Posts tagged ‘Tantra techniques (Vajrayana)’
Time taken for personal relaxation and exploration is so valuable in these, often, challenging times.
Personal relaxation time can restore the energy and imagination lost in the machinery of the daily grind.
Any opportunity to relax the body and also the mind is a chance to rest or divert thinking.
Toward fulfilling the objective of personal comfort and mental diversion please also take comfort in the knowledge that this time is respected as personal and discreet.
To this purpose please know the following if you are communicating for the first time.
I am always pleased to receive and to try and answer the questions you will have. The best way, initially, to communicate is via a telephone call or a simple email of interest and introduction. From there we can arrange a time for a telephone conversation.
All communication – telephone and email – is always confidential. Your communication is a point of entry into a less stressful world that does not have a purpose or technology to intrude or ‘over-share’.
For visitors who have previously visited this island of relaxation, your time and visits are forever valued.
For those who are imagining and seeking answers – please do contact with the confidence that your call is always valued and respected with discretion.
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These remarks perhaps move outside conventional Tantric definitions but are nonetheless relevant when considering how to enjoy a maximum of erotic stimulation.
Tantric massage, in its simplest forms, provides incredible sensual stimulation but it isn’t always available. There are other options, however, that can fill the gaps in between massages, and even become a ‘way of life’ in themselves.
Heightened sensual awareness and erotic stimulation can become a 24/7 experience, constructively blended with regular day to day activity.
It’s just a question of allowing imagination to do its work and not being afraid to actualize and experiment. The trick is to remember that there are many ways to experience personal sensual potential.
Begin to think about what heightens sensual awareness when alone. Self touch and masturbation is enjoyed by most people but is often approached with little conscious awareness.
Conscious self touch, or ‘mindful masturbation’ is a gateway to exploring a much broader potential. Many people work to lengthen and elaborate their solo experiences – start to be conscious of sensual self touch beyond simple genital stimulation. Expand consciousness and sensitization of more body zones.
Mentally associate such ‘distant’ touch with genital stimulation. Very easily it will be possible to find that touch to an unrelated body region will result in deep sensual stimulation. Take your time.
This is the beginning of heightened sensory awareness.
An easy example might be sensations to the feet. We tend to ignore the foot as an erogenous zone, often because convention and practicalities don’t provide much opportunity to use the erotic potential of the foot.
Take every opportunity to be barefoot. Wear shoes that can be slipped off easily and don’t wear socks. Be always aware that erotic sensitivity can be heightened whenever you slip off your shoes.
When sitting use the opportunity to stimulate the feet on the carpet or floor, discreetly. Previous practice associating genital stimulation with foot stimulation it will soon make it possible to raise sensual awareness in ordinary situations without moving immediately to the crotch! Often others will also begin to associate and enjoy the discrete energy.
This is obviously a very simple example – socially safe but full of opportunity. Practice can lead to foot fetishes of all forms – and so can begin a lifestyle.
The same ideas can apply to all other parts of the body – some easier to engage socially than others.
There’s nothing particularly new in discussing these ideas but often the erotic connection is not consciously understood when we seek to enjoy or enhance our bodies.
For example is jewelry worn to please the wearer or the observer? How personal should and can jewelry be?
Earrings are a common adornment, and unremarkable, but it is interesting to explore more deeply, the purpose and potentials of body piercing. Piercings and jewelry can have a clear erotic purpose for the wearer, transmitting that erotic energy to an observer. Additionally piercings can now be very much more visible on body parts that used to be considered too personal to expose.
Tongue and navel piercings are now commonplace and highly visible. It’s possible to practice to associate these areas with erotic self stimulation. Genital piercings and jewelry for males and females are less obvious but are a constant physical stimulation which can be converted into erotic stimulation 24/7. The feel of steel in and against skin and flesh is one of the most erotic stimulants known to many people.
Nipple piercings have a special place in the world of erotic experience.
The male nipple, which carries less social and sexual baggage than the female nipple, is a centre of nerve endings that can easily be developed as a fast track connection to erotic heightened awareness.
Even for those who do not find their nipples particularly sensitive to erotic touch and stimulation, with some practice it becomes very possible to use the nipple as a primary erogenous zone. Some shirt fabrics can stimulate the nipple very effectively at every movement, again providing sustained erotic energy.
It’s easy to understand how constant engagement and attention to these body parts can be considered ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But that is not a reason to deny the sensual and sexual potential. It’s a way of opening the energy of the mind and body to its full potential.
Moving to a bigger canvass, the nude human body can be the most powerful initial stimulant.
Unfortunately modern society often makes it very difficult to enjoy the sensual and sexual potential energy of a naked form, either solo or in company.
Nudity in advertising is expressed all the time but this is one of the instances where the implied message is ‘don’t try this in real life’. It’s suggested that reality may not measure up to the airbrushed magazine images.
But of course it can be stimulating and erotic to be naked, especially among others, and to see others naked.
To a greater or lesser extent we’re all potential voyeurs or exhibitionists.
Many kink and fetish environments allow and encourage nudity for entirely erotic, sensual and sexual potentials.
To enjoy the feeling of the exposed body, complete with the unhidden sexual energy of piercings, make-up, jewelry etc., or entirely unadorned, is a powerful statement and invitation to understand that it’s good to be aware of and in control of the physical body. That it can be good to demonstrate physically what is going on mentally.
Taken as a lifestyle interest, solo and communal nudity can be an enjoyable and powerful ‘fetish’ that is positive and can live in the mind 24/7.
As the physical and mental connections are developed and become part of life, rather than simply reserved for ‘special occasions’, so it becomes increasingly possible to test boundaries and try experiences that at one time seemed too strange.
Now it is possible to be in environments where everybody can be understood as simply enjoying erotic stimulation for its own relaxation and erotic effects. An ‘audience’ is not particularly a necessity. The activities are for the satisfaction of the individual but often an ‘audience’ can enhance the personal experience.
