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Happy Canada Day

Happy Canada Day

It’s time to enjoy a day away from work and worries and to remember those who keep our world spinning and can’t take the day off.

To all who have called and connected in the past few weeks – it’s so good to know you’re well and to be able to confirm that all remains safe and well, here.

Do continue to call and email. Our times are changing but prioritizing safe and comfortable contact will always be an unchanging priority.

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

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Update & Virtual Energy

Update & Virtual Energy

Times are changing once again.

There is a longing to return to a past normality.

Most likely, though, we will be journeying to a new normality of pleasure where we are more informed and more focused. It will be a conscious and deliberate journey.

Awareness will be the watchword whenever physical visits recommence – and in Tantric practice there is so much pleasure and energy contained in the concept of Conscious Awareness.

The energy that has continued for the past weeks has been virtual but nonetheless deliberate and open.

Fantasy has often pleasingly ruled.

It’s been an opportunity to send thoughts and express imaginings and desires by mediums not normally closely associated with Tantric practice.

Emails and phone calls have been ever-present and personal, and every communication has been so unique and valuable.

As we begin to see the shape of things to come do feel as welcome as ever to call or write and plan for the new Tantric reality, visits and interactions.

The energy of anticipation and clear desires for the near future bring so much to the massage table.

It’s reassuring to report that all is and has been well here and that the many past visitors who have communicated over the past weeks have confirmed stories of good health and intelligent understanding.

When the doors reopen a special welcome awaits. If you have thoughts and ideas for the future now is a good time to share them.

Hopefully, we’ll soon be back ‘in touch’.

 

Colin

250-984-7051

co.lins@outlook.com

SOCIAL DISTANCING & TODAY’S REALITY

SOCIAL DISTANCING & TODAY’S REALITY

At this uniquely difficult time it is so important to maintain a clear understanding of recommended and mandated social practices, concerns and comfort levels.

All aspects of daily life, ranging from personal to peripheral, and in community, must be uppermost in our consciousness.

Therefore, for the peace of mind and safety of all, appointment availability for new visitors is not possible at this time. Hopefully it will not be too long before new visitors can again be welcomed.

For regular and familiar visitors, please do feel as welcome as ever to call or email to discuss safe and socially responsible visit possibilities in the future, as well as preferences, memories and suggestions.   

Your continued connection will always provide the opportunity for updates, new options and welcome news of your continued well-being.

Stay safely and happily aware.

Colin

Email:    co.lins@outlook.com

Phone:  250-984-7051

Contact Colin – 250-984-7051

TouchIn a quiet, warm room, your massage is enhanced with a full body, hot towel table bath, warm oil, shower and complete relaxation.

Shower and all facilities are available and sessions are untimed – stay as long as your schedule allows. Massage is always slow and relaxing. Simply an exchange and flow of positive energy.

This is a space to safely explore imagination.  All orientations, adult ages and genders are welcome.

Location and parking is easy and safe.

Within this blog are more detailed descriptions of the possibilities of Tantric Massage. Many postings – but not all  –  require a password to read, so do scroll to the end. Simply email the title to co.lins@outlook.com and I’ll send the password. Your curiosity is welcome.

Contact Colin at: 250-984-7051 or email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Comfortable Company

Comfortable Company

Time taken for personal relaxation and exploration is so valuable in these, often, challenging times.

Personal relaxation time can restore the energy and imagination lost in the machinery of the daily grind.

Any opportunity to relax the body and also the mind is a chance to rest or divert thinking.

Toward fulfilling the objective of personal comfort and mental diversion please also take comfort in the knowledge that this time is respected as personal and discreet.

To this purpose please know the following if you are communicating for the first time.

I am always pleased to receive and to try and answer the questions you will have. The best way, initially, to communicate is via a telephone call or a simple email of interest and introduction. From there we can arrange a time for a telephone conversation.

All communication – telephone and email – is always confidential. Your communication is a point of entry into a less stressful world that does not have a purpose or technology to intrude or ‘over-share’.

For visitors who have previously visited this island of relaxation, your time and visits are forever valued.

For those who are imagining and seeking answers – please do contact with the confidence that your call is always valued and respected with discretion.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051   Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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2020 and…

…thanks to everybody who visited throughout this past year, attending Tantric gatherings and workshops and sharing thoughts and energies individually or in group and social settings. It was one of the best years ever, making realities of so many fantasies.

Every visit and every moment was truly a unique pleasure.

Plans for 2020 are filled with new and original opportunities to share and expand personal and exciting preferences.

For many, today’s times are stressful and uncertain. Opportunities for personal pleasure can often seem remote and unlikely. With this very much in mind, locating safe and accessible space and experience is so important.

In 2020, therefore, a simple call will continue to lead to a discreet oasis of shared energy, like-minded company and sustained pleasure, in addition to the heightened physical awareness that Tantric touch always provides.

Looking forward to the best that 2020 has to offer and sharing time and energy with friends, existing and new.

Colin

Tel:        250-984-7051

Email:    co.lins@outlook.com

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Curious guy enjoying massage

Here’s a self explanatory message which has much in common with the experiences of many others. Posted for interest and typical of many messages sent to this site.
Colin
250-984-7051
co.lins@outlook.com
Sent: Friday, September 20, 2019 3:56 PM
To: Colin . <co.lins@outlook.com>

Subject: Curious guy enjoying massage

Here’s my experience, Colin. I’m not of the younger generation any longer and am new to receiving massage and I’ve been experimenting about what works best for me.

I’ve found massage from any experienced provider can be very interesting for any curious guy. I think men often know better where men like to be touched. That can also be true of female providers as well but I’m finding a special satisfaction with male providers. Of course that’s just me. It’s always good to be open minded and try new things in life particularly at this stage in my life. Below are some benefits that I’ve found and it doesn’t matter the gender of the professional.

On a physical level massage touch can help to relax tight muscles and improve circulation, nervous function and joint mobility.

On an emotional level I’ve found the interesting touch I often had problems finding safely. This has relaxed my mind and reduced my stress and made me feel valued again. At a deeper level, massage has helped release bad energies trapped in my body and mind. Hope to visit you one day. It seems like I would enjoy meeting you. Hugh.

Pride – August 2019

This email was a pleasure to receive and I am delighted to accept the invitation to post it here.
The Vancouver Pride celebrations were, as always, a high point in the year. The weather was on our side as well as the energy.
David describes his personal experience and it was a pleasure to spend the time with him and the others.
He’s in good company as a retired guy who finds limited opportunities for safe self expression. Engagement with Tantric practice in massage, ritual or simply conversational contexts can create so many personal opportunities.
As ever, email or call if you’d like further information on all this.
Colin
250-984-7051
co.lins@outlook.com

 

From: David

Sent: Monday, August 26, 2019 1:14 PM
To: Colin . <co.lins@outlook.com>
Subject: Pride

Hi Colin
 
This is David.
 
I’ve emailed M, K & J separately and am using initials only in case you choose to put this on your website which you are welcome to do.
 
My experience over the Pride days in Vancouver was everything I hoped it would be, and more.
 
As you know, I’d talked at length to M & K about imagining participating in the ‘fantasy’ experience with you all in Vancouver and on parade day.
 
As a family guy in his mid 60’s and widowed for a few years, I’ve been belatedly exploring my sexuality and have found that tantric approaches have added much to my understanding and comfort. This led me to the suggestion by my tantric guide in Vancouver, R, that I contact M & K to explore their ‘fantasy’ possibilities over the Vancouver Pride activities.
 
When I was married and with a young family there was little opportunity to focus on the unexplored aspects of my sexual thinking and appetite.
 
Over the past 3 years I’ve realized that I am fascinated with the energies of all people, as a male, and not just traditional heterosexual energies.
 
In my introduction to tantric massage and the group settings, which are often naked and mostly male, along with others in the gatherings I found myself as fascinated with the male form, touch, and energy as I’ve been with female company for most of my life.
 
I have chosen not to form any intimate relationships with other males, or females, but increasingly have allowed my curiosity about my sexuality to be present in my thinking.
 
It was with this in my mind that I contacted M & K, recommended by R  (I think you know him) as an experienced male/female couple with a unique approach to my curiosity.
 
I met with them and explained my background and questions. They were so understanding of my dilemmas and, after listening to me, suggested I participate in their ‘fantasy’ activity over the Pride parade weekend.
 
