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New Normals

New Normals

Care and Safety will always continue to be the most important watch-words, going forward.

But within those boundaries Tantric life and imagination can continue to flourish.

As always, whether virtually or in physical space, it’s important to allow the mind and imagination to continue to wander freely. So do continue to call and email.

If you have thoughts or experiences that you would like to share with other readers, please do send them and, for inspiration, I will be so pleased to add them to this blog. Your connections are always so welcome.

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

Now, more than ever…

…the certainty and comfort of safety is so important.

Happily, here, all has certainly remained safe, and in messages and calls, safe experiences and imaginings have been increasingly shared.

Past ‘normals’ may never return but ‘new normals’ are being imagined. It’s possible to be comfortable, safe and alive to new possibilities.

These can be positive times of comfortable rediscovery – accepting and safely enjoying personal preferences and refreshing acceptance and concern for the preferences of others.

Please always continue to feel welcome to connect and imagine.

Colin

250-984-7051

co.lins@outlook.com

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Happy Canada Day

Happy Canada Day

It’s time to enjoy a day away from work and worries and to remember those who keep our world spinning and can’t take the day off.

To all who have called and connected in the past few weeks – it’s so good to know you’re well and to be able to confirm that all remains safe and well, here.

Do continue to call and email. Our times are changing but prioritizing safe and comfortable contact will always be an unchanging priority.

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

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Update & Virtual Energy

Update & Virtual Energy

Times are changing once again.

There is a longing to return to a past normality.

Most likely, though, we will be journeying to a new normality of pleasure where we are more informed and more focused. It will be a conscious and deliberate journey.

Awareness will be the watchword whenever physical visits recommence – and in Tantric practice there is so much pleasure and energy contained in the concept of Conscious Awareness.

The energy that has continued for the past weeks has been virtual but nonetheless deliberate and open.

Fantasy has often pleasingly ruled.

It’s been an opportunity to send thoughts and express imaginings and desires by mediums not normally closely associated with Tantric practice.

Emails and phone calls have been ever-present and personal, and every communication has been so unique and valuable.

As we begin to see the shape of things to come do feel as welcome as ever to call or write and plan for the new Tantric reality, visits and interactions.

The energy of anticipation and clear desires for the near future bring so much to the massage table.

It’s reassuring to report that all is and has been well here and that the many past visitors who have communicated over the past weeks have confirmed stories of good health and intelligent understanding.

When the doors reopen a special welcome awaits. If you have thoughts and ideas for the future now is a good time to share them.

Hopefully, we’ll soon be back ‘in touch’.

 

Colin

250-984-7051

co.lins@outlook.com

SOCIAL DISTANCING & TODAY’S REALITY

SOCIAL DISTANCING & TODAY’S REALITY

At this uniquely difficult time it is so important to maintain a clear understanding of recommended and mandated social practices, concerns and comfort levels.

All aspects of daily life, ranging from personal to peripheral, and in community, must be uppermost in our consciousness.

Therefore, for the peace of mind and safety of all, appointment availability for new visitors is not possible at this time. Hopefully it will not be too long before new visitors can again be welcomed.

For regular and familiar visitors, please do feel as welcome as ever to call or email to discuss safe and socially responsible visit possibilities in the future, as well as preferences, memories and suggestions.   

Your continued connection will always provide the opportunity for updates, new options and welcome news of your continued well-being.

Stay safely and happily aware.

Colin

Email:    co.lins@outlook.com

Phone:  250-984-7051

Contact Colin – 250-984-7051

TouchIn a quiet, warm room, your massage is enhanced with a full body, hot towel table bath, warm oil, shower and complete relaxation.

Shower and all facilities are available and sessions are untimed – stay as long as your schedule allows. Massage is always slow and relaxing. Simply an exchange and flow of positive energy.

This is a space to safely explore imagination.  All orientations, adult ages and genders are welcome.

Location and parking is easy and safe.

Within this blog are more detailed descriptions of the possibilities of Tantric Massage. Many postings – but not all  –  require a password to read, so do scroll to the end. Simply email the title to co.lins@outlook.com and I’ll send the password. Your curiosity is welcome.

Contact Colin at: 250-984-7051 or email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Comfortable Company

Comfortable Company

Time taken for personal relaxation and exploration is so valuable in these, often, challenging times.

Personal relaxation time can restore the energy and imagination lost in the machinery of the daily grind.

Any opportunity to relax the body and also the mind is a chance to rest or divert thinking.

Toward fulfilling the objective of personal comfort and mental diversion please also take comfort in the knowledge that this time is respected as personal and discreet.

To this purpose please know the following if you are communicating for the first time.

I am always pleased to receive and to try and answer the questions you will have. The best way, initially, to communicate is via a telephone call or a simple email of interest and introduction. From there we can arrange a time for a telephone conversation.

All communication – telephone and email – is always confidential. Your communication is a point of entry into a less stressful world that does not have a purpose or technology to intrude or ‘over-share’.

For visitors who have previously visited this island of relaxation, your time and visits are forever valued.

For those who are imagining and seeking answers – please do contact with the confidence that your call is always valued and respected with discretion.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051   Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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2020 and…

…thanks to everybody who visited throughout this past year, attending Tantric gatherings and workshops and sharing thoughts and energies individually or in group and social settings. It was one of the best years ever, making realities of so many fantasies.

Every visit and every moment was truly a unique pleasure.

Plans for 2020 are filled with new and original opportunities to share and expand personal and exciting preferences.

For many, today’s times are stressful and uncertain. Opportunities for personal pleasure can often seem remote and unlikely. With this very much in mind, locating safe and accessible space and experience is so important.

In 2020, therefore, a simple call will continue to lead to a discreet oasis of shared energy, like-minded company and sustained pleasure, in addition to the heightened physical awareness that Tantric touch always provides.

Looking forward to the best that 2020 has to offer and sharing time and energy with friends, existing and new.

Colin

Tel:        250-984-7051

Email:    co.lins@outlook.com

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Curious guy enjoying massage

Here’s a self explanatory message which has much in common with the experiences of many others. Posted for interest and typical of many messages sent to this site.
Colin
250-984-7051
co.lins@outlook.com
Sent: Friday, September 20, 2019 3:56 PM
To: Colin . <co.lins@outlook.com>

Subject: Curious guy enjoying massage

Here’s my experience, Colin. I’m not of the younger generation any longer and am new to receiving massage and I’ve been experimenting about what works best for me.

I’ve found massage from any experienced provider can be very interesting for any curious guy. I think men often know better where men like to be touched. That can also be true of female providers as well but I’m finding a special satisfaction with male providers. Of course that’s just me. It’s always good to be open minded and try new things in life particularly at this stage in my life. Below are some benefits that I’ve found and it doesn’t matter the gender of the professional.

On a physical level massage touch can help to relax tight muscles and improve circulation, nervous function and joint mobility.

On an emotional level I’ve found the interesting touch I often had problems finding safely. This has relaxed my mind and reduced my stress and made me feel valued again. At a deeper level, massage has helped release bad energies trapped in my body and mind. Hope to visit you one day. It seems like I would enjoy meeting you. Hugh.

Pride – August 2019

This email was a pleasure to receive and I am delighted to accept the invitation to post it here.
The Vancouver Pride celebrations were, as always, a high point in the year. The weather was on our side as well as the energy.
David describes his personal experience and it was a pleasure to spend the time with him and the others.
He’s in good company as a retired guy who finds limited opportunities for safe self expression. Engagement with Tantric practice in massage, ritual or simply conversational contexts can create so many personal opportunities.
As ever, email or call if you’d like further information on all this.
Colin
250-984-7051
co.lins@outlook.com

 

From: David

Sent: Monday, August 26, 2019 1:14 PM
To: Colin . <co.lins@outlook.com>
Subject: Pride

Hi Colin
 
This is David.
 
I’ve emailed M, K & J separately and am using initials only in case you choose to put this on your website which you are welcome to do.
 
My experience over the Pride days in Vancouver was everything I hoped it would be, and more.
 
As you know, I’d talked at length to M & K about imagining participating in the ‘fantasy’ experience with you all in Vancouver and on parade day.
 
As a family guy in his mid 60’s and widowed for a few years, I’ve been belatedly exploring my sexuality and have found that tantric approaches have added much to my understanding and comfort. This led me to the suggestion by my tantric guide in Vancouver, R, that I contact M & K to explore their ‘fantasy’ possibilities over the Vancouver Pride activities.
 
When I was married and with a young family there was little opportunity to focus on the unexplored aspects of my sexual thinking and appetite.
 
Over the past 3 years I’ve realized that I am fascinated with the energies of all people, as a male, and not just traditional heterosexual energies.
 
In my introduction to tantric massage and the group settings, which are often naked and mostly male, along with others in the gatherings I found myself as fascinated with the male form, touch, and energy as I’ve been with female company for most of my life.
 
I have chosen not to form any intimate relationships with other males, or females, but increasingly have allowed my curiosity about my sexuality to be present in my thinking.
 
It was with this in my mind that I contacted M & K, recommended by R  (I think you know him) as an experienced male/female couple with a unique approach to my curiosity.
 
I met with them and explained my background and questions. They were so understanding of my dilemmas and, after listening to me, suggested I participate in their ‘fantasy’ activity over the Pride parade weekend.
 
They described this would be an opportunity for me to open myself to many of my thoughts and to safely make them a reality. I had explained what I have been thinking was too strange to contemplate making real. M & K explained to me that my desire to share myself, almost naked, and to observe others similarly motivated, was not strange at all and was very much part of many of the energies that Pride represented. To see and be seen, without negative judgment and with pride and to be comfortably and socially accepted.
 
I was one of 2 guys who M & K agreed to support in this experience, as you know. I hadn’t met the other ‘fantasist’ – initial J – before. Although much younger than me we soon found much in common, as you know, and I came to understand that my ‘strange’ personal thoughts were not so strange.
 
I just wanted to convey to everybody involved how much I appreciated the comfort of the house and the attention and support that I received. It was worth every penny and time so well spent.
 
The Sunday, including watching the parade and joining the crowds on the Vancouver streets was just fantastic. Although at first I was so nervous (I think we all were) to shed nearly all of my clothes and wear only a small material covering over my more personal parts, I soon accepted that I was in good company and I was able to enjoy what was a unique experience and energy. I’ll never experience Davie Street in the same way again!
 
I think my confidence was supported by the presence of so many people with similar objectives. I’m sure the majority were not novices in the way that I was but I did feel a sense of public welcome. So many smiles and reassurances from people we met. And we returned the positive energy in the same way.
 
I was encouraged simply to follow my imagination. For the first time in my life I openly embraced the energy of attraction to all who engaged with me without reference to gender or appearance. It was so refreshing. I walked with K, topless and as exposed as I was, proud in sharing her wonderful energy. And I walked just as happily with J and yourself and other males, similarly pleased to be sharing the energy of the Pride streets.
 
I think the energy of acceptance and allowing our exposed bodies to speak our thoughts and minds was so clear.
 
So again I thank you all for changing this part of my life. Naturally I’m going to continue with my tantric journey and I wholeheartedly encourage any who fear the confusion that can come with questions of personal sexuality to find a safe place – perhaps in a tantric practice group, and begin to find yourself.
 
It was such a pleasure to meet you and If you are moved to publish this email on your blog, which I’ve really enjoyed reading, you must feel comfortable including it. I hope you’ll have some time for me to visit you next time I’m in Victoria.
 
Thank you again,
 
David

Safe Space

Safe Space

The search for safe and intimate comfort can be challenging.

The possibilities and choices to find such comfort can seem to be frustratingly limited.

The occasional enjoyment of bodywork and massage is satisfying but often all too brief.

As acceptance grows that, as individuals, our sexual and sensual identities are broad and legitimate, so, also, do the opportunities to enjoy and actualize seem frustratingly narrow.

While the virtual world of internet and keyboard driven images can help in beginning to focus preferences, it’s not an environment that makes it easy to discretely  and safely enjoy one’s newly discovered ‘self’ in the physical world.