Perhaps the primary message is to welcome and encourage fantasy. There is much energy to be found in dungeon play, BDSM, communal nudity, cross dressing, oil wrestling, tattoos, piercings, foot worship, mindful solo masturbation, communal masturbation, performance art, naked ritual etc. The possibilities are endless, limited only by imagination.
‘Fetishes and kinks’ are positive possibilities. It’s possible to enjoy many or just a few but practice does offer the chance to enhance and enjoy erotic energy when the massage table isn’t available.
Always feel welcome to email or call on this general topic. The ideal is always to encourage sensual and sexual awareness and to use this raised consciousness to enjoy all aspects of sexual life.
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To invite and experience Tantric Massage can often be an act of courage. Always it is an act of trust.
One true purpose of Tantra is to bring forth energies that lie dormant and to allow those energies to distribute and flow in unique and personal ways.
The effects and experiences can be powerful and ‘electric’ in so many ways. Tantric massage experiences can raise sensual consciousness and awareness to new levels.
Each journey is a unique experience and can frequently include the expectation of the unknown, if that is possible.
It is the process of becoming comfortable with, and conscious of the intensity of the unexplored sensual and sexual possibilities contained in all of us, that fulfills the mission of Tantric Practice.
Exploring these possibilities requires a willingness and ability to open the mind and body unreservedly.
Massage can and should be experienced both passively and actively. In Tantra there is an opportunity to learn how to become conscious of how pleasure is working on the mind. There is a conditioning in today’s life to believe that there is always a division between intellectual consciousness and physical/sexual/sensual consciousness.
Tantric Practice says that there should be no such ‘firewall’. That sexual and sensual experience, if consciously experienced, is not only enhanced but can become ever more part of intellectual consciousness.
Tantric Practice provides, if nothing else, unusual opportunities to ask and to experience.
Quite soon along the Tantric journey questions arise. Intense arousal and energy have been experienced and often a desire is seeded to wish to repeat and enhance intensity. How to do that is a fundamental question. How does it all work?
The truth is that whatever mode of stimulation has been useful at any time is the correct mode. It’s logical to proceed from there.
Tantric Practice is about the distribution and use of physical and mental energy in sexual and sensual forms.
Tantric Practice encourages the exploration of becoming consciously aware of thoughts and practuces that bring pleasure.
Massage is often the beginning of Tantric Practice because it provides an entirely legitimate reason to receive and explore touch.
This is always a great sensual experience and a fine beginning but the likelihood is that it’s a passive experience. To move further along the Tantric path there is much enhancement to be found in becoming actively conscious of how the body and mind are processing and enjoying.
Ceremony and ritual often feature at this stage but to move too quickly can take things beyond natural comfort zones.
A quiet intermediate introduction stage can be very helpful, prior to ritual and group experiences.
This is the time to find the physical self. We know ourselves as a private image. We present the image that we believe matches the circumstance. While these choices may be entirely correct they are, nonetheless, private choices and incomplete, and the image of how we appear is our private image – an image in our head. How we may be perceived by others is not always accurately known to us.
In Tantrc Practice it’s necessary to make the ‘private’ image, ‘public’ in a sense. That is to say that we want to start to consciously enjoy the actuality of our complete physical being and to share the possibilities that we normally keep private.
So, where the desire is to supplement the massage experience with Tantric Practice please never hesitate to ask how best to move along the Tantric path. There are experiences to be had and enjoyed that combine well with the energy that Tantric massage produces.
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Imagine Realizing the Perfect Fantasy
IMAGINE REALIZING THE PERFECT FANTASY
Last year so many people wrote and called with ideas and preferences that they imagined including and experiencing when visiting.
These thoughts have been so instructive and revealing – and so much fun to explore.
In this New Year of 2019, whether you are a previous visitor or curious about a first time visit, if you have a particular thought about what you’d like to enjoy, or how to add to your experience, please email or call and share your imaginings. Whenever possible your thought can be the reality of your visit.
Tantric practice and massage provides the opportunity to share and enjoy so many fantasies, and there are so many to enjoy. The thought is always to make a more perfect visit.
The clock is turned off and the space is yours to fill.
So this year practice being true to your imagination and enjoy the energy of fantastic self expression – or simply lay back, empty your mind and relax.
Always Extra time
Thank you to all who have visited over the past year.
Every visit has been so memorable.
The Festive Season often brings the opportunity for some ‘Down-Time’ which, ironically, can also bring some ‘stressful’ times as well.
To all who might imagine finishing the year or starting the New Year with a visit – you are most welcome.
The clock here is never counting elapsed time so do remember that if you need a place far from the madding shopping crowds, visits here don’t count the hours.
Stay and relax for as long as you can allow yourself to enjoy the gift of some Extra ‘Down-Time’.
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Today I received this email and attachment from a long time visitor.
The attachment is thoughtful and has much in common with the expectations that so many visitors have.
Accordingly I am very happy to post this as useful information and as something of a guide to the experiences that might be expected in a visit.
Thu 11/29/2018, 4:27 PM
It’s Robert here. I’ll be calling you soon. I’ve missed visiting.
As always I try to find other friendly providers or information that meets my preferences just as you do with your approach.
I found this experience description which seems to have so much in common with what we’ve always talked about.
I thought you might like to read this and even post it.
I hope to see you again soon.
For those who find themselves on the Tantric path, new questions arise all the time.
Tantric practice is about relaxation of the mind and body and a Tantric approach to mindful relaxation often gives access to energies within that are often suppressed.
Sexual energy, for many, is the most deeply buried energy, and Tantric practice seeks to uncover that treasure. While buried within us, without outlet, sexual energy is a stressor which can be the source of many imbalances.
The purpose of Tantric practice is to heighten awareness of sexual energy and to balance mind and body. A first step is to begin to experience underused senses and how they can relate to sensual and sexual awareness.
