why he liked me.

Susan said that she was serious about drawing or painting my butt and asked me to bend over again so she could see it again. I did so and she and Stephen looked at it, I imagine, and said that these things were so beautiful.

She said that I should do as she did if I wanted, and feel free to stimulate myself. I said that Stephen’s foot massage had been really nice and he said he’d do it again.

Then Susan said it was Stephen’s turn and he stood up and undressed. He was wearing briefs which were the last to come off. Although he’d greeted me naked, this time he looked different. This time he was completely aroused and he really looked incredibly attractive to me.

Maybe the wine was affecting my outlook about things. He was used to this game, I imagined, and easily made some comments about himself.  He has an almost perfect body but said that he was always concerned about getting old.

Susan stopped him before he could go further and said that actual age had little to do with the erotic experience. As an artist she found positive energy in bodies and personalities of all ages and appearances. That every individual was a complete, satisfying, package. It wasn’t all about perfect appearance.

But she did allow that Stephen had good skin and muscle tone and then she leaned forward and grabbed his cock and wiped the end of it. She said, with mock seriousness, “Aha, there’s DNA here”. Then she looked at me and said it’s proof he likes you.

Stephen said, “Of course”, and I said thank you. Then Susan said for me to stand up facing Stephen. I did that and she grabbed my cock, which wasn’t completely erect and, with the other hand, pulled me and Stephen together and held our cocks side by side and said that if she bound them together we’d be married.

It was a good joke at the time but then she kept us in position and I could feel the energy of Stephen next to mine and Susan’s warm hand around our cocks. It was the most erotic experience.

Then Susan released her grip and we both sat down, Stephen on the couch and I back in the chair.

The room was silent for a moment and I said that this must be a pregnant pause. We all laughed and Stephen said that he should have put on some music. He found some light background jazz style.

We just sat quietly, sipping the glasses we’d brought from the table and I realized we were all sort of absorbing everything about each other.

For me this was such an unusual setting and the sight of Stephen and Susan was overwhelmingly stimulating for me and I tried to adjust to hide my growing erection.

Susan noticed and reminded that the relaxed idea was to enjoy the moment. That all of us should be able to enjoy. So she told me to put my feet on the table and let them all enjoy my arousal. So I followed instructions and leaned back in the chair with my feet on the table.

My penis was as big as it’s ever been, standing vertical below my belly. I reached down and touched it and then realized if I wasn’t careful I’d ejaculate and I didn’t want to do that so I moved my hands away. I could feel some precum around the tip, or thought I could.

I couldn’t see Stephen or Susan because I’d fallen well back into the chair so I moved up and put my feet back on the floor. Susan said this was exactly how things should be and that she loved to see guys excited.

Stephen had stretched out on the couch, playing with his penis, more expertly than me, leaking and holding off from ejaculation. He was using one hand to stroke his cock and the other to play with one of his nipples. I noticed that he was completely absorbed in himself and taking no notice of either of us.

Susan said this was turning her on and she propped her feet on the table and opened up her legs. From my angle she was hiding nothing and she reached her fingers into herself and seemed to move into a different head space. I just watched, switching my eyes from her to Stephen and back again and feeling my own erection.

I’ve no idea how long this scene lasted but Susan was the first to speak again. Actually she stopped playing with herself without a word, got up, and moved her chair around the table next to mine and propped her feet back on the table. She told me to do the same and that we should play ‘footsie’.

So I pulled the chair closer and put my feet next to hers and we watched each others feet. She moved hers into mine and stroked my toes with hers and around my ankles. I did the same and as she did so she looked over at my cock which was as hard as it’s ever been. Then she reached over and stroked my nipple while playing with my feet.

I started to move my hand to my cock but she took it with her other hand and stretched it across to her own breast. I could feel her nipple and just moved my finger around on it. We played like this for awhile, noticing that Stephen was still in a world of his own.

Then Susan stopped and sat up and said how nice it was just to enjoy bodies without concentrating just on genitals. I said that she’d made a very good point. That the possibilities seemed endless.