They described this would be an opportunity for me to open myself to many of my thoughts and to safely make them a reality. I had explained what I have been thinking was too strange to contemplate making real. M & K explained to me that my desire to share myself, almost naked, and to observe others similarly motivated, was not strange at all and was very much part of many of the energies that Pride represented. To see and be seen, without negative judgment and with pride and to be comfortably and socially accepted.
 
I was one of 2 guys who M & K agreed to support in this experience, as you know. I hadn’t met the other ‘fantasist’ – initial J – before. Although much younger than me we soon found much in common, as you know, and I came to understand that my ‘strange’ personal thoughts were not so strange.
 
I just wanted to convey to everybody involved how much I appreciated the comfort of the house and the attention and support that I received. It was worth every penny and time so well spent.
 
The Sunday, including watching the parade and joining the crowds on the Vancouver streets was just fantastic. Although at first I was so nervous (I think we all were) to shed nearly all of my clothes and wear only a small material covering over my more personal parts, I soon accepted that I was in good company and I was able to enjoy what was a unique experience and energy. I’ll never experience Davie Street in the same way again!
 
I think my confidence was supported by the presence of so many people with similar objectives. I’m sure the majority were not novices in the way that I was but I did feel a sense of public welcome. So many smiles and reassurances from people we met. And we returned the positive energy in the same way.
 
I was encouraged simply to follow my imagination. For the first time in my life I openly embraced the energy of attraction to all who engaged with me without reference to gender or appearance. It was so refreshing. I walked with K, topless and as exposed as I was, proud in sharing her wonderful energy. And I walked just as happily with J and yourself and other males, similarly pleased to be sharing the energy of the Pride streets.
 
I think the energy of acceptance and allowing our exposed bodies to speak our thoughts and minds was so clear.
 
So again I thank you all for changing this part of my life. Naturally I’m going to continue with my tantric journey and I wholeheartedly encourage any who fear the confusion that can come with questions of personal sexuality to find a safe place – perhaps in a tantric practice group, and begin to find yourself.
 
It was such a pleasure to meet you and If you are moved to publish this email on your blog, which I’ve really enjoyed reading, you must feel comfortable including it. I hope you’ll have some time for me to visit you next time I’m in Victoria.
 
Thank you again,
 
David

Safe Space

Safe Space

The search for safe and intimate comfort can be challenging.

The possibilities and choices to find such comfort can seem to be frustratingly limited.

The occasional enjoyment of bodywork and massage is satisfying but often all too brief.

As acceptance grows that, as individuals, our sexual and sensual identities are broad and legitimate, so, also, do the opportunities to enjoy and actualize seem frustratingly narrow.

While the virtual world of internet and keyboard driven images can help in beginning to focus preferences, it’s not an environment that makes it easy to discretely  and safely enjoy one’s newly discovered ‘self’ in the physical world.

The virtual world simply does not reciprocate the energy pounded into the keyboard.

This year, more than ever, opportunities have emerged that have allowed visitors, here, to take the time, safely and openly, to explore and enjoy aspects of their sensuality that are, all too often, difficult to express in less open contexts.

The chance to laze and gaze in a shared and non-judgmental environment, where no clock is ticking, is difficult to discover.

While it shouldn’t be so difficult to find comfortable space to share thoughts and preferences, when sensual self discovery is the goal the choices can be very limited.

I’ve heard this frequently over the past couple of years from wonderful visitors who have returned to share and spend extended overnight visits.

Such visits have provided a chance to temporarily exclude the outside world and often to actualize thoughts and newly discovered preferences – to build confidence and bring new peace of mind.

While this will always be a place of timeless massage it can also be a place of endless sensuality, self expression, company and comfort.

Beats any impersonal hotel, airbnb or website.

Just email or call to enjoy.

Colin

Tel:    250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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What to expect? – Just call ahead

Every massage experience is unique. Regardless of whether it’s a first time visit or one of many, always it will be a voyage of discovery.

For answers to questions and curiosities and to arrange a visit – just call ahead.

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

 

Imagine Realizing the Perfect Fantasy

IMAGINE REALIZING THE PERFECT FANTASY

Last year so many people wrote and called with ideas and preferences that they imagined including and experiencing when visiting.

These thoughts have been so instructive and revealing – and so much fun to explore.

In this New Year of 2019, whether you are a previous visitor or curious about a first time visit, if you have a particular thought about what you’d like to enjoy, or how to add to your experience, please email or call and share your imaginings. Whenever possible your thought can be the reality of your visit.

Tantric practice and massage provides the opportunity to share and enjoy so many fantasies, and there are so many to enjoy. The thought is always to make a more perfect visit.

The clock is turned off and the space is yours to fill.

So this year practice being true to your imagination and enjoy the energy of fantastic self expression – or simply lay back, empty your mind and relax.

Tel:         250-984-7051

Email:     co.lins@outlook.com

 

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Always Extra time

Thank you to all who have visited over the past year.

Every visit has been so memorable.

The Festive Season often brings the opportunity for some ‘Down-Time’ which, ironically, can also bring some ‘stressful’ times as well.

To all who might imagine finishing the year or starting the New Year with a visit –  you are most welcome.

The clock here is never counting elapsed time so do remember that if you need a place far from the madding shopping crowds, visits here don’t count the hours.

Stay and relax for as long as you can allow yourself to enjoy the gift of some Extra ‘Down-Time’.

Colin

Tel:   250-984-7051   Email:  co.lins@outlook.com

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Touching Insights

Today I received this email and attachment from a long time visitor.

 The attachment is thoughtful and has much in common with the expectations that so many visitors have.

 Accordingly I am very happy to post this as useful information and as something of a guide to the experiences that might be expected in a visit.

 Colin

Tel:           250-984-7051

email:     co.lins@outlook.com

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Tantric approaches

Robert <@gmail.com>

Thu 11/29/2018, 4:27 PM

Hi Colin,

It’s Robert here. I’ll be calling you soon. I’ve missed visiting.

As always I try to find other friendly providers or information that meets my preferences just as you do with your approach.

I found this experience description which seems to have so much in common with what we’ve always talked about.

I thought you might like to read this and even post it.

I hope to see you again soon.

Robert

 

 

 

 

Massage thoughts
I have never been inclined to advertise to the general public or to do massage in a setting such as a clinic, spa or salon. That works for some clients and therapists, and that’s all fine and dandy, but it is not for me. I feel restricted by many customs of the mainstream massage profession, and I have no desire to work within the confines of mainstream mores. I provide time mostly to males and the clients who visit tend to appreciate an experience that defies uptight mainstream conventions.

In my opinion, nakedness is requisite to a good massage experience. I find draping, either full or partial, to be a nuisance, not to mention that it interferes with the full range of the massage energy. However, there is no need for coy excuses to justify nudity. Being naked feels good and has intrinsic value, and I work in the nude unless a client is uncomfortable with that. Not only are you free to be naked, you are free to be totally unselfconscious about the appearance of your naked body. Our culture seems hell-bent on making people feel bad about their bodies, and that is amplified in the media subculture, unfortunately. My clients come in all shapes, sizes and ages. I treat all my clients with the same sense of decency, dignity and humanity.

There is a natural sensuality to my approach. I am not shy about touch. Yes, arousal is common. I’m cool with that. I am comfortable with the fact that my clients are sexual creatures and that full-body touch can be quite stimulating. However, I do want to make clear that my sessions are very much about sexual energy in the broadest terms. It is possible to channel sensual/erotic energy throughout your entire body to enhance the experience of being touched everywhere and in allowing an overwhelming preoccupation with a desire for rapid sexual climax the full potential of a sensual massage can be lost.

There is an unfortunate dichotomy in massage culture in which “legitimate” massage and “sensual” massage are polarized, and implicit in this dichotomy is the notion that nudity and sexuality are illegitimate. This schism is an artificial creation of our sexually backward society. Think of massage as a great painting such as Michelangelo’s “Creation of Adam.” (Adam is, of course, naked.) The ethics of professional massage associations require the equivalent of placing a big black box over Adam’s genitals. For some schools and practitioners this black-box concept is taken to an extreme, so imagine Adam with all erogenous zones blacked out, including his inner thighs, belly, nipples and butt (okay, his butt is not visible in the actual painting, but you get the idea). On the other end of the spectrum, think of the massage you see advertised as an adult service, usually by practitioners with dubious credentials and hokey, insulting names like “Rod’s HotRub4U.” This is sort of like manipulating the “Creation of Adam” in Photoshop, zooming in on and enlarging the area around Adam’s genitals and deleting the rest of the painting altogether. Either way, you’re getting a bastardized version of the painting and missing out on its full beauty. It is my hope that my massage transcends labels manufactured by those who fear the human body and gives my clients the whole picture.

