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Tantra, Fetish & Kink

Tantric Fetish & Kink

Tantric massage can often be an experience of connecting the mind to the body..

The pace of life today often seems to block consciousness of the pleasure of physical sensations. Consciousness of self, as an erotic being, can be at risk.

Tantric massage and touch can re-awaken erotic consciousness and Tantric Practice is very much about heightening erotic physical and mental awareness.

Within the Tantric experience, massage, perhaps, has the broadest appeal, but the opportunity also exists to delve deeper into Tantric sensation potentials.

As the mind begins to make more space for sensual and erotic stimulation, and as mental and physical awareness is heightened, the imagination of the erotic begins to challenge the physical body – thoughts of making fantasies into realities.

Within Tantric Practice it is possible to raise the sensitivity and expand the erogenous potentials of the body.

Over time body and mind become more conscious of erotic potential and imagination begins to expand horizons. More fantasy can enter the door of consciousness that Tantric Practice has opened, enabling opportunities to actualize fantasies.

Actualization of erotic imagery is often described, sometimes quite dismissively, as ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But imagination should not be dismissed so easily.

Kinks and fetishes are entirely Tantric and are as valuable and valid as any part of erotic imagination.

It’s often difficult to discuss particular ‘turn-ons’, imagining that such thoughts are outside of a Tantric experience. The truth is that actualization of erotic imagery, however ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’ it might seem, (with the obvious exceptions of activity that is not lawful, sane, safe or consensual) is welcomed in Tantra and is regarded as the positive product of sensual and erotic imagination. Where actualization needs to happen with a partner, the participation of a guide in Tantric Practice can be the perfect solution.

To all who enjoy the world of Tantric Practice and massage, feel welcome to share thoughts about actualizing fantasies and finding comfort in every experience.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                      Email:  co.lins@outlook.com

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Massage & A Birthday Party

There are occasions when Tantric massage can add to a special event and on this occasion it was to celebrate a birthday.

This event was unusual in some ways and did remind of the  possibilities when gathering a small group of people together.

What follows is a more detailed description of the birthday dinner.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Birthday Massage

The invitation was to be part of a small birthday celebration at the home of some friends.

It was the birthday of a friend of theirs and they wanted to organize a memorable, but ‘civilized’, party.

My friends have been Tantric massage visitors for a few years and I’ve known them through their visits and various art gatherings, exhibitions etc.

What they arranged for their friend is worth a few words since it was so carefully planned and worked so well.

The plan was quite simple. They invited their birthday friend (he’s unattached) and 2  m/f couples, for a surprise birthday dinner. That made a party of seven including the hosts who are a m/m couple.

The surprise for the birthday guest was to be that everybody could receive a massage throughout the evening – if they chose. I was invited to provide the massages.

What made the plan particularly interesting, and provided the performance art & Tantric aspect, was that the massage table was set up in the dining room. So while the others were eating, the guest receiving massage could be watched from the dining table.

My friends saw this not only as a birthday gift of Tantric massage, but also as performance art.

Initially the massage table was draped and disguised. When everybody was seated for dinner, and comfortable – there had been drinks etc. before sitting down – the hosts uncovered the massage table and announced the evening’s ‘birthday present’.

The initial surprise announcement was well received – all guests were on the same page – and was greeted with appreciation and enormous positive energy.

The hosts explained that the order of massage would be random. Cards would be dealt to each person prior to each massage. The highest card would be the next massage.

Massages would last around 15 mins. Some obvious logistcal questions arose. The random playing card routine handled who would be first, but then questions about what to wear/not to wear/how intimate/oil etc. – all were asked.

The hosts said that all that was necessary was for everyone to enjoy themselves within their own comfort level – obviously it was equally acceptable to take a pass and just watch.

My task was to provide massage entirely according to the wishes of the guest. The hosts and the table would ensure that the guest was heard and understood.

The dress for the evening was smart/casual. The group comprised of very open minded people, of course, but it can never be assumed that all sizes always fit everybody, whatever the past experiences.

In this case everybody seemed totally into the activity.

So, as the party talked and decided I prepared the massage table, oil, towels etc.

The cards were dealt for the first time, and exposed. The highest belonged to one of the partnered males.

The hosts had set a screen for changing and with the encouragement of all, especially his partner, the first ‘high card’ retired behind the screen to prepare.

There were towels behind the screen and the guest emerged wearing one of them around his waist, to much applause.

He climbed onto the table, face down. The hosts asked if he wanted to keep the towel on and of course the group encouraged him to discard it. That was his choice so I removed it.

I started the massage of his back immediately as the party enjoyed their meal and enjoyed the visual of the massage. I checked if it was OK to use oil. It was. The plan was to allow approx. equal time on both back and front.

Now the time came for him to turn over. Again the question – did he want a towel? Hoots of laughter from the table encouraging no towel! I whispered in his ear, checking his preference.

The energy in the room was certainly supportive and erotic. He said that his preference did not require the towel.

The turn over revealed that he was clearly enjoying the time and he was cheered by the ‘audience’. I massaged, with limitations, his front, figuring that his partner or others could continue the massage themselves, at a later time, if that was the plan.