Such practice can deliver deep relaxation of the mind and a heightened sense of relaxed well-being. The initial routes – always safe, sane and consensual – are often through visual and touch stimulation.Tantric massage can provide incredibly exciting experiences, so much so that many people seek to move even further along the Tantric path and to enjoy this state of relaxation as part of their day to day lives.
But what is the next step after learning to appreciate how to receive and enjoy Tantric touch?
In heightening sensory awareness Tantric practice can begin to powerfully introduce sexual energy into the conscious mind. If that energy previously existed primarily in subconscious awareness, Tantra seeks to bring it more frequently into the conscious mind. This can be thought of as ‘mindful awareness’ and it is at that level that we can begin to integrate conscious Tantric sensuality with conscious sensual awareness. The reward is a reduction in daily mental stress as sexual energies become balanced and integrated with rational consciousness.
This endeavor is not as easy as might be imagined. In Tantric massage and related experiences the receiver is mostly passive, relaxing in the receipt of touch and reaching out to amplify and enhance that touch.
In ‘mindful awareness’ the Tantric purpose is to become a more active participant in creating the rise in energy and identifying and consciously promoting the relaxation ‘triggers’ that prompt the rise in sensual and sexual energy.
This level of participation in sensual and sexual exploration can be daunting at first but does bring entry into a world of previously unrealized consciousness. It begins to place sensual and sexual energy in a mindful consciousness that can be available 24/7 – not just on days when a Tantric massage or ritual session is available.
‘Tantric triggers’ are the switches or ‘turn-ons’ which are unique to each of us. Broad triggers could be visual, tactile, imaginary, taste-centered etc. Within those possibilities we each use imaginative energy to raise sexual/sensory consciousness.
The first step in a Tantric approach to ‘triggers’ is to recognize, consciously, what we are thinking and enjoying. Normally such thoughts can be allowed to surface, momentarily, from the subconscious in order to ‘enjoy the sexual and sensual moment’. In Tantra the goal is to ‘hold that thought’.
By becoming more conscious of the detail of such energy it can be recalled and given it its rightful place in the conscious mind.
The biggest initial hurdle is to overcome the perceived vulnerability that such consciousness raising requires. For many it is not easy to acknowledge the seemingly strange ‘turn on triggers’ that can be so powerful. We might know that we have always been turned on by particular body parts or characteristics but beyond disclosing an interest in socially acceptable ‘norms’, we can feel less inclined to disclose or seek the stimulation of preferences which might be thought of as ‘weird’ or ‘fetish’. So, often, that interest is kept secret, within within an individual.
Tantra looks to encourage enjoying that subconscious interest and energy so that it can become part of the conscious, relaxed mind and body.
There are many approaches in Tantra to reaching these levels of self-awareness. Massage and ritual can help.
So, for any who feel there are levels of subconscious energy that could be enjoyed – take the risk to talk further about these approaches.
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Posing for Art – In Tantric Style
Posing for Art – in Tantric style
This email was received from a reader in New York. It’s worth reading and she has permitted me to post it, albeit I’ve deleted her name for privacy reasons.
Subject: Your Blog
You might not get many emails like this and you don’t know me but I’m a regular reader of your blog.
I might be an unusual reader because I’m a female artist and photographer. I live in New York.
I wanted to add my 2 cents to the subjects you’ve included in your blog and say that a lot of this turns out to be useful in helping me with my art.
Mostly my art is interpretation of the human form. I use everything from oil on canvass to watercolor to pen & ink. I also often use photographic images to combine. I also teach drawing and composition in private art classes. Please read on and don’t imagine this is a pitch to get you to include my pictures on your blog. Its not about that.
I’ve been a professional artist for many years and specialize in human figure work as its always appealed to me as offering the best chances to produce unique work. Every body is completely unique and ever changing and I like to capture those changes ‘in the moment’.
I have many artist friends who have the same experience as me when trying to find session models. Its not difficult to find female models to pose but not so in finding male models.
If its just me painting or a class its usually not easy to find a male who can pose, often nude, to suit the needs of the artists. I think the convention is that its easier for females to feel comfortable about posing than males. Also conventions in our modern society have tended to prefer to view the female form than the male, although I think some things are changing in regards to that statement.
Part of my difficulty might have been in my approach to what I want to portray and I’ll say how I’ve solved the problem, personally, although I know generally that I’m not alone whatever the artistic approach requires.
Early in my career I found that capturing the human form was mostly a very sterile experience especially considering the excitement that the human body can generate. Artists are usually so concentrated on their work that the actual energy of the subject often escapes. Apologies to the many who do capture the energy of their subject.
In classical works portraying nudes, the energy is often captured, somehow, and we find that shared between the sexes.
My purpose and enjoyment has been to specialize in capturing sexual energy and tension and that is not a sterile task. It means asking a model not just to pose but actually to allow themselves to be part of an energy and image that can be observed by an artist and transferred to a canvass.
That’s asking a lot of any model and particularly a male model. I’m asking someone to pose in a state of sexual awareness or arousal which is a difficult thing for many to imagine in the usual art studio atmosphere. Mostly in figure work we encourage artists and students to ignore the elephant in the room and certainly never to venture personal approval or comment about the model.
My solution to the problem occurred when I met a guy giving massage in tantric styles, mostly to other men. We got talking and I told him what I did and what the problems often were. What he told me was very similar to what’s in your blog which is that tantric experience seems to allow people to be able to get more enjoyment from the sensuality of their bodies and to enjoy themselves for longer. Also to be less inhibited without being antisocial.
I didn’t know much about tantric massage etc. but I asked the guy if he’d like to pose at a small class that I had coming up to see if his ideas worked.
He agreed and I held the session at my studio. I think there were 4 artists at different levels of skill or objective.
At the time I wanted to sketch and paint a male in a state of heightened arousal, combining the facial expression with the genital expression. That was the objective of all of us to varying degrees.
My tantric friend said he understood what I intended and delivered beautifully. He was completely confident in himself and gave the room an energy which did seem to inspire the artists.