 

Holistic Approach: Integrating Sensuality and Erotic Energy
In my line of work, issues of eroticism and sensuality seem to be at the forefront of the minds of many of my potential clients. First of all, if you’ve ever wondered what the difference is between a sensual massage and an erotic massage… well, so have I. Most of the attempts I have read to somehow define either term run the gamut from specious to absurd. I tend to use the words “sensual” and “erotic” interchangeably to refer to man’s capacity for arousal, just so you know, and I hope I can challenge you to think outside the box of society’s default assumptions about these highly subjective and loaded words.

When I am confronted with the question Do you offer erotic massage? a big red flag goes up in my mind. It is not because I’m a prude. Far from it. I actually believe that erotic energy is quite vital to my work. (Think about it: you’re lying on a table naked with someone’s hands on your body. I think there is a degree of eroticism inherent in such a situation.) However, I know that my idealized notions of erotic energy as it pertains to massage do not necessarily gel with everyone else’s notions, and I am keenly aware that many of those who purport to be seeking an “erotic massage” are really looking for an experience that involves little or no massage at all. Going to a massage therapist for sex is akin to going to an orthodontist to have him brush your teeth.

The term “erotic massage” is one that I think should be reclaimed from those who have made it synonymous with escort work, but as it is I eschew the term in advertising because too many people extrapolate that “erotic massage” means “nothing but erotic.” I choose to describe my integration of therapeutic massage and erotic energy as a “holistic” approach to massage, if you’ll indulge me that rather New Age-y neologism. The actual manipulation of muscular tissue that defines massage is the meat and potatoes of what I do. Sensual/erotic energy, ideally, should be an undercurrent that heightens one’s receptiveness to therapeutic touch.

The most understandable definition of holistic I have found is this American Heritage Dictionary version: “Emphasizing the importance of the whole and the interdependence of its parts.” Holistic is the adjective form of holism, which is–to give a concise but oversimplified explanation–the idea that a whole is somehow more than the sum of its parts. Don’t worry. I’m not trying to get all metaphysical on you. But consider this: in a purely clinical approach to massage, you’re most likely covered in draping, and the therapist is probably trying to consciously avoid getting too close to your erogenous zones. It can still be a satisfying experience in the hands of someone who is skilled at addressing your areas of tension, and you may leave feeling like your muscles have received much-needed attention. But let’s get rid of that draping, increase the range of the strokes and regard your body as a whole with nothing zoned off. That kind of approach, in my opinion, makes a body feel so much more alive and adds a synergy to the experience that makes it infinitely more fulfilling than the undrape/ massage-but-don’t-get-too-close-to-anything-naughty/ re-drape approach. In my idea of a holistic approach, the therapist doesn’t fear the fact that the client may become aroused at various times during the session.

If I were to distinguish between a holistic approach and an erotic approach to massage, I would say that a holistic approach recognizes that sensual and erotic feelings are a natural, valid part of the experience. However, an exclusively erotic approach may be one that seeks to exploit a body’s capacity for arousal at the expense of the therapeutic benefits of massage. (Keep in mind that I have simply co-opted the term holistic as a means of challenging what I see as the erroneous notions inherent in the purely therapeutic versus purely erotic dichotomy. Other massage practitioners who use the term holistic may have an entirely different take on the word.)

I think the reason the term “holistic” appeals to me is because it takes the pressure off the need for the session to be self-consciously erotic. I don’t relate to massage practitioners who offer an “erotic” version for an increased charge. I’m not sure I understand what they are factoring into or out of their various incarnations of a massage. The erotic element of my work is not something that is a deliberate addition to a more generic version. I do massage the way I feel it should be done, and for me erotic energy is intrinsic to it.

And to get attuned to that facet, imagine this scenario: You stumble upon a hidden beach in an idyllic location on the perfect summer day. You strip off every thread of your clothing, run naked into the blue-green water and play in the gentle surf, feeling wonderfully unencumbered and maybe just slightly mischievous. Exhausted but exhilarated, you emerge from the water and collapse onto the pure white sand and just lie there, relishing the warmth of the sun and the slight coolness of the breeze all over your bare body. You close your eyes and listen to the waves, with no particular urge to do anything but luxuriate in the moment. There is an element of eroticism and sensuality in such a scenario, but it is not about a libido in overdrive. It is more about feeling your body everywhere and savoring the heightened sensitivity of your skin that comes with being naked, relaxed and free. This little trip to the beach represents the frame of mind that allows you to get the most out of what I offer.

Continuing with the beach analogy: This time, think of a sandy beach as a metaphor for the massage. When I touch you, I do so without fear and without attempts to censor zones of your body. Arousal is a natural consequence. With the right frame of mind and set of expectations, arousal can come as a series of waves. Some waves are bigger than others, but these waves wash over the beach and then recede. If you become attuned to this wave mentality, then you are channeling erotic energy, and that is vital to sustaining the massage. I don’t mean for this to sound esoteric. Concepts like this are hard to put into words. But if I were to coin a mantra for channeling erotic energy, it would be this: let it come, let it go, let it be. You don’t need to disguise or be embarrassed by your arousal. You also don’t need to start humping the table. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the sensations you are feeling that moment. Don’t think about five minutes from now. In fact, try not to think at all.

Incidentally, after one to two hours of channeling erotic energy, you may feel a need to release some of that energy. I’m cool with that.

 

I try my best to create an atmosphere conducive to a great massage, but some things are beyond my control. Here are a few things I’ve found work so well.

Allow yourself to relax completely. If I lift your arm or leg, I’m going to support it. There is no need to assist the movement. I know that some people (including me) have trouble letting go like this when they are on the table. That’s okay. I realize that it is counterproductive and makes people self-conscious to demand that they relax. Just be aware that you have the option of letting go and that you will benefit more from the massage if you do.

Feel free to communicate with me. Sometimes I can tell from body language if I need to make adjustments, but I don’t have ESP. Don’t endure something if it hurts. Tell me. Also, if you feel overall that my touch is too firm or too light, let me know during the session.

Allow yourself to zone out. There is a state of consciousness about halfway between being completely awake and being asleep that is ideal for receiving massage. I realize that most people do not want to fall asleep and miss the sensations of touch, but you will not be in an optimally receptive state if you are fully alert. Close your eyes and relish the rare opportunity of doing nothing but receiving touch.

 

 

 

Message of Thanks

Message of ThanksB

It’s time to thank the many readers of this blog who write emails describing their personal experiences with touch, massage, ritual and Tantra.

Often emails speak of personal voyages of self discovery. Often they speak of the successful actualization of thoughts and imaginings through the very personal interactions that Tantric practice can provide.

I try to respond to all communications and have had the pleasure of reading so many constructive thoughts and ideas.

In this process I’m often invited to post and share emails to this blog. So I’ve saved many communications with the intention of posting them.

Here’s one from a writer who provides thoughts that many might find familiar.

His experience, while personal to him, might be an inspiration to many who can imagine there are safe and comfortable experiences available.

Colin

 

From: xxxxxxx@gmail.com
Subject: Surprising and relaxing

Hello Colin,

Its unlikely I’ll ever get to visit you because I’m south of our shared border in Chicagoland. But I do read your blog and wish you would post more frequently.

I’ve become a tantric massage addict recently and reading the internet links I think I’m not alone and maybe my experiences will be helpful to others. I hope that you might publish my thoughts or I’ll have to start my own website.

I’m a retired professional gentleman in my late 60s. I’ve raised a family in the midwest and my wife and I have successfully downsized our lives. I can’t say that we have any special relationship problems but our interests have diverged over the years. I’d say we’re comfortable living companions but no longer sexual. I have always been respectful of my wife and family so have never had to hide serious secrets.

A year ago I slipped on some ice and damaged my back. It wasn’t serious and is now healed but at the time our doctor suggested I get some sports massage which would ease the discomfort.

I visited a massage practitioner and he introduced me to the world of deep tissue and sports massage. At first the visits were quite uncomfortable as he dealt with my not so serious injury. Then as I healed I began to find that I was enjoying the table time more than I was comfortable with. I had never sought massage treatments in my life and massage parlors would never have been on my radar. After the scheduled sports massages, though I found myself thinking about the touch of the practitioner and I must admit to becoming slightly confused about how much I would miss the visits when the session schedule ended and whether I could find something to replace it. The visits were always professional in nature. My wife is not strong enough to provide massage and I didn’t want to bother her with my thinking.