The virtual world simply does not reciprocate the energy pounded into the keyboard.

This year, more than ever, opportunities have emerged that have allowed visitors, here, to take the time, safely and openly, to explore and enjoy aspects of their sensuality that are, all too often, difficult to express in less open contexts.

The chance to laze and gaze in a shared and non-judgmental environment, where no clock is ticking, is difficult to discover.

While it shouldn’t be so difficult to find comfortable space to share thoughts and preferences, when sensual self discovery is the goal the choices can be very limited.

I’ve heard this frequently over the past couple of years from wonderful visitors who have returned to share and spend extended overnight visits.

Such visits have provided a chance to temporarily exclude the outside world and often to actualize thoughts and newly discovered preferences – to build confidence and bring new peace of mind.

While this will always be a place of timeless massage it can also be a place of endless sensuality, self expression, company and comfort.

Beats any impersonal hotel, airbnb or website.

Just email or call to enjoy.

Colin

Tel:    250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Erotic Choices

Erotic Choices

These remarks perhaps move outside conventional Tantric definitions but are nonetheless relevant when considering how to enjoy a maximum of erotic stimulation.

Tantric massage, in its simplest forms, provides incredible sensual stimulation but it isn’t always available. There are other options, however, that can fill the gaps in between massages, and even become a ‘way of life’ in themselves.

Heightened sensual awareness and erotic stimulation can become a 24/7 experience, constructively blended with regular day to day activity.

It’s just a question of allowing imagination to do its work and not being afraid to actualize and experiment. The trick is to remember that there are many ways to experience personal sensual potential.

Begin to think about what heightens sensual awareness when alone. Self touch and masturbation is enjoyed by most people but is often approached with little conscious awareness.

Conscious self touch, or ‘mindful masturbation’ is a gateway to exploring a much broader potential. Many people work to lengthen and elaborate their solo experiences – start to be conscious of sensual self touch beyond simple genital stimulation. Expand consciousness and sensitization of more body zones.

Mentally associate such ‘distant’ touch with genital stimulation. Very easily it will be possible to find that touch to an unrelated body region will result in deep sensual stimulation. Take your time.

This is the beginning of heightened sensory awareness.

An easy example might be sensations to the feet. We tend to ignore the foot as an erogenous zone, often because convention and practicalities don’t provide much opportunity to use the erotic potential of the foot.

Take every opportunity to be barefoot. Wear shoes that can be slipped off easily and don’t wear socks. Be always aware that erotic sensitivity can be heightened whenever you slip off your shoes.

When sitting use the opportunity to stimulate the feet on the carpet or floor, discreetly. Previous practice associating genital stimulation with foot stimulation it will soon make it possible to raise sensual awareness in ordinary situations without moving immediately to the crotch! Often others will also begin to associate and enjoy the discrete energy.

This is obviously a very simple example – socially safe but full of opportunity. Practice can lead to foot fetishes of all forms – and so can begin a lifestyle.

The same ideas can apply to all other parts of the body – some easier to engage socially than others.

There’s nothing particularly new in discussing these ideas but often the erotic connection is not consciously understood when we seek to enjoy or enhance our bodies.

For example is jewelry worn to please the wearer or the observer? How personal should and can jewelry be?

Earrings are a common adornment, and unremarkable, but it is interesting to explore more deeply, the purpose and potentials of body piercing. Piercings and jewelry can have a clear erotic purpose for the wearer, transmitting that erotic energy to an observer. Additionally piercings can now be very much more visible on body parts that used to be considered too personal to expose.

Tongue and navel piercings are now commonplace and highly visible. It’s possible to practice to associate these areas with erotic self stimulation. Genital piercings and jewelry for males and females are less obvious but are a constant physical stimulation which can be converted into erotic stimulation 24/7. The feel of steel in and against skin and flesh is one of the most erotic stimulants known to many people.

Nipple piercings have a special place in the world of erotic experience.

The male nipple, which carries less social and sexual baggage than the female nipple, is a centre of nerve endings that can easily be developed as a fast track connection to erotic heightened awareness.

Even for those who do not find their nipples particularly sensitive to erotic touch and stimulation, with some practice it becomes very possible to use the nipple as a primary erogenous zone. Some shirt fabrics can stimulate the nipple very effectively at every movement, again providing sustained erotic energy.

It’s easy to understand how constant engagement and attention to these body parts can be considered ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But that is not a reason to deny the sensual and sexual potential. It’s a way of opening the energy of the mind and body to its full potential.

Moving to a bigger canvass, the nude human body can be the most powerful initial stimulant.

Unfortunately modern society often makes it very difficult to enjoy the sensual and sexual potential energy of a naked form, either solo or in company.

Nudity in advertising is expressed all the time but this is one of the instances where the implied message is ‘don’t try this in real life’. It’s suggested that reality may not measure up to the airbrushed magazine images.

But of course it can be stimulating and erotic to be naked, especially among others, and to see others naked.

To a greater or lesser extent we’re all potential voyeurs or exhibitionists.

Many kink and fetish environments allow and encourage nudity for entirely erotic, sensual and sexual potentials.

To enjoy the feeling of the exposed body, complete with the unhidden sexual energy of piercings, make-up, jewelry etc., or entirely unadorned, is a powerful statement and invitation to understand that it’s good to be aware of and in control of the physical body. That it can be good to demonstrate physically what is going on mentally.

Taken as a lifestyle interest, solo and communal nudity can be an enjoyable and powerful ‘fetish’ that is positive and can live in the mind 24/7.

As the physical and mental connections are developed and become part of life, rather than simply reserved for ‘special occasions’, so it becomes increasingly possible to test boundaries and try experiences that at one time seemed too strange.

Now it is possible to be in environments where everybody can be understood as simply enjoying erotic stimulation for its own relaxation and erotic effects. An ‘audience’ is not particularly a necessity. The activities are for the satisfaction of the individual but often an ‘audience’ can enhance the personal experience.

Perhaps the primary message is to welcome and encourage fantasy. There is much energy to be found in dungeon play, BDSM, communal nudity, cross dressing, oil wrestling, tattoos, piercings, foot worship, mindful solo masturbation, communal masturbation, performance art, naked ritual etc. The possibilities are endless, limited only by imagination.

‘Fetishes and kinks’ are positive possibilities. It’s possible to enjoy many or just a few but practice does offer the chance to enhance and enjoy erotic energy when the massage table isn’t available.

Always feel welcome to email or call on this general topic. The ideal is always to encourage sensual and sexual awareness and to use this raised consciousness to enjoy all aspects of sexual life.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                          Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Heightened Awareness

Heightened Awareness

To invite and experience Tantric Massage can often be an act of courage. Always it is an act of trust.

One true purpose of Tantra is to bring forth energies that lie dormant and to allow those energies to distribute and flow in unique and personal ways.

The effects and experiences can be powerful and ‘electric’ in so many ways. Tantric massage experiences can raise sensual consciousness and awareness to new levels.

Each journey is a unique experience and can frequently include the expectation of the unknown, if that is possible.

It is the process of becoming comfortable with, and conscious of the intensity of the unexplored sensual and sexual possibilities contained in all of us, that fulfills the mission of Tantric Practice.

Exploring these possibilities requires a willingness and ability to open the mind and body unreservedly.

Massage can and should be experienced both passively and actively. In Tantra there is an opportunity to learn how to become conscious of how pleasure is working on the mind. There is a conditioning in today’s life to believe that there is always a division between intellectual consciousness and physical/sexual/sensual consciousness.

Tantric Practice says that there should be no such ‘firewall’. That sexual and sensual experience, if consciously experienced, is not only enhanced but can become ever more part of  intellectual consciousness.

Tantric Practice provides, if nothing else, unusual opportunities to ask and to experience.

Quite soon along the Tantric journey questions arise. Intense arousal and energy have been experienced and often a desire is seeded to wish to repeat and enhance intensity. How to do that is a fundamental question. How does it all work?

The truth is that whatever mode of stimulation has been useful at any time is the correct mode. It’s logical to proceed from there.

Tantric Practice is about the distribution and use of physical and mental energy in sexual and sensual forms.

Tantric Practice encourages the exploration of becoming consciously aware of thoughts and practuces that bring pleasure.

Massage is often the beginning of Tantric Practice because it provides an entirely legitimate reason to receive and explore touch.

This is always a great sensual experience and a fine beginning but the likelihood is that it’s a passive experience. To move further along the Tantric path there is much enhancement to be found in becoming actively conscious of how the body and mind are processing and enjoying.

Ceremony and ritual often feature at this stage but to move too quickly can take things beyond natural comfort zones.

A quiet intermediate introduction stage can be very helpful, prior to ritual and group experiences.

This is the time to find the physical self. We know ourselves as a private image. We present the image that we believe matches the circumstance. While these choices may be entirely correct they are, nonetheless, private choices and incomplete, and the image of how we appear is our private image – an image in our head. How we may be perceived by others is not always accurately known to us.

In Tantrc Practice it’s necessary to make the ‘private’ image, ‘public’ in a sense. That is to say that we want to start to consciously enjoy the actuality of our complete physical being and to share the possibilities that we normally keep private.

So, where the desire is to supplement the massage experience with Tantric Practice please never hesitate to ask how best to move along the Tantric path. There are experiences to be had and enjoyed that combine well with the energy that Tantric massage produces.

Colin                                       

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What to expect? – Just call ahead

Every massage experience is unique. Regardless of whether it’s a first time visit or one of many, always it will be a voyage of discovery.

For answers to questions and curiosities and to arrange a visit – just call ahead.

Tel: 250-984-7051

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Imagine Realizing the Perfect Fantasy

IMAGINE REALIZING THE PERFECT FANTASY

Last year so many people wrote and called with ideas and preferences that they imagined including and experiencing when visiting.

These thoughts have been so instructive and revealing – and so much fun to explore.

In this New Year of 2019, whether you are a previous visitor or curious about a first time visit, if you have a particular thought about what you’d like to enjoy, or how to add to your experience, please email or call and share your imaginings. Whenever possible your thought can be the reality of your visit.

Tantric practice and massage provides the opportunity to share and enjoy so many fantasies, and there are so many to enjoy. The thought is always to make a more perfect visit.

The clock is turned off and the space is yours to fill.

So this year practice being true to your imagination and enjoy the energy of fantastic self expression – or simply lay back, empty your mind and relax.

Tel:         250-984-7051

Email:     co.lins@outlook.com

 

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Always Extra time

Thank you to all who have visited over the past year.

Every visit has been so memorable.

The Festive Season often brings the opportunity for some ‘Down-Time’ which, ironically, can also bring some ‘stressful’ times as well.

To all who might imagine finishing the year or starting the New Year with a visit –  you are most welcome.

The clock here is never counting elapsed time so do remember that if you need a place far from the madding shopping crowds, visits here don’t count the hours.

Stay and relax for as long as you can allow yourself to enjoy the gift of some Extra ‘Down-Time’.

Colin

Tel:   250-984-7051   Email:  co.lins@outlook.com

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Touching Insights

Today I received this email and attachment from a long time visitor.

 The attachment is thoughtful and has much in common with the expectations that so many visitors have.

 Accordingly I am very happy to post this as useful information and as something of a guide to the experiences that might be expected in a visit.

 Colin

Tel:           250-984-7051

email:     co.lins@outlook.com

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Tantric approaches

Robert <@gmail.com>

Thu 11/29/2018, 4:27 PM

Hi Colin,

It’s Robert here. I’ll be calling you soon. I’ve missed visiting.

As always I try to find other friendly providers or information that meets my preferences just as you do with your approach.

I found this experience description which seems to have so much in common with what we’ve always talked about.

I thought you might like to read this and even post it.

I hope to see you again soon.

Robert

 

 

 

 

Massage thoughts
I have never been inclined to advertise to the general public or to do massage in a setting such as a clinic, spa or salon. That works for some clients and therapists, and that’s all fine and dandy, but it is not for me. I feel restricted by many customs of the mainstream massage profession, and I have no desire to work within the confines of mainstream mores. I provide time mostly to males and the clients who visit tend to appreciate an experience that defies uptight mainstream conventions.