Since then I’ve been able to invite, through my friend, many of his clients, also to pose and we’ve been able to focus and capture so much of the human form, in my opinion, in unique ways.
I’ve also come to learn more about tantra and have actually posed for a few sessions myself.
I’d say to any of your tantric readers that this is a practical use of the energy and erotic control that can be learned and that appreciation of the human form is something that should be encouraged and that sexual energy can actually be seen and experienced through the brush and canvass where the artist and model can move themselves to the same wavelength.
I hope this is of interest to you.
By the way, I should mention that as a female artist, equally curious about the male form, and the female form and all gender forms I enjoy working with all sexes.
Whatever the gender mix I say the same thing, that the model is completely deserving of our deep respect and gratitude. Its not an easy thing to reach and maintain a state of arousal in a group of people.
To all participants I say that they will themselves likely experience a sexual energy and they should use that to encourage their work. Often these sessions have given artists a very different view of sexuality in art than conventional figure sessions.
We’ve encouraged requests and positive comments and at times have posed two models at the same time. We’ve created a studio atmosphere that encourages artist/model communication. Although the standard of work necessarily varies, none in the classes are there to judge. Personally I’ll help when I’m asked. The surprising thing for me is how uniquely inspired the finished pieces so often are. Also how much more comfortable everybody is able to become with their physical selves through such uninhibited artistic interaction.
To be able to absorb so closely aspects of the human body that are often only brushed over has been most exciting for me and others.
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Tantra, Fetish & Kink
Tantric massage can often be an experience of connecting the mind to the body..
The pace of life today often seems to block consciousness of the pleasure of physical sensations. Consciousness of self, as an erotic being, can be at risk.
Tantric massage and touch can re-awaken erotic consciousness and Tantric Practice is very much about heightening erotic physical and mental awareness.
Within the Tantric experience, massage, perhaps, has the broadest appeal, but the opportunity also exists to delve deeper into Tantric sensation potentials.
As the mind begins to make more space for sensual and erotic stimulation, and as mental and physical awareness is heightened, the imagination of the erotic begins to challenge the physical body – thoughts of making fantasies into realities.
Within Tantric Practice it is possible to raise the sensitivity and expand the erogenous potentials of the body.
Over time body and mind become more conscious of erotic potential and imagination begins to expand horizons. More fantasy can enter the door of consciousness that Tantric Practice has opened, enabling opportunities to actualize fantasies.
Actualization of erotic imagery is often described, sometimes quite dismissively, as ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But imagination should not be dismissed so easily.
Kinks and fetishes are entirely Tantric and are as valuable and valid as any part of erotic imagination.
It’s often difficult to discuss particular ‘turn-ons’, imagining that such thoughts are outside of a Tantric experience. The truth is that actualization of erotic imagery, however ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’ it might seem, (with the obvious exceptions of activity that is not lawful, sane, safe or consensual) is welcomed in Tantra and is regarded as the positive product of sensual and erotic imagination. Where actualization needs to happen with a partner, the participation of a guide in Tantric Practice can be the perfect solution.
To all who enjoy the world of Tantric Practice and massage, feel welcome to share thoughts about actualizing fantasies and finding comfort in every experience.
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Massage & A Birthday Party
There are occasions when Tantric massage can add to a special event and on this occasion it was to celebrate a birthday.
This event was unusual in some ways and did remind of the possibilities when gathering a small group of people together.
What follows is a more detailed description of the birthday dinner.
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The invitation was to be part of a small birthday celebration at the home of some friends.
It was the birthday of a friend of theirs and they wanted to organize a memorable, but ‘civilized’, party.
My friends have been Tantric massage visitors for a few years and I’ve known them through their visits and various art gatherings, exhibitions etc.
What they arranged for their friend is worth a few words since it was so carefully planned and worked so well.
The plan was quite simple. They invited their birthday friend (he’s unattached) and 2 m/f couples, for a surprise birthday dinner. That made a party of seven including the hosts who are a m/m couple.
The surprise for the birthday guest was to be that everybody could receive a massage throughout the evening – if they chose. I was invited to provide the massages.
What made the plan particularly interesting, and provided the performance art & Tantric aspect, was that the massage table was set up in the dining room. So while the others were eating, the guest receiving massage could be watched from the dining table.
My friends saw this not only as a birthday gift of Tantric massage, but also as performance art.
Initially the massage table was draped and disguised. When everybody was seated for dinner, and comfortable – there had been drinks etc. before sitting down – the hosts uncovered the massage table and announced the evening’s ‘birthday present’.
The initial surprise announcement was well received – all guests were on the same page – and was greeted with appreciation and enormous positive energy.
The hosts explained that the order of massage would be random. Cards would be dealt to each person prior to each massage. The highest card would be the next massage.
Massages would last around 15 mins. Some obvious logistcal questions arose. The random playing card routine handled who would be first, but then questions about what to wear/not to wear/how intimate/oil etc. – all were asked.
The hosts said that all that was necessary was for everyone to enjoy themselves within their own comfort level – obviously it was equally acceptable to take a pass and just watch.
My task was to provide massage entirely according to the wishes of the guest. The hosts and the table would ensure that the guest was heard and understood.
The dress for the evening was smart/casual. The group comprised of very open minded people, of course, but it can never be assumed that all sizes always fit everybody, whatever the past experiences.
In this case everybody seemed totally into the activity.
So, as the party talked and decided I prepared the massage table, oil, towels etc.
The cards were dealt for the first time, and exposed. The highest belonged to one of the partnered males.
The hosts had set a screen for changing and with the encouragement of all, especially his partner, the first ‘high card’ retired behind the screen to prepare.
There were towels behind the screen and the guest emerged wearing one of them around his waist, to much applause.
He climbed onto the table, face down. The hosts asked if he wanted to keep the towel on and of course the group encouraged him to discard it. That was his choice so I removed it.