The front massage was over soon enough – too soon, probably for the guest – and he rolled off the table, standing to take a mock bow.

The hosts then asked him whether he wanted to get dressed again or just recover the towel. Whatever he decided likely would set the precedent for the evening.

His partner called out that he should remain as he was – naked and well oiled. That received the support of the table, so I handed him the towel and he resumed his seat, a nude male at a table of smartly dressed diners. Performance art takes many forms.

New cards were dealt and this time the high card was the ‘birthday’ guest. The timing seemed appropriate.

We all sang happy birthday when he turned over. As with the previous guest, he didn’t ask to be draped with his towel or recover his clothes, so the table now included two naked male guests.

The next card selection only included the remaining five guests, of course. The high card fell to the female partner of the male who hadn’t yet had a massage.

Tantric massage is approached with respect and with a practical neutrality regarding gender. The experience must also always respect individual preferences, expectations and comfort levels.

The hosts checked carefully again that the massage experience would be within the lady’s comfort level.

She reassured everybody that this was exactly where she wanted to be and emerged from her seat at the table. After a stop behind the screen for a towel she climbed onto the massage table and I spent 10 mins. massaging her back. Then turn over time came. I whispered in her ear, asking if she wanted to continue, and with or without the towel.

The reply was a very clear “yes”, and without the towel, and she flipped over immediately. By the end of the massage she was as happy as her two previous companion diners.

On leaving the massage table she said she no longer has use for her dress that evening and joined the others at the table.

It happened that the next high card was the remaining female and she followed the same easy pattern as the previous guest.

The remaining guests for massage were the males, of course, and by the end the vibe in the room was certainly ‘electric’.

It was a long and enjoyable evening. The energy was entirely positive and although the evening was long there was little time to have any thoughts of fatigue.

I’ve also been told that the guest of honour found this to be his best birthday present, ever!

Tantric approaches and experiences can be used to raise energy and heighten awareness in many situations. This was an event that wasn’t difficult to imagine or organize and led to an unforgettable experience for all present.

Colin

Tel:  250-984-7051                    Email:   co.lins@outlook.com

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To Touch or not to Touch?

To Touch or not to Touch?

Here’s a question that is often spoken – and often unspoken. ‘Is it OK to touch while receiving touch?’

The answer is to remember that the guiding principle in Tantric massage is to work toward total relaxation of the mind and body.

Massage can have the effect of seeming to magnify natural energy. As any massage progresses, and the mind starts to relax and wander, the body can energize, physically. It’s natural to want to reach out and transfer some of that energy. In doing so the energy delivered in the massage is further enhanced.

The fact is that energy is built as much by touching as by being touched. Receiving touch without the opportunity to appropriately respond can remove a critical part of the experiential potential.

Of course it is entirely acceptable and possible to enjoy a full body massage without exploring reciprocal touch. Tantric massage practice, however, is one of the few approaches that recognizes that complete relaxation can also include the engagement of our potential to distribute energy as well as receive it.

Happily, Tantric massage will always look to find the most complete opportunities for a relaxed state of mind and body.

Email:  co.lins@outlook.com or subscribe to this site.

Tel: 250-984-7051

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Extended Massage & Exchanging Places

Extended Massage & Exchanging Places

Tantric massage, ideally, is a slow process of consciousness-raising and mindful distribution of energy. It’s not goal oriented, other than to bring peace and relaxation to the mind and body, and the experience is always individual and unique.

Unfortunately, often in today’s rush, we try to condense impossible levels of experience into very short time frames.

Ideally Tantric massage is experienced to best effect when the experience will not be undermined by time constraints.

This is sometimes disappointing to those who only have limited time available but the massage experience is not well served if rushed.

It’s become clear that 1.5 – 2.5 hours allows enough time to enjoy the physical and mental relaxations that Tantric massage can provide, outside of workshops and Tantric tuition.

Watching the clock should never be part of a massage experience so flexibility in timing is so important. Some can find everything they desire within an hour or two and others are able to enjoy the experience in a time frame toward 3 hours.

So the best experience will always allow things to flow naturally, however long the visit is running. The length of the session does not require digging deeper. The  massage experience is for however long the energy can be enjoyed. It’s that simple.

And on that note it seems timely to mention one of the requests that often extends sessions.

Quite frequently visitors for massage also enjoy the chance to change places and try their hand at massage, themselves.

So it’s not uncommon, within the session, for a visitor to change places for a time, and deliver themselves the very energy of touch that they’ve been receiving.

Such role reversal can positively change the pace and dynamic of the session as well as often opening up a very different and more complete picture of the opportunities of Tantric massage.

If you’ve the time, energy and curiosity to wish to both receive and give during your massage, by all means make the request and we’ll change places as part of the experience.