In my opinion, nakedness is requisite to a good massage experience. I find draping, either full or partial, to be a nuisance, not to mention that it interferes with the full range of the massage energy. However, there is no need for coy excuses to justify nudity. Being naked feels good and has intrinsic value, and I work in the nude unless a client is uncomfortable with that. Not only are you free to be naked, you are free to be totally unselfconscious about the appearance of your naked body. Our culture seems hell-bent on making people feel bad about their bodies, and that is amplified in the media subculture, unfortunately. My clients come in all shapes, sizes and ages. I treat all my clients with the same sense of decency, dignity and humanity.

There is a natural sensuality to my approach. I am not shy about touch. Yes, arousal is common. I’m cool with that. I am comfortable with the fact that my clients are sexual creatures and that full-body touch can be quite stimulating. However, I do want to make clear that my sessions are very much about sexual energy in the broadest terms. It is possible to channel sensual/erotic energy throughout your entire body to enhance the experience of being touched everywhere and in allowing an overwhelming preoccupation with a desire for rapid sexual climax the full potential of a sensual massage can be lost.

There is an unfortunate dichotomy in massage culture in which “legitimate” massage and “sensual” massage are polarized, and implicit in this dichotomy is the notion that nudity and sexuality are illegitimate. This schism is an artificial creation of our sexually backward society. Think of massage as a great painting such as Michelangelo’s “Creation of Adam.” (Adam is, of course, naked.) The ethics of professional massage associations require the equivalent of placing a big black box over Adam’s genitals. For some schools and practitioners this black-box concept is taken to an extreme, so imagine Adam with all erogenous zones blacked out, including his inner thighs, belly, nipples and butt (okay, his butt is not visible in the actual painting, but you get the idea). On the other end of the spectrum, think of the massage you see advertised as an adult service, usually by practitioners with dubious credentials and hokey, insulting names like “Rod’s HotRub4U.” This is sort of like manipulating the “Creation of Adam” in Photoshop, zooming in on and enlarging the area around Adam’s genitals and deleting the rest of the painting altogether. Either way, you’re getting a bastardized version of the painting and missing out on its full beauty. It is my hope that my massage transcends labels manufactured by those who fear the human body and gives my clients the whole picture.

 

Holistic Approach: Integrating Sensuality and Erotic Energy
In my line of work, issues of eroticism and sensuality seem to be at the forefront of the minds of many of my potential clients. First of all, if you’ve ever wondered what the difference is between a sensual massage and an erotic massage… well, so have I. Most of the attempts I have read to somehow define either term run the gamut from specious to absurd. I tend to use the words “sensual” and “erotic” interchangeably to refer to man’s capacity for arousal, just so you know, and I hope I can challenge you to think outside the box of society’s default assumptions about these highly subjective and loaded words.

When I am confronted with the question Do you offer erotic massage? a big red flag goes up in my mind. It is not because I’m a prude. Far from it. I actually believe that erotic energy is quite vital to my work. (Think about it: you’re lying on a table naked with someone’s hands on your body. I think there is a degree of eroticism inherent in such a situation.) However, I know that my idealized notions of erotic energy as it pertains to massage do not necessarily gel with everyone else’s notions, and I am keenly aware that many of those who purport to be seeking an “erotic massage” are really looking for an experience that involves little or no massage at all. Going to a massage therapist for sex is akin to going to an orthodontist to have him brush your teeth.

The term “erotic massage” is one that I think should be reclaimed from those who have made it synonymous with escort work, but as it is I eschew the term in advertising because too many people extrapolate that “erotic massage” means “nothing but erotic.” I choose to describe my integration of therapeutic massage and erotic energy as a “holistic” approach to massage, if you’ll indulge me that rather New Age-y neologism. The actual manipulation of muscular tissue that defines massage is the meat and potatoes of what I do. Sensual/erotic energy, ideally, should be an undercurrent that heightens one’s receptiveness to therapeutic touch.

The most understandable definition of holistic I have found is this American Heritage Dictionary version: “Emphasizing the importance of the whole and the interdependence of its parts.” Holistic is the adjective form of holism, which is–to give a concise but oversimplified explanation–the idea that a whole is somehow more than the sum of its parts. Don’t worry. I’m not trying to get all metaphysical on you. But consider this: in a purely clinical approach to massage, you’re most likely covered in draping, and the therapist is probably trying to consciously avoid getting too close to your erogenous zones. It can still be a satisfying experience in the hands of someone who is skilled at addressing your areas of tension, and you may leave feeling like your muscles have received much-needed attention. But let’s get rid of that draping, increase the range of the strokes and regard your body as a whole with nothing zoned off. That kind of approach, in my opinion, makes a body feel so much more alive and adds a synergy to the experience that makes it infinitely more fulfilling than the undrape/ massage-but-don’t-get-too-close-to-anything-naughty/ re-drape approach. In my idea of a holistic approach, the therapist doesn’t fear the fact that the client may become aroused at various times during the session.

If I were to distinguish between a holistic approach and an erotic approach to massage, I would say that a holistic approach recognizes that sensual and erotic feelings are a natural, valid part of the experience. However, an exclusively erotic approach may be one that seeks to exploit a body’s capacity for arousal at the expense of the therapeutic benefits of massage. (Keep in mind that I have simply co-opted the term holistic as a means of challenging what I see as the erroneous notions inherent in the purely therapeutic versus purely erotic dichotomy. Other massage practitioners who use the term holistic may have an entirely different take on the word.)

I think the reason the term “holistic” appeals to me is because it takes the pressure off the need for the session to be self-consciously erotic. I don’t relate to massage practitioners who offer an “erotic” version for an increased charge. I’m not sure I understand what they are factoring into or out of their various incarnations of a massage. The erotic element of my work is not something that is a deliberate addition to a more generic version. I do massage the way I feel it should be done, and for me erotic energy is intrinsic to it.

And to get attuned to that facet, imagine this scenario: You stumble upon a hidden beach in an idyllic location on the perfect summer day. You strip off every thread of your clothing, run naked into the blue-green water and play in the gentle surf, feeling wonderfully unencumbered and maybe just slightly mischievous. Exhausted but exhilarated, you emerge from the water and collapse onto the pure white sand and just lie there, relishing the warmth of the sun and the slight coolness of the breeze all over your bare body. You close your eyes and listen to the waves, with no particular urge to do anything but luxuriate in the moment. There is an element of eroticism and sensuality in such a scenario, but it is not about a libido in overdrive. It is more about feeling your body everywhere and savoring the heightened sensitivity of your skin that comes with being naked, relaxed and free. This little trip to the beach represents the frame of mind that allows you to get the most out of what I offer.

Continuing with the beach analogy: This time, think of a sandy beach as a metaphor for the massage. When I touch you, I do so without fear and without attempts to censor zones of your body. Arousal is a natural consequence. With the right frame of mind and set of expectations, arousal can come as a series of waves. Some waves are bigger than others, but these waves wash over the beach and then recede. If you become attuned to this wave mentality, then you are channeling erotic energy, and that is vital to sustaining the massage. I don’t mean for this to sound esoteric. Concepts like this are hard to put into words. But if I were to coin a mantra for channeling erotic energy, it would be this: let it come, let it go, let it be. You don’t need to disguise or be embarrassed by your arousal. You also don’t need to start humping the table. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the sensations you are feeling that moment. Don’t think about five minutes from now. In fact, try not to think at all.

Incidentally, after one to two hours of channeling erotic energy, you may feel a need to release some of that energy. I’m cool with that.

 

I try my best to create an atmosphere conducive to a great massage, but some things are beyond my control. Here are a few things I’ve found work so well.

Allow yourself to relax completely. If I lift your arm or leg, I’m going to support it. There is no need to assist the movement. I know that some people (including me) have trouble letting go like this when they are on the table. That’s okay. I realize that it is counterproductive and makes people self-conscious to demand that they relax. Just be aware that you have the option of letting go and that you will benefit more from the massage if you do.

Feel free to communicate with me. Sometimes I can tell from body language if I need to make adjustments, but I don’t have ESP. Don’t endure something if it hurts. Tell me. Also, if you feel overall that my touch is too firm or too light, let me know during the session.

Allow yourself to zone out. There is a state of consciousness about halfway between being completely awake and being asleep that is ideal for receiving massage. I realize that most people do not want to fall asleep and miss the sensations of touch, but you will not be in an optimally receptive state if you are fully alert. Close your eyes and relish the rare opportunity of doing nothing but receiving touch.

 

 

 

Message of Thanks

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It’s time to thank the many readers of this blog who write emails describing their personal experiences with touch, massage, ritual and Tantra.

Often emails speak of personal voyages of self discovery. Often they speak of the successful actualization of thoughts and imaginings through the very personal interactions that Tantric practice can provide.

I try to respond to all communications and have had the pleasure of reading so many constructive thoughts and ideas.

In this process I’m often invited to post and share emails to this blog. So I’ve saved many communications with the intention of posting them.

Here’s one from a writer who provides thoughts that many might find familiar.

His experience, while personal to him, might be an inspiration to many who can imagine there are safe and comfortable experiences available.

Colin

 

From: xxxxxxx@gmail.com
Subject: Surprising and relaxing

Hello Colin,

Its unlikely I’ll ever get to visit you because I’m south of our shared border in Chicagoland. But I do read your blog and wish you would post more frequently.

I’ve become a tantric massage addict recently and reading the internet links I think I’m not alone and maybe my experiences will be helpful to others. I hope that you might publish my thoughts or I’ll have to start my own website.

I’m a retired professional gentleman in my late 60s. I’ve raised a family in the midwest and my wife and I have successfully downsized our lives. I can’t say that we have any special relationship problems but our interests have diverged over the years. I’d say we’re comfortable living companions but no longer sexual. I have always been respectful of my wife and family so have never had to hide serious secrets.

A year ago I slipped on some ice and damaged my back. It wasn’t serious and is now healed but at the time our doctor suggested I get some sports massage which would ease the discomfort.

I visited a massage practitioner and he introduced me to the world of deep tissue and sports massage. At first the visits were quite uncomfortable as he dealt with my not so serious injury. Then as I healed I began to find that I was enjoying the table time more than I was comfortable with. I had never sought massage treatments in my life and massage parlors would never have been on my radar. After the scheduled sports massages, though I found myself thinking about the touch of the practitioner and I must admit to becoming slightly confused about how much I would miss the visits when the session schedule ended and whether I could find something to replace it. The visits were always professional in nature. My wife is not strong enough to provide massage and I didn’t want to bother her with my thinking.

I took to the internet to learn more and after looking at the endless dubious massage services I found that the tantric term appeared quite frequently. I think thats when I might have first seen your site but there were others. In my searching I found a guy quite local to me who advertised massage for relaxation. My sports prescription had ended and although my back was mostly now ok I became quite focused on finding something to fix my need for touch. Parlors were out and there seemed no harm in contacting for a relaxation massage from a professional guy.

I made an appointment one cold afternoon at a suburban house. I was welcomed into a living room with a familiar massage table. The room seemed to be much less clinical than the room of my sports therapist. The space was certainly not threatening in any way and I’d become used to some of the massage protocols in my sports visits so I assumed something similar but less clinical. This is where my new experiences began I think.

I’ll refer to the practitioner as Brian. A very peaceful man in his 40s. After introducing himself and waiting for me to adjust to the room, take off my coat etc. I was invited to take a seat which was an armchair and explain my expectations while Brian listened. I remember telling him about my accident and massage treatment and I said that further relaxing massage might help as a self prescribed complete cure. I also told him that I found that my preference was for a male practitioner. As I talked I found myself beginning to anticipate the table time ahead in a way that hadn’t happened with my sports practitioner.