I took to the internet to learn more and after looking at the endless dubious massage services I found that the tantric term appeared quite frequently. I think thats when I might have first seen your site but there were others. In my searching I found a guy quite local to me who advertised massage for relaxation. My sports prescription had ended and although my back was mostly now ok I became quite focused on finding something to fix my need for touch. Parlors were out and there seemed no harm in contacting for a relaxation massage from a professional guy.

I made an appointment one cold afternoon at a suburban house. I was welcomed into a living room with a familiar massage table. The room seemed to be much less clinical than the room of my sports therapist. The space was certainly not threatening in any way and I’d become used to some of the massage protocols in my sports visits so I assumed something similar but less clinical. This is where my new experiences began I think.

I’ll refer to the practitioner as Brian. A very peaceful man in his 40s. After introducing himself and waiting for me to adjust to the room, take off my coat etc. I was invited to take a seat which was an armchair and explain my expectations while Brian listened. I remember telling him about my accident and massage treatment and I said that further relaxing massage might help as a self prescribed complete cure. I also told him that I found that my preference was for a male practitioner. As I talked I found myself beginning to anticipate the table time ahead in a way that hadn’t happened with my sports practitioner.

Brian said that he understood as much of the background as he needed to and that this would be a different experience because normally relaxation massages were more complete than sports or chiropractic. He invited me to use the shower, which I declined, and he left the room after telling me to undress and get onto the table. I put my clothes on the armchair and wrapped a towel, that Brian had left on the table, around me and climbed onto the table face down.

Brian soon returned although I couldn’t see him being face down. He turned on some quiet music and began a massage of my lower back and then to my shoulders. He used some oil and soon it began to occur to me that this was a very different experience from the sports massage. I found my mind wandering and into thoughts far from the reality of the day.

Brian didn’t remove the towel when he started on my legs but as he moved to my thighs the towel did get in the way. He asked if he could remove it to massage my butt and I happily murmured yes.

The massage continued as you might expect and I experienced it very sensually especially when I turned over, declining the towel as covering. Now I had a view of Brian, who was working shirtless. I found the combination of the touch of the massage and Brian’s appearance very arousing and although Brian did everything to slow me down the involuntary personal aspect of the massage was completed rather quickly.

Brian completed the massage for another 30 minutes I recall and I found myself completely relaxed and walking on air.

I used the shower and we talked for a while after I dressed. Since then I have returned to Brian quite frequently and feel more relaxed than I have for a long time.

Here’s the message you might like to take from this. I’ve found a safe and relaxing way to enjoy touch which is no longer available to me at home. I’ve been in good company and have made a new friend. Although I’ve always considered myself attracted to the opposite sex I’ve realized that I can completely enjoy the touch and company of a male in this context and I’ve come to appreciate the sensual and sexual potential of males in the same way that I’ve understood female attraction. I enjoy the company and the discretion and I will be enjoying my visits to Brian as far as I can see into the future.

It was a leap of faith for me to engage more of myself in this way and I would encourage any person who finds their ability to relax overwhelmed by routine, to find safe ways to enjoy whatever touch they can.

Hope this helps somebody.

John in Chicago

Tantric Triggers

Tantric Triggers

For those who find themselves on the Tantric path, new questions arise all the time.

Tantric practice is about relaxation of the mind and body and a Tantric approach to mindful relaxation often gives access to energies within that are often suppressed.

Sexual energy, for many, is the most deeply buried energy, and Tantric practice seeks to uncover that treasure. While buried within us, without outlet, sexual energy is a stressor which can be the source of many imbalances.

The purpose of Tantric practice is to heighten awareness of sexual energy and to balance mind and body. A first step is to begin to experience underused senses and how they can relate to sensual and sexual awareness.

Such practice can deliver deep relaxation of the mind and a heightened sense of relaxed well-being. The initial routes – always safe, sane and consensual –  are often through visual and touch stimulation.Tantric massage can provide incredibly exciting experiences, so much so that many people seek to move even further along the Tantric path and to enjoy this state of relaxation as part of their day to day lives.

But what is the next step after learning to appreciate how to receive and enjoy Tantric touch?

In heightening sensory awareness Tantric practice can begin to powerfully introduce sexual energy into the conscious mind. If that energy previously existed primarily in subconscious awareness, Tantra seeks to bring it more frequently into the conscious mind. This can be thought of as ‘mindful awareness’ and it is at that level that we can begin to integrate conscious Tantric sensuality with conscious sensual awareness. The reward is a reduction in daily mental stress as sexual energies become balanced and integrated with rational consciousness.

This endeavor is not as easy as might be imagined. In Tantric massage and related experiences the receiver is mostly passive, relaxing in the receipt of touch and reaching out to amplify and enhance that touch.

In ‘mindful awareness’ the Tantric purpose is to become a more active participant in creating the rise in energy and identifying and consciously promoting the relaxation ‘triggers’ that prompt the rise in sensual and sexual energy.

This level of participation in sensual and sexual exploration can be daunting at first but does bring entry into a world of previously unrealized consciousness. It begins to place sensual and sexual energy in a mindful consciousness that can be available 24/7 – not just on days when a Tantric massage or ritual session is available.

‘Tantric triggers’ are the switches or ‘turn-ons’ which are unique to each of us. Broad triggers could be visual, tactile, imaginary, taste-centered etc. Within those possibilities we each use imaginative energy to raise sexual/sensory consciousness.

The first step in a Tantric approach to ‘triggers’ is to recognize, consciously, what we are thinking and enjoying. Normally such thoughts can be allowed to surface, momentarily, from the subconscious in order to ‘enjoy the sexual and sensual moment’. In Tantra the goal is to ‘hold that thought’.

By becoming more conscious of the detail of such energy it can be recalled and given it its rightful place in the conscious mind.

The biggest initial hurdle is to overcome the perceived vulnerability that such consciousness raising requires. For many it is not easy to acknowledge the seemingly strange ‘turn on triggers’ that can be so powerful. We might know that we have always been turned on by particular body parts or characteristics but beyond disclosing an interest in socially acceptable ‘norms’, we can feel less inclined to disclose or seek the stimulation of preferences which might be thought of as ‘weird’ or ‘fetish’. So, often, that interest is kept secret, within within an individual.

Tantra looks to encourage enjoying that subconscious interest and energy so that it can become part of the conscious, relaxed mind and body.

There are many approaches in Tantra to reaching these levels of self-awareness. Massage and ritual can help.

So, for any who feel there are levels of subconscious energy that could be enjoyed – take the risk to talk further about these approaches.

Colin

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Differences & Distinctions

Often a question is asked about the difference between Tantric massage, relaxing massage, full body massage, erotic massage, therapeutic massage etc.

In truth it is likely that there are as many definitions and answers as there are practitioners. Still, it’s a fair question.

Definitions and descriptions of massage ‘techniques’ e.g. Swedish, Lomi Lomi, Thai, Reiki etc. can easily be researched and described definitively but defining ‘relaxing’ in massage is more subjective.

Any relaxing massage experience is hopefully designed to be a pleasant experience, but what of the question defining the descriptions of full body – relaxing – erotic – Tantric. Isn’t it all the same?

Happily it is normal to experience a relaxing massage as an erotic experience even if it’s not ‘full body’. Simple touch, in the right circumstance can be incredibly and surprisingly erotic. Certainly a ‘full body’ relaxing massage, is likely to result in an erotic experience.

Tantric massage sessions tend to be longer than simple full body relaxation massage. Perhaps Tantric massage is best defined as a shared journey, where natural energy and reactions are mutually enjoyed by both receiver and giver.

There is always a ‘safe landing’ and the effects of the experience can last for many days afterwards.

In Tantric massage the experience is always about the journey without undue focus on the destination. Relaxation massage, erotic massage, full body massage, therapeutic massage, Tantric massage, combinations of all – it’s all good.

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Time & Tantra

Time & Tantra

Tantric practice encourages the idea of an ‘experience’ rather than a ‘session’, whether or not the time is in massage, ritual, discovery or any combination of Tantric practice.

Such experience is timeless – in that the experience tends to find its own unique pace and is not necessarily divided into hourly segments.

For this reason ‘clock watching’ is not part of Tantric experience. The idea is to provide an experience to relax the mind and body and thereby raise physical consciousness and heighten awareness. How this develops in any individual will be unique to the moment and certainly the benefit can be defeated by watching the clock too closely. That’s not to say that time constraints are not a reality to be respected at times. Just that experiences, short or long, need not necessarily be measured by the clock.