I started the massage of his back immediately as the party enjoyed their meal and enjoyed the visual of the massage. I checked if it was OK to use oil. It was. The plan was to allow approx. equal time on both back and front.
Now the time came for him to turn over. Again the question – did he want a towel? Hoots of laughter from the table encouraging no towel! I whispered in his ear, checking his preference.
The energy in the room was certainly supportive and erotic. He said that his preference did not require the towel.
The turn over revealed that he was clearly enjoying the time and he was cheered by the ‘audience’. I massaged, with limitations, his front, figuring that his partner or others could continue the massage themselves, at a later time, if that was the plan.
The front massage was over soon enough – too soon, probably for the guest – and he rolled off the table, standing to take a mock bow.
The hosts then asked him whether he wanted to get dressed again or just recover the towel. Whatever he decided likely would set the precedent for the evening.
His partner called out that he should remain as he was – naked and well oiled. That received the support of the table, so I handed him the towel and he resumed his seat, a nude male at a table of smartly dressed diners. Performance art takes many forms.
New cards were dealt and this time the high card was the ‘birthday’ guest. The timing seemed appropriate.
We all sang happy birthday when he turned over. As with the previous guest, he didn’t ask to be draped with his towel or recover his clothes, so the table now included two naked male guests.
The next card selection only included the remaining five guests, of course. The high card fell to the female partner of the male who hadn’t yet had a massage.
Tantric massage is approached with respect and with a practical neutrality regarding gender. The experience must also always respect individual preferences, expectations and comfort levels.
The hosts checked carefully again that the massage experience would be within the lady’s comfort level.
She reassured everybody that this was exactly where she wanted to be and emerged from her seat at the table. After a stop behind the screen for a towel she climbed onto the massage table and I spent 10 mins. massaging her back. Then turn over time came. I whispered in her ear, asking if she wanted to continue, and with or without the towel.
The reply was a very clear “yes”, and without the towel, and she flipped over immediately. By the end of the massage she was as happy as her two previous companion diners.
On leaving the massage table she said she no longer has use for her dress that evening and joined the others at the table.
It happened that the next high card was the remaining female and she followed the same easy pattern as the previous guest.
The remaining guests for massage were the males, of course, and by the end the vibe in the room was certainly ‘electric’.
It was a long and enjoyable evening. The energy was entirely positive and although the evening was long there was little time to have any thoughts of fatigue.
I’ve also been told that the guest of honour found this to be his best birthday present, ever!
Tantric approaches and experiences can be used to raise energy and heighten awareness in many situations. This was an event that wasn’t difficult to imagine or organize and led to an unforgettable experience for all present.
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Open Reply to Ritual Post
Open Reply to Protected Ritual Post
It was kind of my visitor to allow his very descriptive email to be posted on this blog and at his request I did add a password to access the text. (With his permission I’ve removed the password, now and his email follows in the next post)
While I have replied to him privately he does raise some interesting and exciting issues which are worth some further thought.
His email describes an experience he had where he was introduced to a group of individuals who follow a Tantric lifestyle. The group was organized by a Tantric guide whom he visits for massage.
In his message he describes in much detail the introduction ceremony and ritual that was practiced to initiate him into the group and he asks whether what he experienced was common to all Tantric practice.
It’s worth noting that he expressed no negative thoughts and was simply seeking further information. Since I know him personally I know his questions to be sincere and his descriptions to be accurate.
In considering his questions it’s worth making a distinction between Tantric massage and Tantric practice in general. In this blog I’ve discussed many aspects of Tantric massage but the email talks about ritual and ceremony so I’ll set aside the massage element in this response and primarily talk about Tantric ritual and lifestyle.
Tantric practice is always about understanding the distribution of physical and intellectual energy in ourselves and others. Particularly sexual energy, which can be the most powerful force within us.
Any ceremony or ritual that recognizes these dynamics and moves participants comfortably, progressing them in adjusting and raising their awareness, is a valid presentation of Tantric practice.
The email describes a small group where two people are introduced to others further along the path, in a process designed to raise Tantric consciousness. The ceremony seems relatively simple and was clearly designed to consciously raise sensual and sexual energy and to provide an early step in opening minds and reducing inhibitions.
The form of ritual and wording described is quite common in Tantric practice and honors the participants as valued individuals and in every aspect of their beings.
There are more elaborate rituals than the one described and as this group moves on to further Tantric understandings it is likely that the ceremonies will require increasing intensity of thought and action as consciousness is continually raised.
Tantric ritual and practice is definitely not intended to be ‘secret’ or exclusive. The strength is to open minds and bodies to healthy understanding of the energies within us and to enjoy those energies in day to day life.
To be successful and take full advantage of the opportunities, stages of practice are introduced so that the process does not become overwhelming.
Many writings and rituals on this subject are available. I will make some chapters available describing how solo and group Tantric practice can be approached and successfully enjoyed. I’ll make them available through this blog whenever requested.
My friend’s experience seems entirely Tantric in its intent and practice and I’ve wished him well in the next stages. It does appear that he is in the hands of a practiced Tantric guide. I’ve asked him to send any further ceremony descriptions if he’d like to.
For those readers who find this topic interesting and would like to share experiences, questions or ideas, please do feel welcome to write to me, always in confidence of course.
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Tantric Ritual Experience
Subject: tantra group
Its Ed here from Toronto.
I thought you would be interested to hear how my Tantric ritual encounter group went and compared with other groups that I havent been able to come to.
I told you before about the guy that Ive been getting massage from near me. He also has workshop groups which take people through stages of tantra massage etc. His ideas seem very like yours and so we got talking and I went to one of his group sessions. He’d told me that there was one other client of his at the same stage as me so we could be introduced together.
My description might be on the long side but I’m really interested to hear if it matches what you do.
I arrived at Petes place at the same time as the other guy whose name was Brian. Pete and 3 other guys and a female whose name was Dawn were there, so there were 7 of us.
Pete had put on some snacks etc. and made the room comfortable with a tantric altar, drapes and candles.