Brian said that he understood as much of the background as he needed to and that this would be a different experience because normally relaxation massages were more complete than sports or chiropractic. He invited me to use the shower, which I declined, and he left the room after telling me to undress and get onto the table. I put my clothes on the armchair and wrapped a towel, that Brian had left on the table, around me and climbed onto the table face down.

Brian soon returned although I couldn’t see him being face down. He turned on some quiet music and began a massage of my lower back and then to my shoulders. He used some oil and soon it began to occur to me that this was a very different experience from the sports massage. I found my mind wandering and into thoughts far from the reality of the day.

Brian didn’t remove the towel when he started on my legs but as he moved to my thighs the towel did get in the way. He asked if he could remove it to massage my butt and I happily murmured yes.

The massage continued as you might expect and I experienced it very sensually especially when I turned over, declining the towel as covering. Now I had a view of Brian, who was working shirtless. I found the combination of the touch of the massage and Brian’s appearance very arousing and although Brian did everything to slow me down the involuntary personal aspect of the massage was completed rather quickly.

Brian completed the massage for another 30 minutes I recall and I found myself completely relaxed and walking on air.

I used the shower and we talked for a while after I dressed. Since then I have returned to Brian quite frequently and feel more relaxed than I have for a long time.

Here’s the message you might like to take from this. I’ve found a safe and relaxing way to enjoy touch which is no longer available to me at home. I’ve been in good company and have made a new friend. Although I’ve always considered myself attracted to the opposite sex I’ve realized that I can completely enjoy the touch and company of a male in this context and I’ve come to appreciate the sensual and sexual potential of males in the same way that I’ve understood female attraction. I enjoy the company and the discretion and I will be enjoying my visits to Brian as far as I can see into the future.

It was a leap of faith for me to engage more of myself in this way and I would encourage any person who finds their ability to relax overwhelmed by routine, to find safe ways to enjoy whatever touch they can.

Hope this helps somebody.

John in Chicago

Tantric Triggers

Tantric Triggers

For those who find themselves on the Tantric path, new questions arise all the time.

Tantric practice is about relaxation of the mind and body and a Tantric approach to mindful relaxation often gives access to energies within that are often suppressed.

Sexual energy, for many, is the most deeply buried energy, and Tantric practice seeks to uncover that treasure. While buried within us, without outlet, sexual energy is a stressor which can be the source of many imbalances.

The purpose of Tantric practice is to heighten awareness of sexual energy and to balance mind and body. A first step is to begin to experience underused senses and how they can relate to sensual and sexual awareness.

Such practice can deliver deep relaxation of the mind and a heightened sense of relaxed well-being. The initial routes – always safe, sane and consensual –  are often through visual and touch stimulation.Tantric massage can provide incredibly exciting experiences, so much so that many people seek to move even further along the Tantric path and to enjoy this state of relaxation as part of their day to day lives.

But what is the next step after learning to appreciate how to receive and enjoy Tantric touch?

In heightening sensory awareness Tantric practice can begin to powerfully introduce sexual energy into the conscious mind. If that energy previously existed primarily in subconscious awareness, Tantra seeks to bring it more frequently into the conscious mind. This can be thought of as ‘mindful awareness’ and it is at that level that we can begin to integrate conscious Tantric sensuality with conscious sensual awareness. The reward is a reduction in daily mental stress as sexual energies become balanced and integrated with rational consciousness.

This endeavor is not as easy as might be imagined. In Tantric massage and related experiences the receiver is mostly passive, relaxing in the receipt of touch and reaching out to amplify and enhance that touch.

In ‘mindful awareness’ the Tantric purpose is to become a more active participant in creating the rise in energy and identifying and consciously promoting the relaxation ‘triggers’ that prompt the rise in sensual and sexual energy.

This level of participation in sensual and sexual exploration can be daunting at first but does bring entry into a world of previously unrealized consciousness. It begins to place sensual and sexual energy in a mindful consciousness that can be available 24/7 – not just on days when a Tantric massage or ritual session is available.

‘Tantric triggers’ are the switches or ‘turn-ons’ which are unique to each of us. Broad triggers could be visual, tactile, imaginary, taste-centered etc. Within those possibilities we each use imaginative energy to raise sexual/sensory consciousness.

The first step in a Tantric approach to ‘triggers’ is to recognize, consciously, what we are thinking and enjoying. Normally such thoughts can be allowed to surface, momentarily, from the subconscious in order to ‘enjoy the sexual and sensual moment’. In Tantra the goal is to ‘hold that thought’.

By becoming more conscious of the detail of such energy it can be recalled and given it its rightful place in the conscious mind.

The biggest initial hurdle is to overcome the perceived vulnerability that such consciousness raising requires. For many it is not easy to acknowledge the seemingly strange ‘turn on triggers’ that can be so powerful. We might know that we have always been turned on by particular body parts or characteristics but beyond disclosing an interest in socially acceptable ‘norms’, we can feel less inclined to disclose or seek the stimulation of preferences which might be thought of as ‘weird’ or ‘fetish’. So, often, that interest is kept secret, within within an individual.

Tantra looks to encourage enjoying that subconscious interest and energy so that it can become part of the conscious, relaxed mind and body.

There are many approaches in Tantra to reaching these levels of self-awareness. Massage and ritual can help.

So, for any who feel there are levels of subconscious energy that could be enjoyed – take the risk to talk further about these approaches.

Colin

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Differences & Distinctions

Often a question is asked about the difference between Tantric massage, relaxing massage, full body massage, erotic massage, therapeutic massage etc.

In truth it is likely that there are as many definitions and answers as there are practitioners. Still, it’s a fair question.

Definitions and descriptions of massage ‘techniques’ e.g. Swedish, Lomi Lomi, Thai, Reiki etc. can easily be researched and described definitively but defining ‘relaxing’ in massage is more subjective.

Any relaxing massage experience is hopefully designed to be a pleasant experience, but what of the question defining the descriptions of full body – relaxing – erotic – Tantric. Isn’t it all the same?

Happily it is normal to experience a relaxing massage as an erotic experience even if it’s not ‘full body’. Simple touch, in the right circumstance can be incredibly and surprisingly erotic. Certainly a ‘full body’ relaxing massage, is likely to result in an erotic experience.

Tantric massage sessions tend to be longer than simple full body relaxation massage. Perhaps Tantric massage is best defined as a shared journey, where natural energy and reactions are mutually enjoyed by both receiver and giver.

There is always a ‘safe landing’ and the effects of the experience can last for many days afterwards.

In Tantric massage the experience is always about the journey without undue focus on the destination. Relaxation massage, erotic massage, full body massage, therapeutic massage, Tantric massage, combinations of all – it’s all good.

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Time & Tantra

Time & Tantra

Tantric practice encourages the idea of an ‘experience’ rather than a ‘session’, whether or not the time is in massage, ritual, discovery or any combination of Tantric practice.

Such experience is timeless – in that the experience tends to find its own unique pace and is not necessarily divided into hourly segments.

For this reason ‘clock watching’ is not part of Tantric experience. The idea is to provide an experience to relax the mind and body and thereby raise physical consciousness and heighten awareness. How this develops in any individual will be unique to the moment and certainly the benefit can be defeated by watching the clock too closely. That’s not to say that time constraints are not a reality to be respected at times. Just that experiences, short or long, need not necessarily be measured by the clock.

If Tantric practice requires anything from followers, those requirements, at least, are an open and curious mind and a generosity of spirit. So we always approach experiential time with generosity not measured by hours and minutes.

Sometimes the experience will last long – other times it maybe shorter.  Always, though, it will be a unique experience – never a ‘timed session’.  We don’t always have to make the massage ‘run on time’!

Colin

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Sticky Labels, Fantasy & Happy Places

MassageOilOne of the most common barriers in seeking peace of mind is the construction of a fence of labels in the mind.

These labels are often simply flimsy figments of  imagination, ready to be blown away with a puff of positive energy.

Often, potential peace of mind is denied by imagining and internalizing a self identity – a label that seems to fit in a personal universe.

But are the labels really useful and a best fit? If there are too many mismatches it can be uncomfortable to exist in the world. Since it’s more difficult to change the world than it is to change a few psychic assumptions, Tantric practice works on taking  thoughts to more productive and happier places – and so to greater peace of mind.

Tantra deals with personal energy and life forces. Conscious energy and involuntary energy.

The strongest of these energies is sexual energy and the labeling of sexual preferences, fantasies and thoughts often creates much confusion.

Thoughts and fantasies can change, recur, renew etc., as time passes. Self images are created as a fit with what exists in any personal daily universe. The image is purposefully self created  but does not always mesh with other involuntary thoughts and fantasies.

What to do? The excluded thoughts and images just don’t go away. It’s not that those thoughts and fantasies are dangerous, unlawful or harmful to self or others. It’s just that they don’t match the self image. So, quite often the thoughts and energies are buried in the back of the mind. But they don’t cease to exist.

Such burials can be a waste of energy and can distract from a peaceful and productive existence.

Tantric practice and massage can help to resurrect and  find a useful place for such buried energy. It can find a map to hidden treasures – the acceptance of self, and greater peace of mind.

Tantric practice is about the conscious and enjoyable control of the energies that inevitably play in the mind and body. Always the most powerful and fascinating of those energies is sexual energy. It is disabling to deny that fact and enabling to control and enjoy it.

The suppression and pigeonholing of thoughts can be paralyzing. Tantric practice offers the chance to safely explore thoughts and fantasies and to include them in real life. To make them fit with self image.

To erase some of the useless labels. To learn to enjoy some fantasies and find some happy places.

Colin

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Email: co.lins@outlook.com

 

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Tantra, Fetish & Kink

Tantric Fetish & Kink

Tantric massage can often be an experience of connecting the mind to the body..

The pace of life today often seems to block consciousness of the pleasure of physical sensations. Consciousness of self, as an erotic being, can be at risk.

Tantric massage and touch can re-awaken erotic consciousness and Tantric Practice is very much about heightening erotic physical and mental awareness.

Within the Tantric experience, massage, perhaps, has the broadest appeal, but the opportunity also exists to delve deeper into Tantric sensation potentials.

As the mind begins to make more space for sensual and erotic stimulation, and as mental and physical awareness is heightened, the imagination of the erotic begins to challenge the physical body – thoughts of making fantasies into realities.

Within Tantric Practice it is possible to raise the sensitivity and expand the erogenous potentials of the body.

Over time body and mind become more conscious of erotic potential and imagination begins to expand horizons. More fantasy can enter the door of consciousness that Tantric Practice has opened, enabling opportunities to actualize fantasies.

Actualization of erotic imagery is often described, sometimes quite dismissively, as ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But imagination should not be dismissed so easily.

Kinks and fetishes are entirely Tantric and are as valuable and valid as any part of erotic imagination.

It’s often difficult to discuss particular ‘turn-ons’, imagining that such thoughts are outside of a Tantric experience. The truth is that actualization of erotic imagery, however ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’ it might seem, (with the obvious exceptions of activity that is not lawful, sane, safe or consensual) is welcomed in Tantra and is regarded as the positive product of sensual and erotic imagination. Where actualization needs to happen with a partner, the participation of a guide in Tantric Practice can be the perfect solution.

To all who enjoy the world of Tantric Practice and massage, feel welcome to share thoughts about actualizing fantasies and finding comfort in every experience.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                      Email:  co.lins@outlook.com

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Massage & A Birthday Party

There are occasions when Tantric massage can add to a special event and on this occasion it was to celebrate a birthday.

This event was unusual in some ways and did remind of the  possibilities when gathering a small group of people together.

What follows is a more detailed description of the birthday dinner.

Colin

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Birthday Massage

The invitation was to be part of a small birthday celebration at the home of some friends.

It was the birthday of a friend of theirs and they wanted to organize a memorable, but ‘civilized’, party.

My friends have been Tantric massage visitors for a few years and I’ve known them through their visits and various art gatherings, exhibitions etc.

What they arranged for their friend is worth a few words since it was so carefully planned and worked so well.

The plan was quite simple. They invited their birthday friend (he’s unattached) and 2  m/f couples, for a surprise birthday dinner. That made a party of seven including the hosts who are a m/m couple.