If Tantric practice requires anything from followers, those requirements, at least, are an open and curious mind and a generosity of spirit. So we always approach experiential time with generosity not measured by hours and minutes.

Sometimes the experience will last long – other times it maybe shorter.  Always, though, it will be a unique experience – never a ‘timed session’.  We don’t always have to make the massage ‘run on time’!

Colin

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Sticky Labels, Fantasy & Happy Places

MassageOilOne of the most common barriers in seeking peace of mind is the construction of a fence of labels in the mind.

These labels are often simply flimsy figments of  imagination, ready to be blown away with a puff of positive energy.

Often, potential peace of mind is denied by imagining and internalizing a self identity – a label that seems to fit in a personal universe.

But are the labels really useful and a best fit? If there are too many mismatches it can be uncomfortable to exist in the world. Since it’s more difficult to change the world than it is to change a few psychic assumptions, Tantric practice works on taking  thoughts to more productive and happier places – and so to greater peace of mind.

Tantra deals with personal energy and life forces. Conscious energy and involuntary energy.

The strongest of these energies is sexual energy and the labeling of sexual preferences, fantasies and thoughts often creates much confusion.

Thoughts and fantasies can change, recur, renew etc., as time passes. Self images are created as a fit with what exists in any personal daily universe. The image is purposefully self created  but does not always mesh with other involuntary thoughts and fantasies.

What to do? The excluded thoughts and images just don’t go away. It’s not that those thoughts and fantasies are dangerous, unlawful or harmful to self or others. It’s just that they don’t match the self image. So, quite often the thoughts and energies are buried in the back of the mind. But they don’t cease to exist.

Such burials can be a waste of energy and can distract from a peaceful and productive existence.

Tantric practice and massage can help to resurrect and  find a useful place for such buried energy. It can find a map to hidden treasures – the acceptance of self, and greater peace of mind.

Tantric practice is about the conscious and enjoyable control of the energies that inevitably play in the mind and body. Always the most powerful and fascinating of those energies is sexual energy. It is disabling to deny that fact and enabling to control and enjoy it.

The suppression and pigeonholing of thoughts can be paralyzing. Tantric practice offers the chance to safely explore thoughts and fantasies and to include them in real life. To make them fit with self image.

To erase some of the useless labels. To learn to enjoy some fantasies and find some happy places.

Colin

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Posing for Art – In Tantric Style

Posing for Art – in Tantric style

This email was received  from a reader in New York. It’s worth reading and she has permitted me to post it, albeit I’ve deleted her name for privacy reasons.

 

 

Subject: Your Blog
From: **********@gmail.com

Hello Colin,

You might not get many emails like this and you don’t know me but I’m a regular reader of your blog.

I might be an unusual reader because I’m a female artist and photographer. I live in New York.

I wanted to add my 2 cents to the subjects you’ve included in your blog and say that a lot of this turns out to be useful in helping me with my art.

Mostly my art is interpretation of the human form. I use everything from oil on canvass to watercolor to pen & ink. I also often use photographic images to combine. I also teach drawing and composition in private art classes. Please read on and don’t imagine this is a pitch to get you to include my pictures on your blog. Its not about that.

I’ve been a professional artist for many years and specialize in human figure work as its always appealed to me as offering the best chances to produce unique work. Every body is completely unique and ever changing and I like to capture those changes ‘in the moment’.

I have many artist friends who have the same experience as me when trying to find session models. Its not difficult to find female models to pose but not so in finding male models.

If its just me painting or a class its usually not easy to find a male who can pose, often nude, to suit the needs of the artists. I think the convention is that its easier for females to feel comfortable about posing than males. Also conventions in our modern society have tended to prefer to view the female form than the male, although I think some things are changing in regards to that statement.

Part of my difficulty might have been in my approach to what I want to portray and I’ll say how I’ve solved the problem, personally, although I know generally that I’m not alone whatever the artistic approach requires.

Early in my career I found that capturing the human form was mostly a very sterile experience especially considering the excitement that the human body can generate. Artists are usually so concentrated on their work that the actual energy of the subject often escapes. Apologies to the many who do capture the energy of their subject.

In classical works portraying nudes, the energy is often captured, somehow, and we find that shared between the sexes.

My purpose and enjoyment has been to specialize in capturing sexual energy and tension and that is not a sterile task. It means asking a model not just to pose but actually to allow themselves to be part of an energy and image that can be observed by an artist and transferred to a canvass.

That’s asking a lot of any model and particularly a male model. I’m asking someone to pose in a state of sexual awareness or arousal which is a difficult thing for many to imagine in the usual art studio atmosphere. Mostly in figure work we encourage artists and students to ignore the elephant in the room and certainly never to venture personal approval or comment about the model.

My solution to the problem occurred when I met a guy giving massage in tantric styles, mostly to other men. We got talking and I told him what I did and what the problems often were. What he told me was very similar to what’s in your blog which is that tantric experience seems to allow people to be able to get more enjoyment from the sensuality of their bodies and to enjoy themselves for longer. Also to be less inhibited without being antisocial.

I didn’t know much about tantric massage etc. but I asked the guy if he’d like to pose at a small class that I had coming up to see if his ideas worked.

He agreed and I held the session at my studio. I think there were 4 artists at different levels of skill or objective.

At the time I wanted to sketch and paint a male in a state of heightened arousal, combining the facial expression with the genital expression. That was the objective of all of us to varying degrees.

My tantric friend said he understood what I intended and delivered beautifully. He was completely confident in himself and gave the room an energy which did seem to inspire the artists.

Since then I’ve been able to invite, through my friend, many of his clients, also to pose and we’ve been able to focus and capture so much of the human form, in my opinion, in unique ways.

I’ve also come to learn more about tantra and have actually posed for a few sessions myself.

I’d say to any of your tantric readers that this is a practical use of the energy and erotic control that can be learned and that appreciation of the human form is something that should be encouraged and that sexual energy can actually be seen and experienced through the brush and canvass where the artist and model can move themselves to the same wavelength.

I hope this is of interest to you.

By the way, I should mention that as a female artist, equally curious about the male form, and the female form and all gender forms I enjoy working with all sexes.

Whatever the gender mix I say the same thing, that the model is completely deserving of our deep respect and gratitude. Its not an easy thing to reach and maintain a state of arousal in a group of people.

To all participants I say that they will themselves likely experience a sexual energy and they should use that to encourage their work. Often these sessions have given artists a very different view of sexuality in art than conventional figure sessions.

We’ve encouraged requests and positive comments and at times have posed two models at the same time. We’ve created a studio atmosphere that encourages artist/model communication. Although the standard of work necessarily varies, none in the classes are there to judge. Personally I’ll help when I’m asked. The surprising thing for me is how uniquely inspired the finished pieces so often are. Also how much more comfortable everybody is able to become with their physical selves through such uninhibited artistic interaction.

To be able to absorb so closely aspects of the human body that are often only brushed over has been most exciting for me and others.

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Performance Art & Stage Nudity

Performance Art & Stage Nudity

Many posts ago I published the following account by a photographer and artist  friend of mine. It’s a blog discussing nude performance in theatre and in the arts generally.

http://onstagenudity.blogspot.ca/  (Copy & paste this link separately to access the site without registering a Google account)

The link is entirely safe and informative. Check out the videos and further links on the site.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

Private Performance Art

My name is Kirby and I’m a performance artist, actor and photographer.

The connections in my career are joined by the thread of how other people are seeing and experiencing the world. How they react to theatre, paintings,  photography, performances etc.

I’ve traveled around the world as a performance artist working for many other artists and producers and it was fun to recently be part of the photo exhibition that Colin wrote about.

Some of my performance art work is for individuals and private home parties and Colin asked me to write something about how it works and what I do.

Shamelessly I’ll mention that I’m always for hire – almost always.

To start with I thought it would be best to make a frame of reference. You may have read about sushi restaurants where a naked person – usually female – is the table centerpiece for the food. Diners select their food placed on her body.

Then sometimes in the news are art shows where people pose as art themselves. Then there is body painting, strippers, bachelorette parties etc., and the list goes on. These are all settings where people are naked for the pleasure and curiosity of others.

What is not often mentioned is that people quite often hire performance artists to appear privately at their homes. I do this quite frequently and Colin thought it would be interesting to know about it.

In the past I’ve been hired to come to private dinner parties, be a ‘curiosity’ for romantic evenings, be an ‘object’ as an alternative to ‘web browsing’, be the table decoration for stag and staggette parties – it’s a long list and I can’t remember every type of client.