Stephen suddenly decided to come back to us, sat up and said that he’d been watching from the corner of his eye and that he was so pleased that we were getting on so well and that we each seemed to be equally turned on. Nobody could have disagreed with him.

He said he’d often wondered exactly what it was about this sort of gathering that was actually the biggest turn on. He said for him, although he liked guys mostly, Susan really added a great deal to the mix.

He also said that he could see why Susan would like to draw me and that he’d like to see my butt again.

Susan said so would she but that the sketch would have to wait for another time but that she’d like to get closer to Stephen and myself – to feel some more energy and would we mind?

Stephen asked her what she wanted to do and she got up and moved her chair and coffee table away from the couch and quickly went into the bathroom and came out with all the towels, which she laid out on the floor. I could see where she was going to I moved my chair out of the way as well. Then she sat down on the towels and asked who would join her. We both moved next to her on the towels.

I was no longer really trying to think of anything. The sensuality of the entire evening had taken over my capacity to think. But Susan was still thinking, fortunately. She took Stephen’s hand and put it on my chest and rubbed it around and pulled him closer to me.

He didn’t need any further encouragement and began to stroke me all over. I just stretched out on the floor as he massaged my torso and legs. Susan joined in and tickled at my balls and opened my legs. I could feel her slender fingers moving around my anus and then Stephen’s in the same area.

Susan was whispering to Stephen not to make me cum. Then they flipped me over and from somewhere I felt something wet around my ass. Maybe it was some warm wine or some oil that I hadn’t seen before.

I’d risen to be on all fours, wanting nothing more than to completely enjoy this exploration. Stephen said this was going to be something fantastic for me. Just enjoy. Then I felt either Stephen’s or Susan’s tongue around my anus.

I realized it must have been Stephen’s tongue because it was Susan speaking. She said Stephen had bathed me so well, and I had such a perfect anus, that nobody could resist enjoying it, and as she spoke I felt Stephen’s tongue inside me.

Susan had slid underneath me and I had rested some of my body weight against her. I could feel her warmth against my lower torso. Stephen’s tongue in my anus was more than I could stand. I ejaculated with the wildest convulsions and just collapsed onto Susan.

Stephen withdrew and lay down beside us. I could feel the warmth and stickiness of my ejaculation on my skin and my body weight on Susan.

I struggled off her body and apologized for covering her in my DNA!  She said that this was exactly what she wanted and expected. That it was a work of art. That the feeling of my ejaculation was highly erotic for her, but that we weren’t finished yet.

My focus had changed a little now but I realized that although I’d ejaculated I was still feeling turned-on but in a quieter way than before.

Stephen was on his back with an erection looking like it would explode at any moment.

Susan told me to grasp his penis and feel how hard it had become but not to make him ejaculate.

I did what she instructed. His erect penis is bigger than mine and I could feel the energy pumping in him. Susan said now to release his cock and then we would both stroke his balls with our tongues.

His testicles were tight, with very little hair and his legs were open as mine had been. I brought my head down to his groin at the same time as Susan, she on one side and I on the other. As we licked Stephen our heads and tongues rubbed and touched and I reached up to Stephen’s chest to find anywhere else on him that would respond.

I could feel myself again responding to his body. Suddenly he came. His ejaculate flowed into my face and hair and in the same way onto Susan. She grabbed his still pumping cock and moved it closer to my face and hers. Stephen was just convulsing and moaning.

We just lay there, exhausted and enjoying the moment. I moved to make my head level with Stephen’s. I could feel the warmth of his cum on my face and in my hair. Susan climbed on top of us and pressed her face into ours, pulling our heads together in a hug. It seemed to me that there could be no better example of human physical contact.

Susan arose and stood over us. She said that she had also experienced an incredible orgasm. It seemed likely. She was covered in sweat and from the ejaculation of both Stephen and myself. I mumbled that she also looked like a work of art.

Again she said that we weren’t yet finished.

Stephen mumbled that we’d better let Susan be the boss!