The surprise for the birthday guest was to be that everybody could receive a massage throughout the evening – if they chose. I was invited to provide the massages.

What made the plan particularly interesting, and provided the performance art & Tantric aspect, was that the massage table was set up in the dining room. So while the others were eating, the guest receiving massage could be watched from the dining table.

My friends saw this not only as a birthday gift of Tantric massage, but also as performance art.

Initially the massage table was draped and disguised. When everybody was seated for dinner, and comfortable – there had been drinks etc. before sitting down – the hosts uncovered the massage table and announced the evening’s ‘birthday present’.

The initial surprise announcement was well received – all guests were on the same page – and was greeted with appreciation and enormous positive energy.

The hosts explained that the order of massage would be random. Cards would be dealt to each person prior to each massage. The highest card would be the next massage.

Massages would last around 15 mins. Some obvious logistcal questions arose. The random playing card routine handled who would be first, but then questions about what to wear/not to wear/how intimate/oil etc. – all were asked.

The hosts said that all that was necessary was for everyone to enjoy themselves within their own comfort level – obviously it was equally acceptable to take a pass and just watch.

My task was to provide massage entirely according to the wishes of the guest. The hosts and the table would ensure that the guest was heard and understood.

The dress for the evening was smart/casual. The group comprised of very open minded people, of course, but it can never be assumed that all sizes always fit everybody, whatever the past experiences.

In this case everybody seemed totally into the activity.

So, as the party talked and decided I prepared the massage table, oil, towels etc.

The cards were dealt for the first time, and exposed. The highest belonged to one of the partnered males.

The hosts had set a screen for changing and with the encouragement of all, especially his partner, the first ‘high card’ retired behind the screen to prepare.

There were towels behind the screen and the guest emerged wearing one of them around his waist, to much applause.

He climbed onto the table, face down. The hosts asked if he wanted to keep the towel on and of course the group encouraged him to discard it. That was his choice so I removed it.

I started the massage of his back immediately as the party enjoyed their meal and enjoyed the visual of the massage. I checked if it was OK to use oil. It was. The plan was to allow approx. equal time on both back and front.

Now the time came for him to turn over. Again the question – did he want a towel? Hoots of laughter from the table encouraging no towel! I whispered in his ear, checking his preference.

The energy in the room was certainly supportive and erotic. He said that his preference did not require the towel.

The turn over revealed that he was clearly enjoying the time and he was cheered by the ‘audience’. I massaged, with limitations, his front, figuring that his partner or others could continue the massage themselves, at a later time, if that was the plan.

The front massage was over soon enough – too soon, probably for the guest – and he rolled off the table, standing to take a mock bow.

The hosts then asked him whether he wanted to get dressed again or just recover the towel. Whatever he decided likely would set the precedent for the evening.

His partner called out that he should remain as he was – naked and well oiled. That received the support of the table, so I handed him the towel and he resumed his seat, a nude male at a table of smartly dressed diners. Performance art takes many forms.

New cards were dealt and this time the high card was the ‘birthday’ guest. The timing seemed appropriate.

We all sang happy birthday when he turned over. As with the previous guest, he didn’t ask to be draped with his towel or recover his clothes, so the table now included two naked male guests.

The next card selection only included the remaining five guests, of course. The high card fell to the female partner of the male who hadn’t yet had a massage.

Tantric massage is approached with respect and with a practical neutrality regarding gender. The experience must also always respect individual preferences, expectations and comfort levels.

The hosts checked carefully again that the massage experience would be within the lady’s comfort level.

She reassured everybody that this was exactly where she wanted to be and emerged from her seat at the table. After a stop behind the screen for a towel she climbed onto the massage table and I spent 10 mins. massaging her back. Then turn over time came. I whispered in her ear, asking if she wanted to continue, and with or without the towel.

The reply was a very clear “yes”, and without the towel, and she flipped over immediately. By the end of the massage she was as happy as her two previous companion diners.

On leaving the massage table she said she no longer has use for her dress that evening and joined the others at the table.

It happened that the next high card was the remaining female and she followed the same easy pattern as the previous guest.

The remaining guests for massage were the males, of course, and by the end the vibe in the room was certainly ‘electric’.

It was a long and enjoyable evening. The energy was entirely positive and although the evening was long there was little time to have any thoughts of fatigue.

I’ve also been told that the guest of honour found this to be his best birthday present, ever!

Tantric approaches and experiences can be used to raise energy and heighten awareness in many situations. This was an event that wasn’t difficult to imagine or organize and led to an unforgettable experience for all present.

Colin

Tel:  250-984-7051                    Email:   co.lins@outlook.com

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Massage, Fitness & Curiosity


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This email has been on my list for inclusion for the past year. Now seems a good time to post it.
It’s an email from a reader who explains that after a year of regular relaxation massage he became increasingly motivated to improve his body image and state of mind. The content speaks for itself. I haven’t edited his remarks, which convey a sincere message.
He wonders whether his thoughts are ‘tantric enough’. I replied to him when he wrote, saying that his experiences were entirely reflective of Tantric possibilities.
Regaining a physical comfort level is very much a matter of continued realistic commitment and motivation.
Tantric practice can promote and combine a relaxed state of mind with a non-judgemental physical awareness, and can contribute to a progressive and lasting change in outlook and health.
Tantric practice makes no claims based on accepted scientific method but the following email does suggest that happy endings come in many disguises.
Colin
250-984-7051
Subject: Massage for fitness

Hey Colin, You might like this for your web site.

Its the new year 2014 and I remembered my new year rezolutions a year ago. It was to lose some weight and try to get fitter.

I am a family man with grown kids out of the home and I had become a couch cabbage. I’d tried jogging and gyms and all sorts of things but nothing seemed to stick so I’d almost given up. I got talking to a casual friend who seemed in better shape than me and he said he’d been going for massage regularly for a couple of years and he’d found that it made him more active and also relaxed in himself at the same time.

I thought he might be joking with me like he was suggesting something wierd and he might be talking about ladies and happy endings but he wasn’t although he said so far the results had been happy.

He gave me the number of the guy that he’d been visitng for massage and I called it after feeling even more over stuffed from Christmas. I did mention my friend and that I was looking to get in better shape. It seemed a bit unlikely that massage could do what I wanted but my friend seemed to have become fitter and so maybe there was a secret. Also I was a bit nervous about getting massage from another guy but I was curious in my mind and I’ll admit to some mixed feelings.

Long story short I made an appointment and had a great complete massage. The masseur – I’ll skip his name – didn’t make the slightest personal remark although I told him that I was feeling overweight and tired. The time on the table was completely relaxing and I rebooked another visit.

I visited many times in the year and found that because I had to be undressed during the sessions which I began to enjoy I began to take more interest in my weight and as the sessions relaxed me I started to become more interested in diet and excercize.

I dropped more than 10 lbs. during the year. I think it was a result of the massage making me more conscious of myself and motivating me even though my massage buddy never made a remark. I get on well with him and I think I’ve found the same experience as my friend.

Not sure if this is tantric enough for you but it might also work for other guys who can’t find things that work. I won’t mention all of the massage techniques that I’ve enjoyed but they beat a lot of other excercize options. Also no problem with having a guy massaging me. I’ll just say that it’s really helped me relax and enjoy my curious side.

William

Ps: I’m in Calgary but expect to semi retire in a couple of years so maybe I’ll visit you.

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Explore the pleasures of Mind and Body – and break all barriers of discrimination.

Open Reply to Ritual Post

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It was kind of my visitor to allow his very descriptive email to be posted on this blog and at his request I did add a password to access the text. (With his permission I’ve removed the password, now and his email follows in the next post)

While I have replied to him privately he does raise some interesting and exciting issues which are worth some further thought.

His email describes an experience he had where he was introduced to a group of individuals who follow a Tantric lifestyle. The group was organized by a Tantric guide whom he visits for massage.

In his message he describes in much detail the introduction ceremony and ritual that was practiced to initiate him into the group and he asks whether what he experienced was common to all Tantric practice.

It’s worth noting that he expressed no negative thoughts and was simply seeking further information. Since I know him personally I know his questions to be sincere and his descriptions to be accurate.

In considering his questions it’s worth making a distinction between Tantric massage and Tantric practice in general. In this blog I’ve discussed many aspects of Tantric massage but the email talks about ritual and ceremony so I’ll set aside the massage element in this response and primarily talk about Tantric ritual and lifestyle.

Tantric practice is always about understanding the distribution of physical and intellectual energy in ourselves and others. Particularly sexual energy, which can be the most powerful force within us.

Any ceremony or ritual that recognizes these dynamics and moves participants comfortably, progressing them in adjusting and raising their awareness, is a valid presentation of Tantric practice.

The email describes a small group where two people are introduced to others further along the path, in a process designed to raise Tantric consciousness. The ceremony seems relatively simple and was clearly designed to consciously raise sensual and sexual energy and to provide an early step in opening minds and reducing inhibitions.

The form of ritual and wording described is quite common in Tantric practice and honors the participants as valued individuals and in every aspect of their beings.

There are more elaborate rituals than the one described and as this group moves on to further Tantric understandings it is likely that the ceremonies will require increasing intensity of thought and action as consciousness is continually raised.

Tantric ritual and practice is definitely not intended to be ‘secret’ or exclusive. The strength is to open minds and bodies to healthy understanding of the energies within us and to enjoy those energies in day to day life.

To be successful and take full advantage of the opportunities, stages of practice are introduced so that the process does not become overwhelming.

Many writings and rituals on this subject are available. I will make some chapters available describing how solo and group Tantric practice can be approached and successfully enjoyed. I’ll make them available through this blog whenever requested.

My friend’s experience seems entirely Tantric in its intent and practice and I’ve wished him well in the next stages. It does appear that he is in the hands of a practiced Tantric guide. I’ve asked him to send any further ceremony descriptions if he’d like to.

For those readers who find this topic interesting and would like to share experiences, questions or ideas, please do feel welcome to write to me, always in confidence of course.

Colin

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Tantric Ritual Experience

Subject: tantra group
From:@gmail.com

Its Ed here from Toronto.

I thought you would be interested to hear how my Tantric ritual encounter group went and compared with other groups that I havent been able to come to.

I told you before about the guy that Ive been getting massage from near me. He also has workshop groups which take people through stages of tantra massage etc. His ideas seem very like yours and so we got talking and I went to one of his group sessions. He’d told me that there was one other client of his at the same stage as me so we could be introduced together.

My description might be on the long side but I’m really interested to hear if it matches what you do.

I arrived at Petes place at the same time as the other guy whose name was Brian. Pete and 3 other guys and a female whose name was Dawn were there, so there were 7 of us.

Pete had put on some snacks etc. and made the room comfortable with a tantric altar, drapes and candles.

I can’t remember everyones names except Brian and Dawn but we were introduced. I was quite nervous not knowing how this was going to work out and I think Brian was as well. Pete and the others were dressed very loosely in what looked like silk pajamas. Brian and I were dressed in street clothes like slacks and shirts.They were all very nice to us. It seemed one of the guys was partnered with Dawn but they all obviously knew each other and were very relaxed. I guess theyd been there awhile before we arrived.

Pete had turned off most room lights and lit the candles. The mood in the room was friendly and positive so my nerves were beginning to relax.

Pete then took us through many of the concepts of tantra – energy, chakras etc. It was all what we’ve talked about but was worth rehearing as it always is. Then he welcomed me and Brian and said that the time of the evening was to introduce us to another level of tantrra beyond massage and that what we would experience would raise our knowledge of ourselves and make us more conscious of mental and physical pleasure.

I remember him saying that at first we might find the experience awkward but if we gave ourselves over to it we’d enjoy longlasting rewards and that tantra would open out minds and make us more conscious of sensual touch etc.

Brian and I were given pajamas like the others were wearing and sent to the bathroom together to change. Pete said to just wear the outfits and nothing else. It seemed a bit strange changing in the bathroom with a guy I’d never met before but he was a nice guy and I think he was thinking mostly about all this the same as me. We knew Pete from massage sessions and that he was totally sincere so no problem.