The better way to describe things is like this.

All people who ask me to visit have some important things in common. They appreciate seeing and being around naked humans, especially in unlikely settings. They enjoy erotic fantasy and they are bold enough to try and make some unique art experiences for themselves.

I act as an ‘assist’ in the private art and experience of such people. It’s not the same as hiring a stripper.

The stripper is the focus of attention – the ‘show’.

In my case I’m there to follow and be part of the fantasy of the ‘audience’ and the ‘audience’ is writing the script and directing the action. I hope that explains the distinction.

I can recall some scenarios which might give a flavor of how some things evolve.

Almost always I get invited by referral – that’s why I’m grateful to Colin for allowing me to make my existence known! –  and I get an outline of what might be planned. Otherwise I just follow instructions.

Perhaps the most common task has been to be a table centerpiece for small dinner parties. In these scenarios I’ve just been required to lie on a dinner table and the guests have served themselves from whatever and however the food has been arranged on and around me.

I’ve been prepared and dressed in every imaginable way, from briefs to leafy lettuce covering my genitals.

I don’t speak and nobody speaks to me. Usually my face is covered and so my reactions don’t disturb the flow of the party.

As people become more relaxed their comfort levels change. These are all general comments but usually at first there is much talk about having a nude male on the dinner table. It becomes the focus of attention. Then the novelty begins to wear off after all the obvious jokes have been exchanged. Initially this is much to do with the natural nerves of people. There is likely nothing that can be said that I haven’t heard and I just lie quietly. Sometimes things are said that are very funny and I have to control the desire to laugh.

As the food gets underway and wine lubricates the company, attention often moves back to the table ‘decoration’.

Often by now people will have become more daring – moving the lettuce leaf etc. I’ve been touched and prodded in every place, had chocolate licked from my toes, whipped cream licked from my nipples – all the things you can imagine and possibly not imagine.

This is all part of the ‘play’ and I’m pleased to be part of it. It’s a unique experience for all those participating and really my body is theirs for the evening, just as all of the other features – food, drink, setting – are part of the experience.

For me this is a unique and positive experience, just as I hope it is for those writing the ‘script’.

Guests have been any mix of LGBTQI combinations – couples, singles, all female, all male – I can recall just about any combo. Party size has also varied from just 3 or 4 people to larger parties. Ten guests is probably the greatest number.

Whatever the mix, at some point, usually around dessert time, somebody will always want to bring the focus back to me, having ‘accidentally’ moved the ‘lettuce’.

The rules of every event are set by the host in advance. I agree to anything ahead of time so long as it’s not painful, dangerous or too uncomfortable. It’s almost automatic that food or drink will be spilt on me. I’m usually pretty sticky by the end.

Where we’ve agreed that genital inclusion is ‘allowed’ I just go with the flow, albeit actual sex is not on the menu.  I’ve experienced bets being taken on my size when erect. I’ve been carefully stroked and lubricated with every liquid imaginable.

I’ve got good control – years of Tantric practice! – so it’s unlikely there will be ‘accidents’.

So that’s an idea of dinner party scenarios.

Equally likely are scenarios where I’m asked just to be around when a client wishes to host some visitors at home.

I’ve been asked to be just a ‘dumb’ body among small groups of people. I’ve been dressed in all type of outfits. I’ve been ‘made-up’, cross dressed, used as furniture, used to serve food and drinks etc.

Always I am just a ‘prop’ and a device to make the event interestingly erotic. So I contribute nothing but my agreement to follow the ‘script’. I never know exactly how it will unfold.

The general likelihood is that my body will be on hand for whatever preference and fantasy the host or guests have in mind. So I’ve been dressed, undressed, painted, watched, bathed, dirtied – whatever has seemed fun.

One thing that always surprises me is that there never seems to be a limit to the fetish imagination of people and my presence is an ideal chance for many to play out their fetish fantasy. Being ‘dumb’, there is the assurance that I’m not judging or commenting.

Painful, penetrative and dangerous play are not options but short of that I’ll try to please. There are the obvious attentions to genital and anal areas but there is rarely a problem with somebody wanting to go beyond the artistic or erotic.

Often, but not always, a guest or host will get naked or dress in fetish or unusual ways. It’s great to see people with the opportunity to be free to express themselves so openly in such safe circumstances.

I’ll mention two other categories. I often get asked to attend either a single person or a couple seeking to explore a fantasy.

A common theme has me just being in the home almost as a piece of decoration or furniture. Almost always I’m asked to be naked and I become a sort of ‘touchstone’. Something to place in a spot in the room, put your feet up on, play with, dress, undress etc. Somebody once said to me that it was like having a Ken/Barbie available in real life.

These become very private experiences and do qualify as performance art. I remain passive and responsive, always remaining part of the script – never writing it. I’ll certainly give guidance before but otherwise I just happily lend my body.

Not every ‘script’ needs to be overtly sexual. It can be sensual/erotic/playful etc. But there is nothing wrong with the ‘script’ being particularly sexual either.

I’m often a ‘distraction’ during TV commercials if I’m hired to be somebody’s ‘art’ for the evening and being used as eye/fantasy material.

On many occasions with couples – m/f, m/m/ and f/f I’m there to satisfy curiosity and explore comparisons.

Sometimes my sponsor has been a female who wants to encourage her mate to become more familiar with the body of another male. To mutually enjoy same gender erotic fantasies.

I’ve had f/f couples who want to add some safe male energy to their erotic ‘play’ and appreciation.

Of course I frequently become the ‘muse’ of other males and it’s great to find myself a passive inspiration.

These recollections and reflections are incomplete. There have been so many variations on these themes.

For me, every occasion is an adventure in art. In enabling artistic fantasy in this way I lend my body, passively – a sort of canvass for others to paint on.

Personally I’m completely comfortable to be seen naked and to open the more intimate parts of my body to those inviting me. The purpose of art is to open the mind to the unexpressed and performance art and times spent in these ways does exactly that.

I don’t publish pictures of myself or advertise. I’m healthy and, I’m told, pleasing to look at, but this isn’t about me or my appearance. It’s about the very unusual and exceptional opportunity to bring a private form of art, alive.

If any of this connects with you then call or write to Colin and he’ll give you my contact information.

I do know some other performers if I’m not around and Colin’s got a list of names.

I know he’s done some similar work himself, also.

Let your imagination loose. You’ll never regret it.

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Tantra, Fetish & Kink

Tantric Fetish & Kink

Tantric massage can often be an experience of connecting the mind to the body..

The pace of life today often seems to block consciousness of the pleasure of physical sensations. Consciousness of self, as an erotic being, can be at risk.

Tantric massage and touch can re-awaken erotic consciousness and Tantric Practice is very much about heightening erotic physical and mental awareness.

Within the Tantric experience, massage, perhaps, has the broadest appeal, but the opportunity also exists to delve deeper into Tantric sensation potentials.

As the mind begins to make more space for sensual and erotic stimulation, and as mental and physical awareness is heightened, the imagination of the erotic begins to challenge the physical body – thoughts of making fantasies into realities.

Within Tantric Practice it is possible to raise the sensitivity and expand the erogenous potentials of the body.

Over time body and mind become more conscious of erotic potential and imagination begins to expand horizons. More fantasy can enter the door of consciousness that Tantric Practice has opened, enabling opportunities to actualize fantasies.

Actualization of erotic imagery is often described, sometimes quite dismissively, as ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’. But imagination should not be dismissed so easily.

Kinks and fetishes are entirely Tantric and are as valuable and valid as any part of erotic imagination.

It’s often difficult to discuss particular ‘turn-ons’, imagining that such thoughts are outside of a Tantric experience. The truth is that actualization of erotic imagery, however ‘kinky’ or ‘fetish’ it might seem, (with the obvious exceptions of activity that is not lawful, sane, safe or consensual) is welcomed in Tantra and is regarded as the positive product of sensual and erotic imagination. Where actualization needs to happen with a partner, the participation of a guide in Tantric Practice can be the perfect solution.

To all who enjoy the world of Tantric Practice and massage, feel welcome to share thoughts about actualizing fantasies and finding comfort in every experience.

Colin

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ACTUALIZING FANTASY

New Year Resolution:

Make your Fantasies your Realities – It’s never too late!

Explore the pleasures of Mind and Body – and break all barriers of discrimination.

A Happy Ending

Happy Ending….