My thanks, as always, to all who have found times shorter and longer, to visit, and who have continued to explore possibilities.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                      Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Massage, Fitness & Curiosity


Squeeze - CopyTantra, Fitness & Curiosity

This email has been on my list for inclusion for the past year. Now seems a good time to post it.
It’s an email from a reader who explains that after a year of regular relaxation massage he became increasingly motivated to improve his body image and state of mind. The content speaks for itself. I haven’t edited his remarks, which convey a sincere message.
He wonders whether his thoughts are ‘tantric enough’. I replied to him when he wrote, saying that his experiences were entirely reflective of Tantric possibilities.
Regaining a physical comfort level is very much a matter of continued realistic commitment and motivation.
Tantric practice can promote and combine a relaxed state of mind with a non-judgemental physical awareness, and can contribute to a progressive and lasting change in outlook and health.
Tantric practice makes no claims based on accepted scientific method but the following email does suggest that happy endings come in many disguises.
Colin
250-984-7051
Subject: Massage for fitness

Hey Colin, You might like this for your web site.

Its the new year 2014 and I remembered my new year rezolutions a year ago. It was to lose some weight and try to get fitter.

I am a family man with grown kids out of the home and I had become a couch cabbage. I’d tried jogging and gyms and all sorts of things but nothing seemed to stick so I’d almost given up. I got talking to a casual friend who seemed in better shape than me and he said he’d been going for massage regularly for a couple of years and he’d found that it made him more active and also relaxed in himself at the same time.

I thought he might be joking with me like he was suggesting something wierd and he might be talking about ladies and happy endings but he wasn’t although he said so far the results had been happy.

He gave me the number of the guy that he’d been visitng for massage and I called it after feeling even more over stuffed from Christmas. I did mention my friend and that I was looking to get in better shape. It seemed a bit unlikely that massage could do what I wanted but my friend seemed to have become fitter and so maybe there was a secret. Also I was a bit nervous about getting massage from another guy but I was curious in my mind and I’ll admit to some mixed feelings.

Long story short I made an appointment and had a great complete massage. The masseur – I’ll skip his name – didn’t make the slightest personal remark although I told him that I was feeling overweight and tired. The time on the table was completely relaxing and I rebooked another visit.

I visited many times in the year and found that because I had to be undressed during the sessions which I began to enjoy I began to take more interest in my weight and as the sessions relaxed me I started to become more interested in diet and excercize.

I dropped more than 10 lbs. during the year. I think it was a result of the massage making me more conscious of myself and motivating me even though my massage buddy never made a remark. I get on well with him and I think I’ve found the same experience as my friend.

Not sure if this is tantric enough for you but it might also work for other guys who can’t find things that work. I won’t mention all of the massage techniques that I’ve enjoyed but they beat a lot of other excercize options. Also no problem with having a guy massaging me. I’ll just say that it’s really helped me relax and enjoy my curious side.

William

Ps: I’m in Calgary but expect to semi retire in a couple of years so maybe I’ll visit you.

Couples & Massage

Couples & Tantra

Couples of all genders and orientations  are more likely than ever before to participate in Tantric group workshops or enjoy massages together.

Even ‘up-market’ commercial spa businesses encourage couples to visit and enjoy massage together – but it’s not exactly Tantric. There will be strict rules and limits!!

Tantric massage, however, offers an opportunity to escape some of the limits and rules and, more completely, enjoy sharing the energy of guided touch – together.

It is interesting to consider some of the reasons for couples to enjoy massage experiences together.

In no particular order:

Looking to celebrate a partner’s birthday, anniversary or some other significant event. Shared massage can be a great way to celebrate. The goal can be to make a present of a sensual and relaxing massage.

 There are those who have been researching and practicing some Tantric ritual and massage themselves and have decided to take things a little further, as if it were a mini Tantric workshop, demonstrating how to enhance sensitivity, heighten awareness and progress Tantric ideas.

If these are categories of purpose then a third category would be those who mutually wish to enhance their personal activity but somehow find that they aren’t ‘connecting’ often enough.

The turn to Tantric practice and massage has been to move beyond talk to more of a practical and hands-on experience.

While Tantric practice makes no claim to scientific or licensed professional equivalency, there is much value in choosing and incorporating hands-on experience where the comfort level allows.

Sometimes couples seek an enhanced understanding of how to meet their partner’s expectations. Tantric practice and massage can demonstrate and practice, in a friendly, non threatening way, how the preferences of either partner can be met. And then practice makes perfect.

Other couples seek simply to explore, sensually, and wish to share their experiences.

Tantric practice is gender neutral, and so many ideas and objectives are properly common to all genders and orientations. It’s always instructive and so much fun to move into the states of heightened awareness with another. Shared Tantric practice recognizes this and can contribute positively to individual experiences and energies.

There are all sorts of nuances and variations to these categories, of course, and Tantric practice seeks to enhance and enable those nuances.

In Tantra, so long as the intentions are clear and consensual, Tantric practice can offer much to any couple in maintaining the strength and excitement of the relationship.

So, if you read this as 50% of a couple and have always wondered how shared time works in Tantra and Tantric massage, feel most welcome and comfortable to call and talk about the possibilities. You’ll be in good company.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051                      Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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ACTUALIZING FANTASY

New Year Resolution:

Make your Fantasies your Realities – It’s never too late!

Explore the pleasures of Mind and Body – and break all barriers of discrimination.

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