The pajamas were silk or something similar and felt comfortable and we went back into the room. Pete had put a low covered platform in front of the couch where the others were sitting. It might have been a low coffee table or something similar covered by a colored drape or cloth. Might have been 12″ above the floor and we were instructed the stand together facing the others on the table platform.

We stepped up and stood facing the others and Pete was to the side. In the background was chanting music and that with the candle light gave the place an exciting feel.

Pete then quietly announced that we were gathered to offer thanks for the chance to present ourselves in a safe and honoured way and to experience the energy trapped within us and to let loose that energy under our own conscious control. It was something like that and I can’t remember exactly. You might know better the wording or idea.

More words followed as we stood there and then we were told that our bodies and minds were to be honoured tonight in tantric open ritual and in offering ourselves as vulnerable we would move toward a better control of our own consciousness. As he talked Pete moved toward us and asked us to unbutton and remove the pajamas.

We followed his request, rather clumsily I felt, and then continued standing nude on the platform. I wasn’t sure where to look or whether to make eye contact with the others.

Pete then moved me closer to Brian and with a strap of some sort joined my right ankle to his left and my right wrist to his left wrist. I could feel his body heat at the points where our legs and arms touched. The straps were not tight or uncomfortable but joined us in an interesting way.

Then he put a fabric belt of some sort around my waist and with another loose strap attached my left wrist to the belt. So I could move my hand and arm at my side but not to the front or back. Same with Brian right arm.

The straps had distracted me for a moment from reminding myself that I was naked and as I again became conscious of that Pete came with a blindfold and covered my eyes and Brian’s.

More words from Pete who said that now our ‘companions’ as he called them would engage tantric ritual in recognizing the sacred bodies of Ed and Brian in part and in whole.

I won’t describe the whole thing but will mention the format which was repeated many times.

I could sense one person rose from the couch and came to the platform. We know who it was by voice alone. In the first experience the person came to the platform, probably knelt and placed his hands on my feet and said that he honoured Eds feet and gave thanks for sharing them with the group. He did the same with Brian. I felt the warm sensation of his hands stroking my feet and I felt that his hands were coated in what was likely a massage oil which transferred to my feet. At the time that he rubbed in the oil he said that the oil would annoint and raise a tantric energy.

I could feel myself becoming hard for the foot rub was very sensual. Because my wrists were strapped I couldn’t reach to cover my self or check anything and now I realised part of the point of the straps.

The person seemed to step back and sat down after making the same offerings to Brian.

I remember the next to attend was Dawn. She recited the same words as previously, this time honouring my legs, and Brian’s after, and thanking us for sharing ourselves. Her hands were covered in warm oil and she spread the oil on each leg up to the knee and sat down.

Again the sensation was so intense and I knew I was very hard. It wasn’t just the touch but the knowledge that all was being observed and I began to find myself thinking beyond the physical sensation since I could not touch my self.

Next somebody arose to recognize my thighs and annoint, always with the same form of words, gently and respectfully spoken. I remember this being the first time of any touch close to my genital region and I began to anticipate the possibility of annointing my genital region and thinking that likely wouild not happen. But it did, after the thighs.

The companion spoke the words honouring my scrotum and testicles and he used those actual words and annointed with more oil. The same for Brian, I could hear.

I wasn’t sure what to expect next and it was Dawn who came forward. She used the now familiar words honouring my penis and the expression of liquid energy it was presenting. I could sense that she must be looking at some precum. From massage exercizes I had been practicing controlling ejaculation and this was the time to control. I remeber breathing deeply as Dawn annointed me with oil and touched the now very moist tip and glans of my penis.

Although Dawn was female it was clear throughout that gender had little to do with tantric sexuality. It could just as well have been one of the guys annointing my penis. The ritual was about how Brian and I experienced the time and not who was providing the experience or their gender.

Later I talked to Dawn about this. I asked her if she had particularly chosen to honour our penises. She said that she had and that she felt that penisies should be enjoyed and offered by and to all genders and that in tantra we should learn that sensuality is independent of gender. Her question was, if tantra was to be useful in raising consciousness then that consciousness should be available to everyone in tantra. She remembered her own experience being moved in a group session like this, She said that the companions were all gay men and that they honoured her in exactly the same way as they would a guy.

With the same directness she said that the experience was just as erotic and sensual for her and so her own genital regions had become just as wet as the tip of any penis.  The thing for her was always to enjoy bodies whoever they belonged to.

We continued in this fashion which included my anus, stomach, nipples, neck, face, arms and various other bodyparts and regions.

Each touch became more and more intense. At the end of what must have lasted nearly an hour I was covered in oil and sweat as was my new companion, Brian.

We could feel each others exhaustion as Pete gave thanks for our energy and physical and mental beings. He then undid the straps and removed the blindfolds.

Immediately we saw that our tantric companions were now naked themselves.

In front of them were drapes laid out on the floor. Pete asked Brian and I to stretch out on the floor which we gratefully did after standing for nearly an hour. Then bowels of warm water were produced and we were washed by all four companions with some sort of herbal soap from head to toe.

After being dried the end of the ritual seemed to be approaching.

Pete recited that we were all now companions on the tantric path, conscious of our physical and mental energies and in control of our sensuality.

To demonstrate this control and shared path we were invited to join in a tantric hug as Pete called it. In group hugs, he said sexual energy was discounted. In a tantric hug, as in tantra, the object is to reciognize and enjoy sexual energy. To close the ritual we should allow ourselves to release the energy generated in this ritual evening and share that energy with our companions.

With that Pete embraced us all and gently reached for the closest erect penis. We followed his lead and assisted our companions in mutual masturbation. What happened was that we all fell to the floor and allowed whoever was nearest to work on us until each had ejaculated. We became an incredible, sweaty, sticky mess of flesh and at the end I can say that I’ve never felt so relaxed and empowered and this experience stays with me even now.

Next time I will be honoring another new companion. After we got cleaned up, in talking in Petes studio I discovered just how connected tantric practice can make people who have shared and deliberately presented to others what is unfortunately usually kept too personal.

Thats my account, which could go on longer but I’d be really interested in how close this is to your group sessions and tantric ritual.

I’ll call when I get into town.

Thanks Colin.

Ed

Massage & Group Experiences

Massage & Group Experiences

I received this email from a reader who has recently moved to the area.

He describes his Tantric and massage experiences and is continuing them now that he has moved.

His thoughts seem to express experiences and ideas that so many people have little opportunity to actualize. He did call me and has visited. I’m posting his email with his permission and with thanks to him for describing his journey so far.

Tantra is about safely sharing energy, and that energy can often be experienced, enhanced and enjoyed in small groups and intimate Tantric gatherings.

Colin

250-984-7051

 

From: xxxxxxxx@shaw.ca

To: co.lins@outlook.com

 

Hello Colin,

You don’t know me and I’ve been reading your blog for some time now.

I’ve recently moved to your area from Toronto and have been looking for something to replace the tantric massage classes and visits that have worked well for me before I moved and maybe you can help.

I’m a 52 year old male suffering from work stresses and general lack of attention. Two years ago I was surfing the web one evening looking for ways to relax without tearing my life apart. I came across a guy describing tantric massage as a way to relax and safely experience some human contact and touch.

I made contact with him and over a few months made visits for massage. I also learned more about tantra and its roots and possibilities. Around that time I also found your blog which seemed to describe a lot of what I was experiencing with my local practitioner so I saved your contact information until now.

I became very comfortable with my Toronto practitioner and the opportunities to visit him, and shedding my clothes seemed also to have the effect of shedding some of the stresses of my work. Of course the touch and massage helped.

I won’t get into much detail here but after a few visits my practitioner suggested I become more familiar with tantric possibilities and that he had other clients who would like to share and exchange their experiences with others and would I like to attend small group gatherings. He said that it wasn’t something that would appeal to everybody but things I’d said suggested I might enjoy the experiences and company of others who enjoy tantra and its energy.

I trusted his thinking and visited his studio one weekend and was introduced to 2 other guys who were of similar age and circumstances to myself. We enjoyed a relaxing couple of hours after introducing ourselves. They’d both been receiving tantric massage for some time and we quickly discovered that we were motivated by very similar needs in looking to find some pleasure in touch and tantric techniques.

We also found that we shared the same enjoyment of the clothes free opportunities that tantra stimulates and its chances to freely and safely engage with similar energies.

I continued to visit for massage and also enjoyed the group visits when they could be arranged.

I’m happy to have moved but am looking to pick up where I left off and wondered whether you can provide or suggest anything similar to what I’ve described.

I hope to meet you one day.

(Name withheld)

Mindful Massage & Sensual Escape

Tantric massage is a conscious, sensual,  full body experience.

It’s a flow of positive energy enjoyed in a warm and safe environment.

It’s a space where the clock and the phone can be turned off. Where the shower can be long. Where the direction is relaxed, genuine and personal.

This is unrushed time that allows a slow and mindful experience of heightened awareness. It’s time away from reality where relaxation and re-discovery are possible.

To find out more  please do read further in the blog and call or email.

Tel: 250-984-7051 or email: co.lins@outlook.com

Colin 

The Erogenous Zone

The Erogenous Zone

Tantric massage is much more than simply physical massage.

Genuinely delivered, the massage experience can touch the mind as much as the body.

There are many posts in this blog which describe aspects of Tantric practice but perhaps the simplest explanation of Tantra touches on the pleasant distribution of the potential energy contained in the mind and body.

For those exploring Tantric massage there is an experience of mental and physical relaxation. It’s possible to simply submit to the relief and energy movement that full body Tantric touch brings, allowing the mind and body to wander.

Properly performed, Tantric massage is an open ended, timeless experience, raising the conscious and subconscious sensual potential of the entire being.

There is nothing wrong and everything right about enabling and allowing such experience.

But Tantra can take us even further into the land of sensuality.

Much of our potential energy begins in the mind. Imagination is the beginning and the motivation for every experience that we create for ourselves. Tantric practice can help free the mind and enable enjoyment and further the energy that is often buried in the subconscious mind.

There is more than one way to enjoy Tantric time and massage. Either passively, which can be wonderfully relaxing, or actively – consciously engaging and stimulating the imagination as well as the physical being.

It’s the active option that is the subject of this note.

It’s no secret that the human body enjoys the sensation of friendly touch. Tantric massage enhances the experience of positive touch. Passively enjoying touch to sensitive body regions can provide sexual and sensual stimulation and we can enjoy these sensations without thought or effort.

But the body has the potential to develop many more erogenous zones than simply the obvious ones.

This is where imaginative energy and conscious and heightened awareness can serve.

By deliberately becoming mindful about the touch being received it’s possible to discover that the entire body is a potential erogenous and erotic zone. This discovery and practice can have fundamental impacts on day to day life.

The mind can connect with the energies of the impulses of the physical body more readily, and the imagination can be controlled and directed positively and holistically.

The imagination can begin to associate personal space and environment more closely with the potential for positive physical and mental experience.

Positive potential can be found in experiences that formerly may have been ignored or found potentially negative. Value can begin to be found in sights and feelings that have appeared neutral or negative in the past.

The most powerful energy force within us is sexual energy and thus Tantra, with its emphasis on mindful sensuality, is the ideal route to opening the mind and expanding sexual imagination.

So, when you decide to treat yourself to a sensual Tantric massage, it’s entirely possible to take from the experience, not only some time of physical relaxation, but also the beginnings of a pleasant and permanent change in mental and physical consciousness.

In other words the experience does not have to end at the door on the way out.

Colin

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The Deepest Massage & Touch Experiences

THE DEEPEST MASSAGE & TOUCH EXPERIENCES –

 Always are Voyages of Arousal and Discovery.

The very personal experience of enjoying Tantric Touch and Massage is always enhanced when combined with a desire to explore existing boundaries and comfort levels.