‘…..I looked around, enjoying being reminded that we were all naked and having fun, combined with some useful intent. I took a deep breath again and allowed my arousal to be free and settled on my back on the table. Julia propped my head with a pillow and I prepared for what I imagined would be the more complicated part of interpreting the spa rules.’

My ‘flip’, as Julia professionally referred to it, was text-book, apparently. The spa had rules in place to anticipate my aroused condition and Julia talked through them for my information and for her practice. There couldn’t be any manual stimulation. Jeffery was going to give her some tips how she might expand her personal practice within the rules. At the time not much of this plan mattered to me.

The spa protocol was to pay no attention to the aroused member and make small talk while quickly draping the naked client.

Julia completed the draping protocol effectively and completely. I felt the draft of the sheet against my skin and its settling onto my torso and legs. My erection was maintaining and I also felt the weight of the sheet against the tip of my cock.

I knew I was leaking evidence of my arousal and that the fluid must be marking the spot on the sheet – the truest of wet spots.

In the context of this massage among friends I guessed this didn’t matter but as a characteristic of spa experience Jeffery brought it to Julia’s attention. She said that such obvious discharge happened often with aroused male clients and that she regarded it as a signal to be respectful of the client’s immediate sensitivities. Her understatement didn’t go unnoticed by any of us.

She progressed the massage over the sheet, briefly manipulating from my shoulders to my feet. The views that I had of her naked form combined with the sensations of touch did nothing to diminish my arousal. I could feel the fluid release absorbing on the sheet and continuing to shift against the tip of my cock.

Julia returned her attention to my chest and torso, having finished her brief trip to my legs and feet. She pulled back the sheet far enough to reveal my chest, torso and belly but still covering my pubic and genital region. My cock now supported an extra layer of sheet as it was doubled up and further covered my lower half. Happily I remained solid enough to support the extra weight – not difficult with my, by now, almost permanent erection.

My uncovering revealed the unusual creature tattoo inked close to my nipple. Stephen had described my tattoos but this was her first opportunity to examine this one. She said that spa protocol allowed comment and conversation about any revealed body modification and she said that it seemed a happy creature living a fascinating life on my chest, sharing the pleasures of my nipple. The attention moved my erection, and as I looked up at Julia’s naked breasts my world seemed entirely comprised of nipples!

Julia began massage to my chest, using a combination of light and deeper touch. By now my nipples seemed to be alight with energy that was traveling directly to my cock. As her hands and movements progressed down my body toward my belly I found myself tempted to reach out to touch Julia but she was skilled in using her movement to avoid my reach.

She spoke a commentary, intended mostly for Jeffery, that described what she was doing and how, at this point she felt quite sympathetic towards her very often, very aroused clients.

Jeffery told her to continue as she was for the time being.

Having completed a tour of my torso and belly – dangerously close to my solid, sheet covered cock, she moved out of my field of vision, toward my feet and uncovered my legs and thighs as far as my upper thigh. My cock and genital area remained sheeted.

I enjoyed the massage of my feet and legs exquisitely, and as progress was made toward my thighs.

Julia had been using a light oil throughout and her hands moved confidently and carefully over my exposed skin and muscle. I’m cutting short most of the massage experience description. Be certain it is one of the most memorable hours of my life.

Arrival at my upper thighs caused Julia to stop and ask Jeffery, now, for guidance. Her questions were about remaining within the spa protocols and at the same time providing true relief for clients who may be ‘stressed’ – as I clearly was!

Jeffery said that he had developed approaches which pleased everybody. He reminded that she had used the ‘thigh grip’ in the first stage of the massage when I was face down. He advised her to use this approach again. She pushed one side of the covering sheet further over my genitals, exposing entirely my upper thigh and threaded her arm around my thigh. I felt her upper arm against my genitals as she increased the squeeze to my thigh. In releasing now she was able to manipulate my thigh with her fingers, carefully reaching deeply into my crotch but without deliberate contact with my cock or balls. My erection remained covered but could hardly have been unseen.

Julia moved to the other side and repeated the process once my thigh had been exposed. The sheet now covered only my genital area and I felt the rest of it resting between my legs and on the table below my balls.

At this point Julia appealed to Jeffery for advice. How could she deal with this clear need to complete the touch and remain within the rules? I was certainly as desperate for an answer as much as she was – maybe she was more curious than desperate.

Jeffery said that the spa rules allowed clients to be naked in the process of getting on or off the table prior to being draped or finishing and discarding the sheet. Further that being undraped while face down was permitted.

So technically I could remove the final cover of the sheet myself. Not all spas followed this protocol but his had that flexibility. So Julia could tell me that I could discard the sheet now, prior to stepping down from the table.

Jeffery said that there was no rule that Julia could not converse further with me, uncovered, as I prepared to leave the table. She could enquire how I felt – loose, tight, relaxed etc. and she could engage the client’s answers.

During this closing conversation there was no rule that could compel her not to look at the genital area, Jeffery said. As he advised her I remained exposed, naked and hopelessly hard.

Stephen was obviously enjoying my situation, remarking, with fake sympathy, that he was sure that Jeffery would think of something.

Now Jeffery said that we entered into a grey area but one which had worked, seemingly, within their protocol. He noted that Julia might have left her oil bottle by the other side of the table. She hadn’t this time but at their spa there was a small table, apparently, beside the massage table upon which the practitioner could leave oils, etc. while working. It was OK for Julia to reach across to retrieve a bottle or other item rather than walking around the table.

Jeffery suggested she reach across me to collect an item from this small table, excusing herself as she did so. It might be, he said, that her body makes contact with a client’s genital area – even an erect penis. It might be that in extending her reach across the client she loses balance or has to extend further.

At this point she can apologize and recover herself or remain extended across him, according to whether the client seems comfortable or particularly uncomfortable with the circumstance.

In the situations where there is no discomfort indicated – always in his experience – the body contact may well result in rapid ejaculation. In such an event she can assist the client, if he desires, in wiping the ejaculation etc.

Jeffery said that although the procedure seemed contrived it remained with their rules that practitioners should not use hands to massage for sensual genital stimulation. He was always hopeful that one day the rules would become more sensible. In the meantime this worked for him.

So Julia reached across me for an imaginary oil bottle. I felt her smooth torso against my cock and my precum lubricating the contact. I realized that this time, in our private setting, she was naked but that normally her midriff would be bare anyway.

She went a little further than she might in the spa setting and squirmed a little in her encouragement of my arousal.

I almost immediately felt the most intense, involuntary climax and ejaculation onto Julia’s body. She felt it too and made no attempt to move as I felt the fluid spread between our bodies.

Julia said afterwards that the experience was extremely intense for her, also.

Of course she had to separate from me and stood up to reveal an area of cum on my belly and on her torso.

Jeffery and Stephen humorously applauded and congratulated both of us. I offered the shower but Julia said that we could wait. Just enjoy the sensation of completion.

I moved myself off the table and Stephen, Jeffery and Julia seated themselves on the floor where I joined them.

Both Jeffery and Stephen were as aroused as I had been. Julia joked that there was no way she was repeating the massage for them, if that’s what they were hoping – they weren’t of course – but that Jeffery’s guidance was everything that she needed.

We continued with an increasingly intimate conversation and Jeffery shared many of his thoughts about his enjoyment of X dressing and sensuality. I learned so much.

Julia and Jeffery were very complimentary about my tattoos – now completely visible – and we talked body modification.

Stephen and Jeffery certainly deserved relief, and in front of Julia and myself, masturbated each other to climax. It was very erotic and an event which I hope to recall more completely one day.

After this display of mutual masturbation Julia said that she’d found the time no less arousing than we had and that sometimes it’s forgotten that women are just as stimulated, so she was going to complete her climax as well. She said that she would enjoy it if we watched her and opened her legs to reveal her own arousal. Given that she was so perfectly shaved her entire area was beautifully visible. Jeffery massaged her feet as we sat on the floor – he knew her body – as she digitally stimulated herself to climax. A great ending.

Stephen has told me that Julia and Jeffery are continuing to build a strong client base at the hotel spa – no complaints. I’m hoping to make a visit myself soon and that we’ll all get together again soon.

I’m still at the apartment with Stephen a few doors down. We’re having so much fun and have become great friends, sharing so many new experiences, now.

 More another time.

 

 

 

 

The Deepest Massage & Touch Experiences

THE DEEPEST MASSAGE & TOUCH EXPERIENCES –

 Always are Voyages of Arousal and Discovery.

The very personal experience of enjoying Tantric Touch and Massage is always enhanced when combined with a desire to explore existing boundaries and comfort levels.