I can’t remember everyones names except Brian and Dawn but we were introduced. I was quite nervous not knowing how this was going to work out and I think Brian was as well. Pete and the others were dressed very loosely in what looked like silk pajamas. Brian and I were dressed in street clothes like slacks and shirts.They were all very nice to us. It seemed one of the guys was partnered with Dawn but they all obviously knew each other and were very relaxed. I guess theyd been there awhile before we arrived.
Pete had turned off most room lights and lit the candles. The mood in the room was friendly and positive so my nerves were beginning to relax.
Pete then took us through many of the concepts of tantra – energy, chakras etc. It was all what we’ve talked about but was worth rehearing as it always is. Then he welcomed me and Brian and said that the time of the evening was to introduce us to another level of tantrra beyond massage and that what we would experience would raise our knowledge of ourselves and make us more conscious of mental and physical pleasure.
I remember him saying that at first we might find the experience awkward but if we gave ourselves over to it we’d enjoy longlasting rewards and that tantra would open out minds and make us more conscious of sensual touch etc.
Brian and I were given pajamas like the others were wearing and sent to the bathroom together to change. Pete said to just wear the outfits and nothing else. It seemed a bit strange changing in the bathroom with a guy I’d never met before but he was a nice guy and I think he was thinking mostly about all this the same as me. We knew Pete from massage sessions and that he was totally sincere so no problem.
The pajamas were silk or something similar and felt comfortable and we went back into the room. Pete had put a low covered platform in front of the couch where the others were sitting. It might have been a low coffee table or something similar covered by a colored drape or cloth. Might have been 12″ above the floor and we were instructed the stand together facing the others on the table platform.
We stepped up and stood facing the others and Pete was to the side. In the background was chanting music and that with the candle light gave the place an exciting feel.
Pete then quietly announced that we were gathered to offer thanks for the chance to present ourselves in a safe and honoured way and to experience the energy trapped within us and to let loose that energy under our own conscious control. It was something like that and I can’t remember exactly. You might know better the wording or idea.
More words followed as we stood there and then we were told that our bodies and minds were to be honoured tonight in tantric open ritual and in offering ourselves as vulnerable we would move toward a better control of our own consciousness. As he talked Pete moved toward us and asked us to unbutton and remove the pajamas.
We followed his request, rather clumsily I felt, and then continued standing nude on the platform. I wasn’t sure where to look or whether to make eye contact with the others.
Pete then moved me closer to Brian and with a strap of some sort joined my right ankle to his left and my right wrist to his left wrist. I could feel his body heat at the points where our legs and arms touched. The straps were not tight or uncomfortable but joined us in an interesting way.
Then he put a fabric belt of some sort around my waist and with another loose strap attached my left wrist to the belt. So I could move my hand and arm at my side but not to the front or back. Same with Brian right arm.
The straps had distracted me for a moment from reminding myself that I was naked and as I again became conscious of that Pete came with a blindfold and covered my eyes and Brian’s.
More words from Pete who said that now our ‘companions’ as he called them would engage tantric ritual in recognizing the sacred bodies of Ed and Brian in part and in whole.
I won’t describe the whole thing but will mention the format which was repeated many times.
I could sense one person rose from the couch and came to the platform. We know who it was by voice alone. In the first experience the person came to the platform, probably knelt and placed his hands on my feet and said that he honoured Eds feet and gave thanks for sharing them with the group. He did the same with Brian. I felt the warm sensation of his hands stroking my feet and I felt that his hands were coated in what was likely a massage oil which transferred to my feet. At the time that he rubbed in the oil he said that the oil would annoint and raise a tantric energy.
I could feel myself becoming hard for the foot rub was very sensual. Because my wrists were strapped I couldn’t reach to cover my self or check anything and now I realised part of the point of the straps.
The person seemed to step back and sat down after making the same offerings to Brian.
I remember the next to attend was Dawn. She recited the same words as previously, this time honouring my legs, and Brian’s after, and thanking us for sharing ourselves. Her hands were covered in warm oil and she spread the oil on each leg up to the knee and sat down.
Again the sensation was so intense and I knew I was very hard. It wasn’t just the touch but the knowledge that all was being observed and I began to find myself thinking beyond the physical sensation since I could not touch my self.
Next somebody arose to recognize my thighs and annoint, always with the same form of words, gently and respectfully spoken. I remember this being the first time of any touch close to my genital region and I began to anticipate the possibility of annointing my genital region and thinking that likely wouild not happen. But it did, after the thighs.
The companion spoke the words honouring my scrotum and testicles and he used those actual words and annointed with more oil. The same for Brian, I could hear.
I wasn’t sure what to expect next and it was Dawn who came forward. She used the now familiar words honouring my penis and the expression of liquid energy it was presenting. I could sense that she must be looking at some precum. From massage exercizes I had been practicing controlling ejaculation and this was the time to control. I remeber breathing deeply as Dawn annointed me with oil and touched the now very moist tip and glans of my penis.
Although Dawn was female it was clear throughout that gender had little to do with tantric sexuality. It could just as well have been one of the guys annointing my penis. The ritual was about how Brian and I experienced the time and not who was providing the experience or their gender.
Later I talked to Dawn about this. I asked her if she had particularly chosen to honour our penises. She said that she had and that she felt that penisies should be enjoyed and offered by and to all genders and that in tantra we should learn that sensuality is independent of gender. Her question was, if tantra was to be useful in raising consciousness then that consciousness should be available to everyone in tantra. She remembered her own experience being moved in a group session like this, She said that the companions were all gay men and that they honoured her in exactly the same way as they would a guy.
With the same directness she said that the experience was just as erotic and sensual for her and so her own genital regions had become just as wet as the tip of any penis. The thing for her was always to enjoy bodies whoever they belonged to.
We continued in this fashion which included my anus, stomach, nipples, neck, face, arms and various other bodyparts and regions.