A safe and reassuring way to begin is to explore past experiences and imagine future experiences – in other words:  Heightening Personal Sensual Awareness.

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Extracted and edited from email

Colin,

Thanks for the appointments during the year and sorry I haven’t seen you recently. It’s been busy at school and time has been tight but I’ll come again soon.

I have been reading your blog and the password posts and thought I could write my experience and you can put it on the blog with a password.

You know my background and I thought it might be worth writing about because I’m not sure how usual or unusual it is. We’re all OK with me writing it and I’ve actually been helped by all here. We’re interested in anyone who wants to write to us who are in the same situation.

I’ve been attending university for 3 years now with a year to go. I met my girlfriend (name provided but changed to g/f) after a year at school. We go to a lot of the same classes.

We rented a house 18 months ago and thought we’d rent out the spare bedroom to make the rent work. I told my g/f that I like to get massage and am very interested in tantra.  Also that I’m bi. She doesn’t have a problem, obviously, or we wouldn’t be together and we both enjoy our sex lives together.

We needed to get at least one other renter to help with the rent and we thought we’d be able to get another student but ended up renting the room to a guy in his 30’s  (we’re in our 20’s) who works in a store downtown. I don’t want to mention the type of store but he’s a nice guy and I’ve shown him your blog. I don’t think he’s been to see you yet but I know he will soon. He wants to save some money so sharing a house works for him at the moment.

We share the lounge and kitchen etc. so we’ve often hung out just talking and getting to know each other. I’ll call him James but that’s not his real name.

When we were looking for a renter we wanted someone who was easy to be with and wouldn’t be uncomfortable around the house, so we said that they would have to be OK with the idea that the place was clothing optional. We chose James because his reaction wasn’t weird on the subject.

It took a month for things to settle into a routine and it was in the summer last year so we were around the house a lot. James was at work during the day and usually got back around 6. We didn’t have classes over the summer.

At first we tried to be extra considerate so he could feel free to hang in the lounge, get food etc. but it wasn’t exactly the best approach and so we asked him what would work for him. Luckily he said that he’d be most comfortable if we just existed as normal because the plan was to rent the house so that we could all live comfortably. Also he had his own room and TV to go to anyway.

We began watching movies together in the lounge later in the evenings and found that our mealtimes matched James so it’s all quite convenient. We don’t have much furniture and the place is clean but untidy which is OK most of the time.

The days were long and being summer and warm weather mostly we usually hung out in the house with just shorts and T-shirts. My g/f and I have books on bodywork, massage, tantra, art etc. and they’re in the lounge for anyone to read. James had begun to look through them and we got to talking about bodywork one evening.

To make this short we found out that James also was into massage and had done a lot of yoga in his past. We talked about tantra and relaxation etc. and about how we all seemed to get along and that it was a good living situation. James had said before that he was gay but had split from his partner in the previous year.

During evening conversations we started to talk about some more personal things and the conversations flowed very easily and we all found it quite sexy. One evening James left us to take a shower and came back into the room with only his towel wrapped around him.

We resumed the conversation which hadn’t really ended because my g/f and I had continued looking through massage books.

James saw what we were looking at and said that at some point we should get a massage table and try some massage exchange. Because I’m always open for massage and so is my g/f we said that we’d give James a massage then if he wanted. I’m not sure I’d have said this if I hadn’t had a couple of beers.

We cleared some space on the floor, which is still mostly covered with cushions and books, and James stretched out, face down, on the floor. My g/f took off his towel, found some oil that we keep around and we started massaging James.

Although we’re not strangers to massage I suddenly realized this was the first time I’d actually been with my g/f in a massage situation (or any potential sexual situation) with another male. I knew she could be into this but wanted to make sure she was completely OK with the possibilities.

I tried to recall as much of the tantric approach as I could and I told James that would be our approach to this.

We poured some oil onto James’ back and my g/f separated his legs enough to allow some oil to trickle between his cheeks.

Then she took my hand and guided it between his legs and held it there, with hers. The intention was to make sure that I understood she was cool with this. James was having a great time.

We oiled and massaged James’s back, butt and legs from top to toe. Eventually my g/f said that we should start on his front and asked James if he wanted his towel back. It seemed a crazy question but she intended it politely. Anyway he ignored it and just turned over. We’d seen James naked going to and from the shower to his bedroom etc. and we hadn’t particularly avoided covering up if we were moving around the house but this was the first time we’d actually done anything that would have a sensual or sexual dimension.

As he turned over James asked us both if this was OK with us and my g/f said it was with her and she didn’t think I would have a problem. Of course I didn’t have a problem. If I had any concern it was that although I’d told my g/f I could get turned on in the company of some guys and I thought that could fit me into the bi category, this was the first time when she would put it to the test and I didn’t want to offend either her or James.

I think my g/f quickly read my mind and said that since I was the ‘tantra expert’ I should take the lead. We’d both stayed in our shorts and tops so far and actually I felt we were overdressed because this had gone so far.  Again seeing my hesitation my g/f said that what she’d read of tantra in my books we ought to make James feel as comfortable as he could be so that he could enjoy the experience so she told him that she was enjoying the massage and now seeing him naked. Also whether he wanted this to be full body.

The answer was not necessary so we poured on the oil. James is a good looking guy, He’s got less hair than me and is quite slim. Since I’ve been in his position getting massage I was imagining what he’d be feeling. I’m still working on not cumming too soon as you know and James seemed to have things under control.

We both started on his chest and although my g/f had told me to take the lead she was the one moving my hands down James’s torso when it seemed I was spending too long on the chest area.

As we massaged James’s belly and moved into his pubic area I realized we were both waiting to see who would make the first stroke of his cock. Looking back on this it seems we were being a bit stupid and that’s where I’m interested in your opinion.

I was finding the time very erotic but was still concerned to show that to my g/f. It was James who broke the ice and reached for my dick and told me to lose the clothes. I looked at my g/f who said it was fine with her if I wanted, so I got naked. My g/f made some sort of joke about waiting too long for this moment and took off her top. She’d been wearing a long T shirt covering some briefs which she kept on.

We worked on James’s cock and balls together while he played with me while getting the massage from us both. After we’d worked on his legs and feet getting back often to his cock, I could see he was ready to cum any time. My g/f could see this of course and that I was also ready to join him.

Around this point we ended the massage and my g/f asked whether I would kneel over her face and James over her tits and we should cum on her at the same time.

That’s what we did. There was enough to almost drown her.

I hope you don’t find this pornographic. I’ve left out a lot of the detail and description and I’m not sure whether it fits with tantra. I’m hoping you’ll email me with any thoughts.

We’re all still living at the house. We continue with our lives normally and we’re not a traditional ‘threesome’ because we don’t share the same bed. We do hang out together in the evenings and my g/f and I sometimes have sex with James there. Sometimes my g/f asks James and me to play with each other so there’s a lot of physical contact between us and a great comfort level. We like to watch each other so we’re probably voyeurs and exhibitionists.

We did get a massage table between us. Maybe that’s why I haven’t been to you. By now there’s not much we don’t know about each other, physically, but I’m interested to find out more about the next steps in tantric massage and how we can find any new things to do.

James is interested as well. Also my g/f has told me that she does get off on seeing us all together although we never try to have sex with James. He and I have been quite intimate but only ever when all three of us are together. James’s position is that he very much likes my g/f as a friend and loves that she allows him to play with me. So it’s all cool.

It won’t last forever now because we’ll finish in the next year and probably move. That’s why I’d be interested in what tantra offers when we don’t have James around. Also I’m interested in some further instruction in massage techniques.

You can edit this description however you want and post it on your blog if you like. I think our situation might not be so unusual but people don’t talk about these things often. We’ve been pretty lucky with it all. I want to keep it that way so you might be able to keep us on track.

(The email is signed but I’ve cut it down in size and left his name out. I’ll call him Bill for this posting. We’re in touch. I expect to see him again soon)

More… ‘Dinner with Stephen’

MassageOilDinner with Stephen – continued

Too long ago I received long and descriptive accounts of the experiences of a man who had been able to explore his sexuality with the help of a new-found neighbor. He met his neighbor, Stephen, when he had recently moved into an apartment in the Toronto area.

I posted the accounts on this site some time ago. After posting he sent me descriptions of further encounters which I set aside for later inclusion. Although much delayed, and after a recent reminder, I have finally managed to return to what has been sitting in my inbox for a long time.

If you’ve missed the previous posts and contexts, they appear later in this site. In the meantime here’s the much delayed continuation. The account is long. The original was even longer!! I’ve ended this description approx. at the halfway point. He describes his meeting and the massage evening with Stephen’s male colleague, Jeffery, and female assistant, Julia.

Later – to be posted soon – he describes the massage experience and some of the Tantric energies and practices that combined with it. His descriptions are fun to read and it does remind that there are so many exciting and healthful benefits to the many and varied aspects of Tantric practice.

Here’s the account of the first part of his evening.

 

tangledPreviously:

‘……………She said this felt good and from my view I watched Stephen’s cock and balls as he stood above us. The shampoo ended and Stephen slid back into the tub and Susan slid under the water, turning it soapy with the shampoo. Both Stephen and I could feel her sliding around between us and then she reappeared.

And there we sat, chest deep in soapy water.

We sat in this liquid silence for what seemed an eternity. But this wasn’t an awkward silence. It was a silence of perfect communication. There seemed to be a feeling of complete connectedness and of a trust only possible through the common physical experiences that we’d risked throughout the evening.

We stayed on into the early hours, enjoying our newly discovered comfort.

The time did end, of course, and reluctantly I dragged myself down the hallway to my own apartment. But the connections that we’d made were particularly strong and we all knew that this was not to be a ‘one night stand’.

This would not be our only encounter”………….’

close-breastsMy visits with Stephen had been nothing, if not intense. From his welcoming visit when I first moved in to the dinner down the hallway at his apartment, we had shared the most intimate of times even though we were initially strangers to each other.

After the dinner, where I was unexpectedly introduced to his friend, Susan, there was no longer any way that we could be described as ‘strangers’. I had experienced the most erotic and personal encounter of my life and could live happily ever after just on the memory, alone.

As Stephen and Susan had implied, the dinner experience was not to be a ‘one night stand’.

After that dinner, the next day as I left for work, I slipped a note of thanks under Stephen’s door, inviting him and Susan to dinner at my place in the near future.

I didn’t have to wait long for a reply. When I returned from work that evening I discovered a note from Stephen saying that he would love to visit. He said that Susan had called him to say that she’d had a wonderful time with both of us and looked forward to meeting up again when she returned from a month long business trip. So the next visit with Stephen would not include Susan, it seemed.

I called Stephen on his cell later that evening and invited him over at the weekend. The energy of the dinner encounter was still burning in me and I didn’t want to let too much time pass. To my relief Stephen said that he was free on the Saturday. He said he hoped that I wouldn’t mind but he had a couple of friends who would love to join us if I didn’t mind adding to the invite. He would explain more on Saturday and not to do anything elaborate for food. Just snacks and drinks would be fine. So we were set.

I cleaned up the living room and laid out a selection of snacks and bottles and at around 5.00 p.m. on Saturday Stephen knocked on my door. It had only been a week since I’d seen him and despite the fact that we’d enjoyed a seeming lifetime of intimacy in the very few weeks since we first met, I still felt a little nervous in his company. Maybe it was his self confidence or his knowing smile. I felt supremely comfortable in his company and also more than a little willing to follow wherever he led me. In other words my feelings were pleasantly mixed.

Anyway he entered as soon as I opened the door and gave me a lingering hug. Kicking off his shoes, he apologized for not bringing a gift and said that he assumed I would have as much as we needed and he hadn’t wanted to go to the store. I found myself thanking him for thinking of not buying anything. We noticed the absurdity of my thanks for nothing at the same time and that connection once again broke the ice.

We made our way into the living room and sat together on the couch.

discoveryA big part of our connection initially had been our shared interest in communal nudity and it had been my disclosure of my battles with self consciousness that had initially connected us. On Stephen’s first visit I’d shown him my rather unique personal tattoos and we’d moved ahead from there.