A safe and reassuring way to begin is to explore past experiences and imagine future experiences – in other words:  Heightening Personal Sensual Awareness.

With this objective a protected questionnaire follows this posting. The questions are explicit and your answers will be self revealing – shared only with yourself.

To view the questionnaire, simply email a request for the password.

Colin

Tel: 250-984-7051

Email: co.lins@outlook.com

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Tantra, True Self & Reality

Tantra, True Self & Reality

 Today we assume multiple masks and identities – real and virtual. From internet identities that hide our real selves from the world, to different personas for work, home and leisure, we must increasingly juggle our user names, masks and realities. With all this identity juggling there is a risk of losing the connection with ‘true self’.

For many the inclusion of Tantric practice, as a private and regular component of ‘real life’, can be the connection that supports and maintains consciousness of ‘true self’. It’s a connection that can provide unique opportunities to interact on the very personal and physical levels that are often rare or impossible in other day to day or virtual contexts.

Tantric practice, through touch and personal interaction, allows the safe, comfortable, fun and enjoyable removal of the masks that hide ‘true self’. At the same time it preserves and creates the opportunities and freedoms that can come with renewed self discovery, and the happier energies hiding behind our preferred disguises.

For the chance to re-imagine and rediscover feel most welcome to call, share and visit.

 

Colin

250-984-7051

Co.lins@outlook.com

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Stephen’s Massage Model

relaxHere’s the first part of the conclusion to the massage experience emailed by my reader:

‘…………..Jeffery said it was now time to ‘get to work’ and that I should get onto the table. I climbed on, face down, adjusting my still erect cock between the table and my belly. I could feel the leaked pre-cum against my skin and tried to distract myself to avoid any premature ejaculation. It wasn’t going to be easy and I realized that Jeffery’s purpose was very much to assist Julia in learning techniques that would assist with these energies. I began to feel that I was also going to gain much benefit from Jeffery’s instruction to Julia. 

To be continued……………..’

As I settled myself on the massage table Jeffery asked whether I was comfortable. I was. I was lying on soft towels and my face was comfortably supported by an opening in the table enabling me to lie comfortably in a face down position. I found myself looking at the hardwood floor of my apartment lounge as I lay on the table.

Jeffery said that he would hand over the direction of the massage to Julia and he would guide her in methods that would fit with the spa’s massage protocols and at the same time enable a relaxing massage. He said that the most common issue was working with clients who were sexually aroused throughout the massage. The rules didn’t permit therapists to directly acknowledge or deliberately stimulate arousal but his experience was that nearly all males found the energy and context of the massage sensually arousing. That fact had to be accepted and in a way that allowed the client to relax and the therapist to feel comfortable.

He said that this was such a good opportunity to pass on to Julia the techniques that were working for him in a ‘hands on’ and ‘explicit’ style. He added that because I was so clearly aroused I was the ideal client model for these purposes. He said that Julia would role-play her position at work. He reminded that this would be more fun than at the spa because we were all working naked. Julia normally would not be nude for the massage. He joked that the concession was in lieu of overtime. Then he handed things over to Julia.

Julia began by whispering in my ear that she hoped that I was comfortable and that she would be covering me with a sheet. As she leaned over, close to the table to whisper I could see her bare feet beneath the table as I gazed at the floor. The image and her closeness had much to do with my continued arousal and I shifted on the table, feeling myself, again, close to ejaculation.

Julia sensed my tension and moved away to find the sheet and give me time to recover control.

She immediately returned and I felt the draft of the sheet as she spread it over me. Fully draped she began quickly stroking my body over the sheet and as she stroked she displaced the sheet, exposing me once again. I experienced a powerful sensual energy as the sheet moved against my body and as Julia allowed it to drift into the space between my thighs and finally over my feet.

Now that I was once again uncovered, Julia grasped both of my feet and opened my legs to the width of the table. The touch to my feet, and re-positioning of my legs, brief as it was, was again so stimulating. I was beginning to realize how erotically stimulating this entire process would be and how important it was for therapists to be able to work with these levels of energy.

I sensed that had Julia moved away. She quickly returned and I felt warm oil being drifted over my shoulders and back, followed by Julia’s fingers confidently massaging muscles that I didn’t know I had. She progressed toward my butt, spreading the oil as she massaged. By now I was struggling to remain aware and in control of myself but as she began to work my inner thighs I found myself shifting and lifting my hips causing Julia’s fingers to momentarily touch my cock and balls.

At this point Julia said to Jeffery that she could now do with some help. My movement on the table was entirely common and very often the client would stretch out to touch her and try to encourage more intimate touch.

Julia’s question was about how to keep things on track.

attentionJeffery moved over to Julia’s side of the table and pushed down on my butt, pressing me to the table more firmly than Julia had done. When he released his pressure I found myself rising again from the table. Jeffery invited Julia to copy his move and this time I felt Julia push into my butt cheeks more firmly, returning me to more complete contact with the table. Of course I remained erect and aroused.

Jeffery said to Julia that the intent was always to find the balance between keeping the client comfortable and happy and keeping within the rules. He said the technique he uses at this point is to concentrate on each thigh, massaging the entire thigh in a hugging movement. To demonstrate he slipped his arm underneath my thigh and carefully pulled my leg into a position away from the table. The effect was to lift my hips and genital area from the table as he encircled my thigh with his arms.

As he used the pressure of his grip to knead my thigh he moved his arm grip so that his upper arm was closely pushed against my genitals and between my legs. So I experienced contact to my cock entirely in the context of the massage movement. Jeffery held this position for some time allowing me to enjoy the sensation of pushing my cock against his arm. He could feel my energy was getting close to ejaculation and released my leg, returning it to the table.

He asked Julia if she’d been able to observe and that the client – me –  had been able to make sensual and intimate contact with the therapist as part of a legitimate massage technique. He said that on occasion the move proved too powerful for the client to resist ejaculation and that there had been many times when he withdrew with the clients release on his arm. The spa rules had no problem with this ‘accidental’ client release.

He suggested to Julia to use my other thigh to practice. She moved to the other side of the table and copied Jeffery’s moves. Her grip and touch were different from Jeffery’s but just as arousing. I think the difference in their height made a difference. Julia used more of her upper body in encircling and gripping my thigh. She was quite accurate in gauging when I was getting close to releasing and returned my leg to the table before I was tipped over the edge.

The massage continued with a combination of muscle and Swedish massage touch as she moved down my legs and toward my feet. The massage to my feet was as stimulating as any of the attention I’d received so far and by now it seemed that all touch had the effect of maintaining my arousal for the longest time.

The time came to turn over. Jeffery said to Julia that in these situations it was most common for the client to be aroused and he joked that I would certainly not be an exception. He said that as a male practitioner male clients were often concerned that their erection and energy would be an ambiguous indication of their sexual orientation. His rule was always to allow any male client to feel entirely comfortable about revealing their erection to another male. It was enough that throughout the massage they had enjoyed the genital contact which, by using the thigh grip technique allowed the client to create and develop the level of contact comfort that they preferred. Some clients were not experiencing the massage sensually. That was entirely good. At this time we were concentrating on the majority who did seek to enjoy the most complete touch that the rules might allow.

Julia said that also her male clients usually were hard when they turned over and that she felt that the erections were really related to responses to the touch and spa context rather than sexual orientation. She said that now that she had the thigh grip in her repertoire she would know more about the comfort levels of the client before turning them over.

I was still face down on the table during this conversation. I was in another world. I’d completely forgotten that I was actually in my own apartment. Looking back on this visit, the power of this physical and sensual energy seems so perfect. I felt so fortunate to meet Stephen, who shared so many of my interests and thoughts, in such a convenient and fun way. I couldn’t have wished for a better neighbour.

So I turned over at Julia’s direction. Of course, in the process I suddenly reverted to my self conscious self. It’s so crazy because we’d all become very comfortable and I had spent the past hour being touched and massaged in the most intimate ways. As has happened on many occasions Stephen seemed to anticipate or notice my concern. As I turned my erection was very active and instinctively I moved my hand to cover myself. Quite absurd. Stephen joked to Jeffery and Julia that I would be a model client of propriety if I was at their spa. Julia responded that she loved seeing this – it showed that she was doing her job.

I looked around, enjoying being reminded that we were all naked and having fun, combined with some useful intent. I took a deep breath again and allowed my arousal to be free and settled on my back on the table. Julia propped my head with a pillow and I prepared for what I imagined would be the more complicated part of interpreting the spa rules.

The final massage description will follow.

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