Each touch became more and more intense. At the end of what must have lasted nearly an hour I was covered in oil and sweat as was my new companion, Brian.
We could feel each others exhaustion as Pete gave thanks for our energy and physical and mental beings. He then undid the straps and removed the blindfolds.
Immediately we saw that our tantric companions were now naked themselves.
In front of them were drapes laid out on the floor. Pete asked Brian and I to stretch out on the floor which we gratefully did after standing for nearly an hour. Then bowels of warm water were produced and we were washed by all four companions with some sort of herbal soap from head to toe.
After being dried the end of the ritual seemed to be approaching.
Pete recited that we were all now companions on the tantric path, conscious of our physical and mental energies and in control of our sensuality.
To demonstrate this control and shared path we were invited to join in a tantric hug as Pete called it. In group hugs, he said sexual energy was discounted. In a tantric hug, as in tantra, the object is to reciognize and enjoy sexual energy. To close the ritual we should allow ourselves to release the energy generated in this ritual evening and share that energy with our companions.
With that Pete embraced us all and gently reached for the closest erect penis. We followed his lead and assisted our companions in mutual masturbation. What happened was that we all fell to the floor and allowed whoever was nearest to work on us until each had ejaculated. We became an incredible, sweaty, sticky mess of flesh and at the end I can say that I’ve never felt so relaxed and empowered and this experience stays with me even now.
Next time I will be honoring another new companion. After we got cleaned up, in talking in Petes studio I discovered just how connected tantric practice can make people who have shared and deliberately presented to others what is unfortunately usually kept too personal.
Thats my account, which could go on longer but I’d be really interested in how close this is to your group sessions and tantric ritual.
I’ll call when I get into town.
The Erogenous Zone
Tantric massage is much more than simply physical massage.
Genuinely delivered, the massage experience can touch the mind as much as the body.
There are many posts in this blog which describe aspects of Tantric practice but perhaps the simplest explanation of Tantra touches on the pleasant distribution of the potential energy contained in the mind and body.
For those exploring Tantric massage there is an experience of mental and physical relaxation. It’s possible to simply submit to the relief and energy movement that full body Tantric touch brings, allowing the mind and body to wander.
Properly performed, Tantric massage is an open ended, timeless experience, raising the conscious and subconscious sensual potential of the entire being.
There is nothing wrong and everything right about enabling and allowing such experience.
But Tantra can take us even further into the land of sensuality.
Much of our potential energy begins in the mind. Imagination is the beginning and the motivation for every experience that we create for ourselves. Tantric practice can help free the mind and enable enjoyment and further the energy that is often buried in the subconscious mind.
There is more than one way to enjoy Tantric time and massage. Either passively, which can be wonderfully relaxing, or actively – consciously engaging and stimulating the imagination as well as the physical being.
It’s the active option that is the subject of this note.
It’s no secret that the human body enjoys the sensation of friendly touch. Tantric massage enhances the experience of positive touch. Passively enjoying touch to sensitive body regions can provide sexual and sensual stimulation and we can enjoy these sensations without thought or effort.
But the body has the potential to develop many more erogenous zones than simply the obvious ones.
This is where imaginative energy and conscious and heightened awareness can serve.
By deliberately becoming mindful about the touch being received it’s possible to discover that the entire body is a potential erogenous and erotic zone. This discovery and practice can have fundamental impacts on day to day life.
The mind can connect with the energies of the impulses of the physical body more readily, and the imagination can be controlled and directed positively and holistically.
The imagination can begin to associate personal space and environment more closely with the potential for positive physical and mental experience.
Positive potential can be found in experiences that formerly may have been ignored or found potentially negative. Value can begin to be found in sights and feelings that have appeared neutral or negative in the past.
The most powerful energy force within us is sexual energy and thus Tantra, with its emphasis on mindful sensuality, is the ideal route to opening the mind and expanding sexual imagination.
So, when you decide to treat yourself to a sensual Tantric massage, it’s entirely possible to take from the experience, not only some time of physical relaxation, but also the beginnings of a pleasant and permanent change in mental and physical consciousness.
In other words the experience does not have to end at the door on the way out.
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Thanks for the appointments during the year and sorry I haven’t seen you recently. It’s been busy at school and time has been tight but I’ll come again soon.
I have been reading your blog and the password posts and thought I could write my experience and you can put it on the blog with a password.
You know my background and I thought it might be worth writing about because I’m not sure how usual or unusual it is. We’re all OK with me writing it and I’ve actually been helped by all here. We’re interested in anyone who wants to write to us who are in the same situation.
I’ve been attending university for 3 years now with a year to go. I met my girlfriend (name provided but changed to g/f) after a year at school. We go to a lot of the same classes.
We rented a house 18 months ago and thought we’d rent out the spare bedroom to make the rent work. I told my g/f that I like to get massage and am very interested in tantra. Also that I’m bi. She doesn’t have a problem, obviously, or we wouldn’t be together and we both enjoy our sex lives together.
We needed to get at least one other renter to help with the rent and we thought we’d be able to get another student but ended up renting the room to a guy in his 30’s (we’re in our 20’s) who works in a store downtown. I don’t want to mention the type of store but he’s a nice guy and I’ve shown him your blog. I don’t think he’s been to see you yet but I know he will soon. He wants to save some money so sharing a house works for him at the moment.
We share the lounge and kitchen etc. so we’ve often hung out just talking and getting to know each other. I’ll call him James but that’s not his real name.
When we were looking for a renter we wanted someone who was easy to be with and wouldn’t be uncomfortable around the house, so we said that they would have to be OK with the idea that the place was clothing optional. We chose James because his reaction wasn’t weird on the subject.
It took a month for things to settle into a routine and it was in the summer last year so we were around the house a lot. James was at work during the day and usually got back around 6. We didn’t have classes over the summer.