I wasn’t going to suggest differently and Susan kneeled down beside me and whispered close to my ear, asking how I felt. I said I probably felt the best I’d ever felt in my life.

Stephen was lying on the other side of me and echoed the same comment. It was an extraordinary feeling of sensuality, in the afterglow of this fantastic release, to feel on the one side the energy of Stephen’s body alongside me and on the other side the smooth and more delicate energy of Susan’s body, kneeling next to me.

I turned my head toward her and saw how my ejaculation, and Stephen’s, had combined with her natural sweat, to make the upper parts of her body and face a glowing pallet of human fluid expression.

As I began to notice her breasts I focused on her nipples and was reminded how seemingly similar they were to Stephen’s. I turned my head to him and looked at his chest and at his breasts and then looked back at Susan. “You’ve both got similar size and colour nipples” I offered and Stephen said that he always knew they had something in common.

Susan stroked my belly and moved to play with my limp penis which was slowly beginning to rise to life again. She moved to my chest and rubbed my nipples, saying that both my beaver and giraffe must be the happiest tattoo animals in the world.

Then she reached across my body and stroked at Stephen’s cock which was also beginning to rise again.

Then Susan got up and said that since she was in charge now she wanted to see Stephen and me together so that she could remember some ideas for future sketches. With that she moved away and Stephen moved on top of me and I felt his full weight and warmth and I wrapped my arms around his neck and we just rolled and rubbed on the towels until we seemed to be permanently entwined.

I heard Susan move onto the towels at our feet and gently she took my foot in her hand and massaged each toe and then I think she did the same for Stephen.

Neither I nor Stephen moved as she moved her hands up between our legs. Our genitals were very much crunched together as Stephen lay on top of me and I could feel Susan exploring Stephen and then me. I was again getting aroused and I could feel Stephen’s growing erection finding a place next to my own penis. This fusing of flesh seemed endless at the time.

But it did end. Susan said it was time to regroup and she stood up and Stephen rolled off me but neither of us did anything more but remain lying on our backs, again with Susan standing over us.

She said that she felt so turned on to see the both of us and that next time she would have her sketch pad with her.

I asked Stephen whether evenings like this were normal for them and he answered honestly that each time was unique in its own way and that this evening was something special.

I wondered what time it was and I don’t think any of us wanted things to end. There was life in all of us yet, so Susan said she would fill the tub and we should all get cleaned up and off she went to the bathroom.

Stephen and I dragged ourselves off the towels and carried them to the bathroom. The tub was half full and Susan was submerged in it. It’s a bigger than average tub and Susan, being on the small size, didn’t take up much room.

We shut off the tap and Stephen got in first, sliding himself next to Susan. Then I did the same. It was a squeeze with water splashing but we found ourselves comfortable positions with various body parts intermingled.

I ended up facing Stephen with Susan between us facing out into the room. Susan had found a wash cloth and soap and had already ducked her head under before we arrived.

There was shampoo at the edge of the bath which she’d grabbed and she said, with a laugh, that she was going to wash our DNA out of her hair.

Her hair is short so it didn’t take much shampoo and as she soaped Stephen said he’d help her and stood up, leaned over and soaped away at her scalp.

She said this felt good and from my view I watched Stephen’s cock and balls as he stood above us. The shampoo ended and Stephen slid back into the tub and Susan slid under the water, turning it soapy with the shampoo. Both Stephen and I could feel her sliding around between us and then she reappeared.

And there we sat, chest deep in soapy water.

We sat in this liquid silence for what seemed an eternity. But this wasn’t an awkward silence. It was a silence of perfect communication. There seemed to be a feeling of complete connectedness and of a trust only possible through the common physical experiences that we’d risked throughout the evening.

We stayed on into the early hours, enjoying our newly discovered comfort.

The time did end, of course, and reluctantly I dragged myself down the hallway to my own apartment. But the connections that we’d made were particularly strong and we all knew that this was not to be a ‘one night stand’.

This would not be our only encounter”.

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I’ve asked my correspondent to write again with any subsequent encounters. In time I am sure he will send something further for inclusion.

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