In anticipation of this evening I’d been thinking how to respect and continue our shared interest without seeming too forward. I was anticipating hearing about the guests he’d invited and thought I should wait for Stephen’s guidance before approaching the subject of whether we would be dining nude. At the same time I wanted to show him that I had been working on improving my personal comfort level with my tendency for self consciousness.

My compromise was to wear some old jeans – clean but ragged – and a casual shirt which was missing a few buttons. I hadn’t bothered with underwear or socks. I thought the appearance casual and appropriate, reflecting a willingness to show something of myself without being coy or entirely undressed.

Stephen was wearing a sports shirt and slacks. He’d removed his sneakers at the door and, as ever, hadn’t bothered with socks. Otherwise he certainly looked more smartly dressed and covered than me.

He put my mind at rest, joking and congratulating me on my open shirt and revealing rips on my jeans. The rips weren’t too strategic and one tear had expanded, during the wash cycle, around the top of my thigh, which would have revealed my underwear, had I been wearing any. I realized that in certain positions I would be quite exposed, particularly if aroused. This thought immediately created a condition of arousal!! And I shifted on the couch, for some reason seeking to hide my erection from Stephen. He saw my discomfort and commented with a smile, that he thought we could admit to being mutual voyeurs and exhibitionists by now. Of course I couldn’t disagree and adjusted my position to something more comfortable, albeit more revealing.

As we munched on cheese and chips Stephen told me about his guests, due to arrive later. Stephen works at a local hotel. He is friendly with the spa manage, Jeffery, it turned out. One of the perks of Stephen’s job is a membership of the gym, use of the spa and pool and the occasional massage when time permits.

He said that while spa massage etiquette is very strict – Jeffery is a professional personal trainer and masseur – in his off-duty time he likes to experiment with more ‘inventive or complete’ techniques. Stephen said also that Jeffery was training a new therapist – Julia. Jeffery wanted an opportunity to share with Julia some techniques and approaches that normally weren’t part of the spa’s menu.

Stephen had told Jeffery something of our shared interest in social nudity and suggested that Jeffery bring over his portable massage table to my place one evening and offer some ‘off the clock’ massage training to Julia. In exchange for my hospitality I would get a massage and meet some new friends. That was Stephen’s idea and he thought it unlikely that I would object. He said Jeffery would fill in more detail later. Was I OK with this?

I said that I sounded fine with me. If there was any problem we’d be able to discuss it with Jeffery later.

Stephen said that we could make room for the table set up before they arrived so we moved the coffee table and chairs so that there was room for the massage table to be set up.

chest-soakShortly after moving the furniture Jeffery and Julia buzzed the entrance intercom and made their way up to my apartment. I opened the front door and Stephen stepped into the hallway to direct them to my suite. Jeffery was carrying his folded table – looked like a large suitcase followed by Julia carrying a sports bag.

We showed them into the apartment and through to the living room and made the introductions. Jeffery was very much a ‘people person’. Quite athletic in appearance. Not tall. Late thirties. Blond hair and a comfortable face. He was wearing a blue tracksuit outfit with the logo of the hotel. Julia was possibly in her mid twenties. Brown long hair and also seemingly quite athletic. Also wearing the hotel tracksuit.

I invited them to sit down and then realized we’d moved all the furniture. So we moved the chairs and table back and laid out the snacks again, explaining that we wanted to make room for the massage table. This all broke the ice and we got to talking.

Jeffery repeated what Stephen had described, but in more detail. He said that while he enjoyed his job at the spa, where he’d been for some years, there were aspects of policy that didn’t always match with client expectations. In Julia’s training he wanted to show her how to comfortably deal with non-policy situations and what to expect etc. He’d be more specific, later. He also said that he shared Stephen’s interest in social nudity and shared sensual experience, and he understood that I also shared that interest. I said that he was correct and that Stephen had done much to improve my comfort levels in the short time that we’d known each other.

He invited Julia’s thoughts after his brief introduction. She said that she’d worked as a gym manager in another city. She’d left the position after wanting a significant change of scene and city. I suspected it might have something to do with a personal relationship situation and of course we didn’t want to ask for further explanation. She said that she was enjoying her time with the hotel and that she had found much in common with Jeffery’s outlook. She said that she also shared our comfort with social nudity and was very comfortable with all expressions of sexuality and orientation. She was looking forward to the evening and thanked me for inviting everybody.

Jeffery went on to say that his plan was to set up the table and if I was agreeable they would use me as a massage model so that he could demonstrate to Julia some of the techniques that he couldn’t present at the spa but that would be useful to her in her career. Also he said that he enjoyed practicing some techniques that weren’t available at the spa. The massage and touch could be more intimate and complete at times and he hoped that was OK with me.

I reassured him that it sounded fine and Stephen joked that I owed him something, now. Jeffery said that we would likely switch at some point so that Stephen could enjoy some table time as well.

All this sounded good and Jeffery suggested that we set up the table so we moved the furniture yet again. The table easily unfolded and Julia produced some sheets and oils etc. from her sports bag. Soon we were all set.

helping-handNow I began to feel the familiar nerves at the prospect of getting naked around others. I’d experienced the same thing when Stephen had first visited and then again initially at the dinner. Of course I’d become comfortable quite quickly but still I had to tell myself again that this wasn’t the time to be too self conscious.

Stephen quickly spotted my hesitation and immediately blew my cover. He joked that he’d discovered that I was a ‘slow starter’ when it came to undressing.

Before I could admit or deny, Jeffery said that it was entirely OK if I’d like them to use a sheet to cover me. They could just expose the parts that they were massaging. I quickly said that wouldn’t be necessary and I was inwardly kicking myself for falling again into the same hesitations.

Of course Stephen was enjoying his usual mischievous sense of humor and Jeffery saw that. I guess he’d learned Stephen’s personality in the course of their work at the hotel.

So Jeffery rescued me, asking if he and Julia could get ready now to begin the massage. I said that I was ready whenever they were. Jeffery said  that given our common interest and comfort with social nudity he’d be quite comfortable leading the massage naked if that was something we could all enjoy. I began to feel that I had unintentionally raised a non-existent issue and took the opportunity to say that I thought that would be a great idea.

With that Jeffery unzipped his tracksuit top, took it off and removed the singlet that he was wearing underneath. He was a good looking guy by any standard. Not overly developed but in good shape, reflecting his occupation. He bent down to remove his socks – he’d removed his sneakers when he arrived – and stepped out of his track suit pants. All that remained were his briefs and as he stood there I realized these weren’t the usual jockeys but were actually closer to female panties.

I didn’t get the impression this was a surprise to Stephen or Julia but clearly my gaze lingered longer than theirs. Jeffery was completely unfazed and said that he had always enjoyed the experience of some elements of cross dressing. He said it was his little harmless secret. That Stephen had told him of my tattoos which might be an equivalent sort of secret. That he was looking forward to seeing them for himself.

The panties barely contained his genitals and the outline of his cock showed that he was quite aroused.

Without much further delay he took off the panties revealing his fully erect cock. I always experience an incredible energy surge in these situations and this was no different. Jeffery looked like everybody’s dream for a personal trainer. His body was lean and smooth and his shaved genital region made his arousal looked so inviting. My own erection seemed to be struggling to fight its way out via the rip in my jeans.

shadowOf course Jeffery saw the effect he was having and said that he’d been looking forward to this evening and he hoped that it was OK to share this energy as openly as Stephen had suggested we could. As usual I burbled something about also looking forward to enjoying the time.  Jeffery said that he always wished the hotel spa would allow nudity in its facility but the rules were very strict.

He said that in massage situations and in the sauna people often became aroused and it was often tempting to assist them to enjoy the sexual energy. However, while never making them feel awkward he said that he used techniques to try to help them refocus. He wanted to show Julia some of these techniques so that she would be able to always be comfortable helping guests stay within the hotel spa rules. That was another reason why this evening would be interesting.

As he spoke his erection subsided but the charged energy in the room certainly remained.

Stephen and Julia had remained quiet during Jeffery’s undressing and comments. When he ended he turned to Julia and invited her thoughts pointing out to Stephen and me that they had been enjoying a good working relationship now, for a few months and had shared plenty of personal secrets including his cross dressing secret. He said that actually Julia had lent him the panties for tonight.

Julia nodded and joked that it seemed like he wouldn’t be needing them again at the moment. She said that this was also an exciting evening for her. Jeffery had described some of the ways that she could handle massage spa clients who were hoping for touch that the hotel didn’t permit. She said that it was quite a common situation and that there were ways to work around the issue while keeping the client friendly and wanting to return. She thanked me for volunteering to be a subject that she could practice on and she thanked Jeffery for being an understanding, if unconventional boss. She added that it was even more fun to be able to enjoy the practice, naked. With that she unzipped and discarded the tracksuit top revealing a black sports bra. As Jeffery had, she’d taken off her sneakers at the door so only had to remove her socks and drop the tracksuit pants. She looked a model of fitness, the sports bra matching the black bikini panties that she was wearing.

Again I was struggling to contain myself. Jeffery’s naked form was sufficiently stimulating, of course, and I could certainly experience the additional energy that Julia was contributing. Quickly enough Julia unhooked her bra and slipped off the briefs. Now naked, she was a great match for Jeffery. Clearly they were a credit to any sports spa. Julia was as well toned as Jeffery. Her breasts didn’t really need the support of any bra. I’d told Stephen previously that I’ve always had a fascination with breasts, both male and female and I noticed him smiling at me as Julia revealed herself. Julia’s breasts and nipples seemed like magnets to my eyes at the time.

Her entire body was perfectly proportioned and on the petite side. Like Jeffery – and Stephen and me, actually – her pubic area was shaved. I noticed that her labia were particularly visible and the energy seemed to say that she was very comfortable and happy with her body.

So that completed the disrobing of my guests and Stephen, who had remained uncharacteristically quiet, observed that maybe we were being a little slow in getting naked. That he had told Jeffery and Julia about my tattoos and he was sure they wanted to see them. Julia echoed this and said now was my time to ‘reveal all’.

discoveryI was still very much aroused and a little nervous but now was the time and I dropped my jeans and discarded the shirt almost in one movement. My cock popped up immediately and I absorbed the energy of the visual exploration of my now naked form. I was a little conscious that I could easily afford to lose a few pounds, comparing myself to the lean and athletic forms of Jeffery and Julia. The tattoo on my upper thigh was now clearly visible as was the unnamed creature tattooed on my chest, who spent his life gazing at my nipple.

 It was Julia who spoke, saying that she was looking forward to stroking these creatures in the massage. She looked at my erect penis. I knew that I was leaking at the tip and Julia wasn’t shy in noticing and commenting. She said that it was always gratifying to see evidence of appreciation. ‘Keep it up’ she said with a smile.

Stephen told her that she should look on my reverse side – the picture tattoo on my butt cheek. She and Jeffery moved behind me to take a look. Jeffery said that this had to be a uniquely artistic creation.

My erection was still maintaining as they came back to face me and I saw Stephen undressing behind them. As ever he looked a picture of comfort, his own arousal clear for us all to appreciate.

I was reminded a little of the energy that I’d experienced at dinner the previous week at Stephen’s when Susan had been with us. Julia’s energy seemed not unlike Susan’s although Susan is very much a ladies lady.

It also reminded me that since meeting Stephen I had been unbelievably fortunate in becoming part of a social lifestyle that enabled me to spend time with wonderful people who enjoyed being naked and open about their sexuality.

stimulateJeffery said it was now time to ‘get to work’ and that I should get onto the table. I climbed on, face down, adjusting my still erect cock between the table and my belly. I could feel the leaked pre-cum against my skin and tried to distract myself to avoid any premature ejaculation. It wasn’t going to be easy and I realized that Jeffery’s purpose was very much to assist Julia in learning techniques that would assist with these energies. I began to feel that I was also going to gain much benefit from Jeffery’s instruction to Julia. 

To be continued……………..

                               

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