At first we tried to be extra considerate so he could feel free to hang in the lounge, get food etc. but it wasn’t exactly the best approach and so we asked him what would work for him. Luckily he said that he’d be most comfortable if we just existed as normal because the plan was to rent the house so that we could all live comfortably. Also he had his own room and TV to go to anyway.
We began watching movies together in the lounge later in the evenings and found that our mealtimes matched James so it’s all quite convenient. We don’t have much furniture and the place is clean but untidy which is OK most of the time.
The days were long and being summer and warm weather mostly we usually hung out in the house with just shorts and T-shirts. My g/f and I have books on bodywork, massage, tantra, art etc. and they’re in the lounge for anyone to read. James had begun to look through them and we got to talking about bodywork one evening.
To make this short we found out that James also was into massage and had done a lot of yoga in his past. We talked about tantra and relaxation etc. and about how we all seemed to get along and that it was a good living situation. James had said before that he was gay but had split from his partner in the previous year.
During evening conversations we started to talk about some more personal things and the conversations flowed very easily and we all found it quite sexy. One evening James left us to take a shower and came back into the room with only his towel wrapped around him.
We resumed the conversation which hadn’t really ended because my g/f and I had continued looking through massage books.
James saw what we were looking at and said that at some point we should get a massage table and try some massage exchange. Because I’m always open for massage and so is my g/f we said that we’d give James a massage then if he wanted. I’m not sure I’d have said this if I hadn’t had a couple of beers.
We cleared some space on the floor, which is still mostly covered with cushions and books, and James stretched out, face down, on the floor. My g/f took off his towel, found some oil that we keep around and we started massaging James.
Although we’re not strangers to massage I suddenly realized this was the first time I’d actually been with my g/f in a massage situation (or any potential sexual situation) with another male. I knew she could be into this but wanted to make sure she was completely OK with the possibilities.
I tried to recall as much of the tantric approach as I could and I told James that would be our approach to this.
We poured some oil onto James’ back and my g/f separated his legs enough to allow some oil to trickle between his cheeks.
Then she took my hand and guided it between his legs and held it there, with hers. The intention was to make sure that I understood she was cool with this. James was having a great time.
We oiled and massaged James’s back, butt and legs from top to toe. Eventually my g/f said that we should start on his front and asked James if he wanted his towel back. It seemed a crazy question but she intended it politely. Anyway he ignored it and just turned over. We’d seen James naked going to and from the shower to his bedroom etc. and we hadn’t particularly avoided covering up if we were moving around the house but this was the first time we’d actually done anything that would have a sensual or sexual dimension.
As he turned over James asked us both if this was OK with us and my g/f said it was with her and she didn’t think I would have a problem. Of course I didn’t have a problem. If I had any concern it was that although I’d told my g/f I could get turned on in the company of some guys and I thought that could fit me into the bi category, this was the first time when she would put it to the test and I didn’t want to offend either her or James.
I think my g/f quickly read my mind and said that since I was the ‘tantra expert’ I should take the lead. We’d both stayed in our shorts and tops so far and actually I felt we were overdressed because this had gone so far. Again seeing my hesitation my g/f said that what she’d read of tantra in my books we ought to make James feel as comfortable as he could be so that he could enjoy the experience so she told him that she was enjoying the massage and now seeing him naked. Also whether he wanted this to be full body.
The answer was not necessary so we poured on the oil. James is a good looking guy, He’s got less hair than me and is quite slim. Since I’ve been in his position getting massage I was imagining what he’d be feeling. I’m still working on not cumming too soon as you know and James seemed to have things under control.
We both started on his chest and although my g/f had told me to take the lead she was the one moving my hands down James’s torso when it seemed I was spending too long on the chest area.
As we massaged James’s belly and moved into his pubic area I realized we were both waiting to see who would make the first stroke of his cock. Looking back on this it seems we were being a bit stupid and that’s where I’m interested in your opinion.
I was finding the time very erotic but was still concerned to show that to my g/f. It was James who broke the ice and reached for my dick and told me to lose the clothes. I looked at my g/f who said it was fine with her if I wanted, so I got naked. My g/f made some sort of joke about waiting too long for this moment and took off her top. She’d been wearing a long T shirt covering some briefs which she kept on.
We worked on James’s cock and balls together while he played with me while getting the massage from us both. After we’d worked on his legs and feet getting back often to his cock, I could see he was ready to cum any time. My g/f could see this of course and that I was also ready to join him.
Around this point we ended the massage and my g/f asked whether I would kneel over her face and James over her tits and we should cum on her at the same time.
That’s what we did. There was enough to almost drown her.
I hope you don’t find this pornographic. I’ve left out a lot of the detail and description and I’m not sure whether it fits with tantra. I’m hoping you’ll email me with any thoughts.
We’re all still living at the house. We continue with our lives normally and we’re not a traditional ‘threesome’ because we don’t share the same bed. We do hang out together in the evenings and my g/f and I sometimes have sex with James there. Sometimes my g/f asks James and me to play with each other so there’s a lot of physical contact between us and a great comfort level. We like to watch each other so we’re probably voyeurs and exhibitionists.
We did get a massage table between us. Maybe that’s why I haven’t been to you. By now there’s not much we don’t know about each other, physically, but I’m interested to find out more about the next steps in tantric massage and how we can find any new things to do.
James is interested as well. Also my g/f has told me that she does get off on seeing us all together although we never try to have sex with James. He and I have been quite intimate but only ever when all three of us are together. James’s position is that he very much likes my g/f as a friend and loves that she allows him to play with me. So it’s all cool.
It won’t last forever now because we’ll finish in the next year and probably move. That’s why I’d be interested in what tantra offers when we don’t have James around. Also I’m interested in some further instruction in massage techniques.
You can edit this description however you want and post it on your blog if you like. I think our situation might not be so unusual but people don’t talk about these things often. We’ve been pretty lucky with it all. I want to keep it that way so you might be able to keep us on track.
(The email is signed but I’ve cut it down in size and left his name out. I’ll call him Bill for this posting. We’re in touch. I expect to see him again soon)